Torn Between Two Men

During that one month, she met a guy that already wants to marry her? ROTFLMAO!!!

Please guys, stop crucifying the guy in UK. Some of you here already denouncing him of not having job. If the man is going to Nigeria in one month, are you the one that will pay for his trip and expenses. Jealous is already in the corner because you do not have the luck this girl is having. Girl, I will advice you to wait because you never know. By the way, man that met a girl in one month and talking of marriage is not serious, there must be something fishing. My wife and I met in 2005 and we did not talk of marriage until after two years and last year we final become husband and wife. Just wait for the guy to land from UK first. But you girls can really surprise men. In just one month, you met another man and talking of marriage; God, wonder shall never end. It really hard to know what is on women heart the moment you are not there.

 I marvel for the lady in question. It's beyond bizarre for one to start building her future on someone she has not even met before except for phone conversation. Has she even seen his pictures? She needs proper one to one counselling

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@Poster, dont u think its too early to marry any of them having known dem for such a brief time?
its a question i may not have understood u well,

I read your post and it got me thinking, rather than judging straight away I think what you need is just a little guidance.  Marriage my dear is a life time institution.  If you get it all wrong, you've got your whole life time to regret it (well that's if you are like some of us that believe divorce is out of the question).  If you get it right, yes it could be fun but let no one fool you, even with the right man you'll have challenges.

I'd say you don't know both guys well enough just yet.  One question I have though is, why is the Nigerian guy in a hurry?  You just met a month ago!  If he is really yours he'll still be around when you are ready to make your decision.  As for the UK guy, I would suggest you guys at least meet, online or telephone love has a lower probability of standing serious challenges.  Note that I didn't say it can't work, it's just that there are higher odds against it.

And lady, please don't let all that talk about age bother you.  Yeah, yeah, I know that's easier said than done but girl there's more to love than hooking up with a young lady that's got all her assets INTACT or rather with a current NAFDAC number like one of the earlier posters put it.  Wether you marry early or not, you'll still get to that point where the assets just can't compete with younger ladies so what happens to your marriage then if that was all your man was looking out for?  

Dear, you marry your friend, someone you know, can live with and are compatible with (future/vision, social, NOT sexual yet o. You want to keep that special and something you'll both be looking forward to on the special night).  I hope this has thrown some light on the situation.  Please don't be caught up in the emotions of the moment.  Think it through.  

Cheers

I hope money transfer haven't existed between the UK guy and the lady, if so it will be insane to have collected money and just for 1 month's break-in-transmission, she met someone who is ready for marriage.

The devil you've sabi before is far better to a new angel, you can never say what the naija guy will soon turn out to be.

She should seek Gods opinion before making a choice

breathe first of all, do they both know about each other, if you are honest with them both about what is going on, you may not have to pick one, because one might see themselves out, if there is a complete understanding choose the one that knows the title of the book you would write, if you had to write one, basically you need to embrace the one that listens to you and hears and apreciates you, if that's both of them then you may just have to really take some time apart from them both and see who you thought of the most.

My sister dont deceived yourself, i will advise you to go for what you see and what you can get hold of what if the guy in UK start giving you excuses or he has met someone else in Uk, Go to God and pray about it cause not all that glitter is Gold, He WILL DIRECT YOUR STEPS

Since the ladies' definition of marriage is wealth, so be it. Dem break their hands say mak them no get money ba? Divorce hasn't started yet. Old age while waiting for Mr right is not far away! Ms Uju, has money or mouth? To me, not marriage isn't for eveyone.

When am tired and feel like sleeping @ work, i just visit this site and i feel like sleeping NO MORE!

Not only the topic is funny but response from many people just make laugh here.

Somebody is populating a script for a new NollyWood film.

One day somebody after marriage will soon ask us how to go to bed with his/her spouse on this forum.

Don't be deceived by the prospect of going to UK. Marriage goes beyond pounds and dollars. I will advise that you give both guys equal opportunity in assessing their strength of character. The guy in UK should show up before you can beginning to take him serious. And never settle for "my husband is in the UK" as commom among some ladies in Nigeria. Marriage by proxy does not worth it. And more importantly, prayerfully choose between the two guys, God help u.

LMFFAO- Tumbum,tumbum. . .

But remember, ''Time waits for nobody''. The lady in question might be approaching retirement age.


There is simply nothing for the lady to think about. How can you say you are in love with someone you have never seen? Except the love for the dollar has overtaken her sense of reasoning and it has culminated into greed(big eye a.k.a ojukokoro).

The lady might think she is in love with one guy abroad who has proposed marriage but it might be our naija guys in Mushin or Ajegunle just pulling her legs and tickling her fancy.