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22medinat (f)
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[size=8pt]I was dating a guy in my university days,i know he loves me no doubt about that,even his family,showed me tremendous love and warmth.We dated for two years,and we had a very big fight and broke up although it was his fault.While we were dating,i didnt have sex with him,cos i felt too young to have sex and he respected my opinions about sex. I dated another who disvirgined me but we didnt last long.we broke up after six months,i later made up with my first ex,who told me that he has forgotten about what i did and wiAll still do anything to have me and will continue to love me if i will be faithful to him.i dated him him again for about a month but the guilt of having slept with another guy other than him who always loved me kept hauntin me, i felt that it would be better to date someone fresh.i broke up with him again,am dating another guy now,but my first ex is still begging me to come back to him,his family members still call me and ask ask afeter my welfare,even his mum still calls me. the problem now is i feel if he knows that i have been and slept with with another guy,he wouldnt trust me whole heartedly again,cos he made me promise not to sleep another guy again to proof my love for him,i have broken that promise.i still have butterflies in my tommy when i speak to him, please house do you think that after all that happened,he would forget again and love me and turst me whole heartrdly.i feel he should love someone who hasnt hurt him before what do you think.can he trust me fully if i go back to him  |
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noetic15 (m)
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why are u sorry for what u enjoyed doing?  if u wanted to keep your promise u could easily have. save the poor dude an unhappy marriage/future with u. . , and tell him you have slept around. . . .let him move on and so should u. |
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POSAKOSA1 (m)
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exactly, stop sleeping around and im not judgin you
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maclatunji
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I empathise with you. Women need to realise that sex is the ultimate expression of love between a man and woman. It should be had within the ambit of marriage. Personally, I would forget you and learn to love someone else. You might ask: How can you be sure she's faithful? Well 9 out of 10 times: you do the right thing, you get the right result.
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maclatunji
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I empathise with you. Women need to realise that sex is the ultimate expression of love between a man and woman. It should be had within the ambit of marriage. Personally, I would forget you and learn to love someone else. You might ask: How can you be sure she's faithful? Well 9 out of 10 times: you do the right thing, you get the right result.
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maclatunji
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I empathise with you. Women need to realise that sex is the ultimate expression of love between a man and woman. It should be had within the ambit of marriage. Personally, I would forget you and learn to love someone else. You might ask: How can you be sure she's faithful? Well 9 out of 10 times: you do the right thing, you get the right result.
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maclatunji
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I empathise with you. Women need to realise that sex is the ultimate expression of love between a man and woman. It should be had within the ambit of marriage. Personally, I would forget you and learn to love someone else. You might ask: How can you be sure she's faithful? Well 9 out of 10 times: you do the right thing, you get the right result.
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maclatunji
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I empathise with you. Women need to realise that sex is the ultimate expression of love between a man and woman. It should be had within the ambit of marriage. Personally, I would forget you and learn to love someone else. You might ask: How can you be sure she's faithful? Well 9 out of 10 times: you do the right thing, you get the right result.
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maclatunji
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I empathise with you. Women need to realise that sex is the ultimate expression of love between a man and woman. It should be had within the ambit of marriage. Personally, I would forget you and learn to love someone else. You might ask: How can you be sure she's faithful? Well 9 out of 10 times: you do the right thing, you get the right result.
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dogzymallo
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well if u did love him u would ave stayed with him after u came back from the guy that disvirgined u. now u have gone out to sleep with another person and if another promise u marriage u will go and sleep with him too.what are u a hole pls think about ure life its better u stay on ure own and that guy loves u nomatter what uve done to him i think he will forget its u who know what u did that is disturbing ure self cause u did a bad thing .go back to him ok
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22medinat (f)
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Guys i didnt double date,its not like am a maniac so dont see me as one,i am 23years and i have had just two sexual partners,i can even count how many times i have had sex,but i know am not a saint,its just dat i still love him,its just that i dont know if he can trust me wholeheartedly cos i know that trust is an essential ingredient for a smooth relationship, from your replies it appears he cant trust me again after all.but hes still pressuring me to love him again.
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SEGXXYY (m)
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HI,I THINK U SHOULD ASK your SELF,IF U STIL LOVE THIS INNOCENT GUY,& IF U DO JUST GO AHED AND DATE HIM AGAIN. AS FR THE ISSUE OF HIM TRUSTING U AGAIN IF HE IS TRULY THE ONE BEGGING U TO COM BACK THEN HE SHOULD BE READY TO FORGIVE AND FORGET ALL THAT HAS HAPPENED IN THE PAST BESIDES NO ONE IS A SAINT COS U MAY END UP REGRETING NOT GETTING MARRIED TO THE ONE WHO LOVES U TRULY AND U TRULY LOVE. GOOD LUCK  |
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22medinat (f)
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segxxy you give me strent to go on.tanx
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oawotoye
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pls save d poor lad u dont v feelings 4 him. just leave
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tithe (m)
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My advice is dat if you love the guy, then open up to him tell him wat has happened, if he loves you to leave the past behind so be it.
But know dat u ar to be blamed, pursue virtue with virtue. Even if he decide not to, neva sleep with another else u will have another experience.
The other guys left you because u gave them.
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aaidel (m)
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See as girls behave when u are faithful to them they will feel something is missing. Dont bother going back cos no good relationship can be built on unfaithfulness let him someone else that will be faithful to him
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Rooneyboy (m)
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A very touching story , i ve actually gone through what your making your ex pass through right now, D advice i ll give u is to try your possible best to get of his sight so that he ll get use to not seeing u,secondly send him a text message y u r keeping away 4m him ,how u were de_flowered when u guys had a quarrel and let him understand that u r keeping away 4m him because u know u've disappointed him, At this point the ball will be in his own court ,wait and know his reaction(please make sure u dont call him).
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missSexy
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stop feeling guilty. it's not like u cheated on him. u guys weren't together. does he have to know about the second guy? what he doesn't know won't kill him. do u really think he has never slept with anyone else even when u guys were apart?
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tkb417 (m)
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this one wants to sample everybody for area finish b4 she settle down
waka fast abeg
na every fight dey lead to break up?
pls, leave the building
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Godmother (f)
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Guys i didnt double date,its not like am a maniac so dont see me as one,i am 23years and i have had just two sexual partners,i can even count how many times i have had sex,but i know am not a saint,its just dat i still love him,its just that i dont know if he can trust me wholeheartedly cos i know that trust is an essential ingredient for a smooth relationship, from your replies it appears he cant trust me again after all.but hes still pressuring me to love him again.
Girl, life is too sort for you to waste it worrying over whether he would still trust you or not. If you want to be sure if he still will sit him downn and discuss things with him. Its not like you've been distributing yourself to every Tom , privates and Harry. The fact should be that you both still love each other. |
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melesky (m)
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Sometimes i wish many girls were like you! Sincere and honest. my only advise is that you pray about it then follow your heart.Good luck  |
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Shola2009 (m)
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this one wants to sample everybody for area finish b4 she settle down
waka fast abeg
na every fight dey lead to break up?
pls, leave the building
lol,    |
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22medinat (f)
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@shola not every fight leads to a breakup ,many fights did, @ Godmother,i ahve told him and he still want me back A very touching story , i ve actually gone through what your making your ex pass through right now, D advice i ll give u is to try your possible best to get of his sight so that he ll get use to not seeing u,secondly send him a text message y u r keeping away 4m him ,how u were de_flowered when u guys had a quarrel and let him understand that u r keeping away 4m him because u know u've disappointed him, At this point the ball will be in his own court ,wait and know his reaction(please make sure u dont call him).
I have not seen him in two and half years but he is calling and asking to come back |
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Lord_Reed (m)
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U have to tell him about the sex tin b4 u can go back. Cos if u go back n he later finds out he may begin to hate u. Let him know up front wat he is getting and dat way he will be able to decide if he still wants u dat way. It's a chance u have to take n know if his love for u is as strong as he claims.
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missSexy
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i would not advise her to tell him anything unless he says something first. 2.5 years apart??? trust me he has slept with plenty of women
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Radiant (f)
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Tell him all that has happened and if he's okay with that then get back. Stop assuming and confusing yourself for no reason.
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asha 80 (m)
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i would not advise her to tell him anything unless he says something first. 2.5 years apart??? trust me he has slept with plenty of women
is that what you think? |
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ezinne1212 (f)
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Tell him all that has happened and if he's okay with that then get back. Stop assuming and confusing yourself for no reason.
I agree. @ Poster, Did he also promise to keep himself for you, to prove his love for you too? And has he kept his promise? if he has, then the above is the best advice for you, cos you clearly still want to give the relationship a shot, |
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sylve11
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i would not advise her to tell him anything unless he says something first. 2.5 years apart??? trust me he has slept with plenty of women
i disagree wit u |
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kanye West
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Chronicles of a Prostitute! Quite an Interesting Read! When do we skip to the next chapter on who you intend to F**cK Next |
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galatico (m)
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The truth is bitter, we still have to say it, just tell him the truth nothing but the truth .
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22medinat (f)
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Chronicles of a Prostitute! Quite an Interesting Read! When do we skip to the next chapter on who you intend to F**cK Next i forgive you cause l know that you just had to say something to be noticed.well you were have fun The truth is bitter, we still have to say it, just tell him the truth nothing but the truth .
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is that what you think?
thanx guys i will tell him the truth and give you the feed back,asap you guys give me strent.wish me luck |
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