Responsible Bachelors Are Hard To Come By In Uk

I thought to bring this worrisome trend to general notice, it may be useful for one or two persons.

The rate at which vastly educated girls of African [mostly Naija] descent, lose their senses of self worth and sink into compromising relationships in the UK is worrisome. Let us make some distinctions here; apart from girls who were born here, every other marriageable girl here is either a legal or a not so legal   [my coinage] migrant. Those who belong to the later category are a different kettle of fish. That category requires special grace of God or special attributes to break into the class of the married! I am referring to those who belong to the first category. I work closely with a faith based NGO that deals with young adults and university students [counselling, career advise, job placements, etc] I noticed a lot of young and promising girls going into relationships that are patently doomed to fail. What do you say of a brilliant black university student running after a knife wielding Yob? [their euphemism for an aspiring criminal] or the one doing her MBA at the moment going out with a man who had 2 children from another woman he is not married to, but still see from time to time? She knew the relationship will not work, yet she is prepared to risk it, because there are no better options, 
These are just few of such cases. The obvious reason is that there not enough responsible bachelors around. The few who are legally entitled to be here are either pursuing their careers or are already married. Those bachelors who have no papers and are not married are either too afraid to go near the educated girls, or busy sampling white girls, leaving only a very few who are willing to settle down with the many sisters that can offer access to Red Passport.

My blunt advise to unmarried sisters coming over here ?
Try and sort out your love life before jumping on the plane, to avoid situations like this. You are free to ignore this advise though, if your faith is big enough to see you through, but this is the reality!

Im sorry but this is Absolute Rubbish - from start to finish

^^ erm how?

Responsible men in general are hard to come by regardless of geographical location. The good men are nearing extinction. Its high time ladies realized that they can be somebody with out a man rather than settle for scums of the earth.

@newdeal

Your post is great; however, I think you got some of your arguments wrong - check the red highlights.

Characteristics of Ladies: I believe most of our Ladies both International and Local get tricked into to PR of your 'knife wielding Yob'?

Love Life before Travel: I think there are lots of sensible Nigerians in the UK, especially the postgrads and grads who can really stand up to calls of responsibility.

@everyone
Please see this link http://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-341048.0.html

So women should accept lazy men?

or better yet force women to to be the breadwinner

@saintneo,
I don't see how the highlighted is flawed , i fail to see what  a university student hopes to achieve from a relationship with a drop out who has no other ambition than to lazy around and commit crimes.

In the second highlighted portion and even the title of the post, I feel sometimes, people make mistakes because they do not know what they are walking into, if resorting to absolutes will help keep them on alert, so be it.

On the whole, this post is for me a sort of catharsis, it has helped me to relieve something i feel so passionate about. I may not even reply to the replies anymore---

 
I think he was referring  to my post. 

G B A M!

Are we not the one complaining we dont like MR too nice, now we"re saying something else. we go to church and pray to meet MR right at the same we"re not giving these guys opportunity. we"re still looking for MR bad.

WRONG @ highlighted.  Men aren't as weak as you make them out to be, if they are they reap their reward.

"Material wealth" isn't necessary to sustain a relationship, it is because people - men and women - are materialistic.  Love means nothing and neither does honour.  Choose a man with a car even if he's a "yob" and/or doesn't have a driving licence; choose a man/woman who looks the part even if their attitude and character stinks. The list goes on.

Stop seeking to blame women.  Men are just as guilty, they get themselves into debt to look the part and don't act financially responsible.  I've heard too many stories of Nigerian men claiming bankruptcy or ducking from answering the door because they think it's the bailiffs.  Often their indebtedness is self-inflicted to impress others, not because of the demands of a woman.

Few people are interested in integrity in relationships, a lot of people just go for the show and lie until they get caught out. That is the reality of the world we live in.

If that is true for you, you are swimming in the wrong waters.

I could write a long essay here but I'm tired. I thank God this is no longer a problem for me cos the amount of unserious, lazy and ignorant men in this UK is simply pathetic.

I think the blame can be put at the doorsteps of both the men and women. the problem you have is that women have become very educated and career orientated and this leads to higher requirements in a partner, a lot of our boys tend to be unserious and for various reasons, be it racism, lack of confidence etc they just don't seem to be getting the good jobs and the ones that do carry the colonial mentality and believe that only oyinbo is now good enough for them.

for the women we have to admit to ourselves that we want a ready made man and tend to over look brothers that have potential but might not be that financially buoyant, therefore missing out on a possible husband material

men hear this you guys have something called wife material but we women also have something we call husband material - not all men fall into this catergory.

anyway like i said i'm tired can't concentrate on what i am writing again. hope i made at least some sense

true talk @ topic

Thank you my brother for telling the truth.

Much respect to the poster. . .but this conclusion is ambigous.  Responsibility is a value but on this one issue, what dimension or measure of that value is adequate would be subjective.  Can someone please help nail down what a "Responsible Bachelor" should look, smell, taste and sound like?