Torn Between Two Men

let her take time to know the new guy and stop living in ghost island.

 

If she eliminates the greed factor, her answer will be right in front of her.
You cannot eat your cake and still have it 

I kinda agree with aisha2 on this.

But it doesn't mean the UK guy is the best option too. I don't subscribe to the idea of long distance relationships especially when marriage is being considered. Unless the guy is there for further studies and has plans of return to 9ja immediately after that (hopefully soon). If thats the case, then she should not even be gallivanting around with another guy in Nigeria.

My advice to her is that she should be patient and try to find out what exactly these men want from her. Then try comparing that with what she is looking for in a man. But most importantly she should ask God for guidance.

GAL, its possible to determine sum1 from their voice, it shldnt be a bother,
my advice to u is too take a deep breathe, pray to God for help n Guidence, cos both of them might not be for u sef!
get to know both of them better and its WAY to early to be speaking marriage!!

good luck

So she want to wait for a guy she has not seen before, na waaoo.

I'VE BEEN WAITING FOR SOMEONE TO ASK HER THESE QUESTIONS

1. HE DIDN'T CALL FOR JUST ONE MONTH AND U MET ANOTHER GUY RIGHT?
2. WITHIN THAT ONE MONTH U ARE NEGOTIATING MARRIAGE WITH A NEW GUY RIGHT?
3. WHAT WILL HAPEN TO THE DOLLARS/POUND U'VE COLLECTED FROM THE UK GUY IF ANY
4. WHAT WILL U BE TELLING THE NEW NAIJA GUY WHEN THE UK GUY CALLS? (LIES, LIES, LIES) ITS your COUSIN IN UK RIGHT?

YOU GURLS SHOULD STOP COMMITING WE MEN, KEEP HOLD OF ONE MAN AND SORT your FUTURE OUT.

Good questions. My girl which is my wife now, we did not talk for six months or so, I resident in USA and she is in Nigeria, she did not rush into another man's arm. This girl does not know what she wants. The relationship is probably not one month yet and marry is talking. Marry a man that close to you for many years doesnot guarantee anything. I know so many people and friends in USA and their life partner are in other countries. If two people are met to be together, it will work. The guy in Nigeria probable is facing an issue of losing girls or growing too old and he did not want to know about this girl background. The Nigeria guy is not a man enough because as a man, he needs to find out if she have all the value or he is just looking for a house wife; not at this age. Those who say that Nigeria man make a good husband, you are just a fool and wrong. The Nigerian men like the rest of us will not make a good husband right. so silly people in the thread. This girls self probable a thirteen year old just starting a sill thread. Long distance relationship or not, two people that are met to be together will be. Our parents that resindent in over seas went through distance relationship before their wife or husband join then so what is the fuse. You people think the man in Nigeria is better because they can see each other; oh please give me a break.  Girl, fast and pray to God. That is only advice people can tell you because at the end of the day, no one in the thread will be there for you with who ever you choose. Happiness comes before money. You friend that introduce you to the UK guy was not stupid, just know that.

Nairalanders una no go kill person, simply question na em una d yarn plenty lyk ds? anyway she maslf wori oh, no b who wear shoe knw where e pain am pass, na we d follow her do d lovin? c wahala o.

LOLLLL.
I dont think the answer is hard. Ive come to learn that in life, no two people have the same path. She's the only one who can answer this question for herself, cos she alone knows both men. She should go and pray and stop saying she's confused.
When it comes to men, we women always know what we want. The confusion usually comes in only when the one we want doesnt have as much money as the other one and we're doing long-throat!

first ask the girl if she is alright? how can you be thinking of marrying a guy you just met. you better don't make the mistake of your life. let the other guy in UK come first, then explain to the one in naija that the two of you should get to know each other better before the marriage comes up, during that period, the one in UK will be back. but you have to keep a little distant from the both of them so that you can reason well.

Was that question rhetoric? Or are you directing it at me?

ok i know you said no remarks and you want to be told what you wanna hear but i av an objection, your friends sounds naive shes trying to get a visa for someone she hasnt met? i mean crossing border for some dude you dont know sounds retarded to me and you said one month break in communication what does that tell her? its over! some girls need to wake up and smell the coffee, people that are in distance relationship are struggling to keep up, starting one especially when you havent seen them is foolishness of the highest other tell her to berra start taking the one around her seriously, good luck
naija girls sha oju won ti fe s'owo, UK guys! not all that glitter is gold she should just not wory about him jare

 

Im wondering why youre asking me this question cos I never said I chose anyone for money. I stated that its where most womens problem comes in. The long-throat factor.
You dont have to preach to me sir. Im fine as I am and I dont need money from anyone, so I wont be getting confused if I had to pick a suitor

Wahala!!. Sis, u neva told us what u want. Money or LOVE? I thought marriage shld base on luv. If it is luv that u want, then why ask us?

On d other hand, if it is money that u want, explore both like shell explorin niger delta 4 oil nd know who got it the most and ready to let some go and perk on him.

My apology.  Lets forget about this thread. Is not that the poster even replying. The poster is just fooling around or just a kid trying to get attention.