Is It Normal?: Wanting Out Of The Relationship

Is it ok for me to cringe when my boyfriend brings up marriage and kids in the future. Its just that i dont see my self as a family person, i love kids in fact im going to be a pediatrician (odd i know). I love him, im not looking else where but i dont want him be that serious.  Most girls i know want their boyfriends to look at them as potential wives but i dont like it.

well,  seems u just aint ready. Just don't jump at it if u dont feel good about it.

I av similar challenge.My girl friend is 7yrs yonger than me&she says i must wait for another 6yrs to get married 2her.But we've reached an agreement to wait 3 instead of 6yrs.So sit/reach an agreement,if u truly love d guy,

7 years younger?
she will be calling you brother then, or even uncle     

uncalled for.
That wasnt funny at all, or maybe i just forgot to laff.

Là Topik,
sommetimes, it culd as well be abnormal,

women will always ask for more, its in their nature. There's nothing you can do to please them enough.
I sympathize with the poor guy. And the worst part of this, is that the girl will never tell this guy her fears. She will lead him on till she breaks him.The things women do!

@poster,
I guess you are a female between the ages of 18 and 23, have lived or mingled in a culture that is not yours, things going well with you and it likely you are also a pretty girl. You will agree with that 85% of other girls in your category feels same way too. Otherwise, when you will have reached like 27, 28, or 30years and probably have had good times and bad times of the intricacies invovled in jumping around with different men in the course of a relationship and tasting all the waters, you will definitely appreciate the fact that a man you love so much and have enjoyed good relationship with finally have asked for your hand in marriage! You are not ready for now marriage simple! Wondering what you are waiting for. All the same best of luck, a little wait you mght hit it off with a bigger boy, u never know!

you are right, most of them don't love the guy enough to get married to him

Well Im 27 and I feel the exact same way as the poster. In fact at 23 I so felt like I was ready to do the whole marriage thing, but it left me after a while and right now, I want to travel the world and see places and people. I feel some people are just not cut out for the whole family-scene thing even if as a woman, she might love children.
My folks always say the most important thing for any human being is to have genuine friends and strive to be happy. So getting married shouldnt be the ultimate goal for anyone. Theres more to life.
Each person has their path to follow and its never the same as the other person's path.
@Poster, Ive got a friend who's 32 and she's a pediatrician too. She loves her job and as of today is not in any mood to talk about getting married. So its not abnormal. You might even wake up in 4 yrs and decide you are ready. Or you may never want to. Theres nothing abnormal about it.
In the meantime though, dont lead a man on. Let him off.

Slighly off-topic; the poster has a point - taking into account our culture if the gap is too wide you would end up with someone who will kneeling down to greet you in the morning and calling you 'sa'. 

I do love him, i dont see why everyone is making a big deal about your age gap my parents are 11 years apart and are still together. Im glad you guys were able to compromise. My bf and i are only 3 years apart but i love him the same. I just wish i can tell him my feelings, i dont know if he would leave if he knew my feelings about this whole marriage thing

You want enjoy the benefits of marriage but you don't want it legal!

Poster:
You are suffering from "not being appreciative of having it good and not counting God's blessings for giving you someone that wants to marry you." Maybe when you leave him and  date a string of losers who only want to chop you without commitment, and you are growing old and lonely  and can't find a comparable man to your current man who wants to wife you, and another woman has taken over your current man and bore his kids, then you will be appreciative if you ever find another good man again. And YOU MAY NEVER find another one as good as him.

All these everybody must not have a family stuff girls are preaching with example are ridiculous.

Go into the lives of those who do not have kids and they do not have any partners when they are above 40 and then come back tell us.

Culture might affect some minds but it does not change nature forget about the society!

I am not selfish, at least i dont feel that way. Im not cheating on my bf or tryiing to leave him i just dont feel like getting married. He didnt ask me to marry him, he just talks about it more now than ever( maybe his family is influencing him).  Im going to be 23 the end of this year and finishing my first degree. I just feel too young to be in this predicament. Here in the States i know people who get married at 40 to their one true love after being married and divorced early in their 20s. I dont want to rush into something and then end up in a divorce because that is the thread now.