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newbride
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you're not going to the right spots
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bawomolo (m)
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lol @ these girls talking about they have given up.
internet miss independents
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ezinne1212 (f)
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@ Topic, funnyyy!!!! Nigerian women learn later, rather than sooner that half the nonsense that comes out of certain guys mouths has nothing to do with them but rather stems from their own insecurities from a series of bad choices and an inability to take responsibility for those bad choices. Just be the best version of you that you can be. Try to acknowledge nonsense at face value, cause you will never change it, and when that loser walks up to you to tell you that you are 'full of yourself and will probably end up alone', tell him 'thank you', you'll save yourself a lot of drama, because the right guy for you, your own guy, will have a brain and won't be intimidated. He will also understand that passing generalizations has nothing to do with the both of you giving it a go and that relaying his point of view doesn't have to be done with obvious crass and vile statements that he could never handle if the roles where reversed.
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redsky1
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ha ha ha u men make me laugh with your sweeping generalisations - so us UK babes are not well trained, LMAO - my naija born and bred husband who has only dated girls that live in naija was shocked out of his skin when he tasted my soup and served him with the water to wash his hand with the towel over my arm, and guess what i have spent 95% of my life in the UK and I can cook and clean and keep my home in a very clean and tidy manner plus hold down a professional job. so please not all of us are like that - all the girls in my family know how to cook and keep a home - we are 100% Nigerian. If the only girls you guys are meeting are not "trained well" as u say then maybe you need to broaden your horizons - and yes i know my husband is an extremely lucky man!!!!!!!  |
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furiban
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Ok,every gender has bashed each other and finger pointed on each other why they have not settled down/married.  Why do I sense the air of denial and self-sufficiency?  If you can't find a partner that has most to all the qualities u want, then stay on your own. Once in a while have your one-night stand, short term bedmate, wild to mind blowing sex sessions etc but you (both sexes) have to realise is that marriage is about humility, flexibility, tolerance, sacrifice, respect, compromising to each other,ok? You can sing-song from Jan to Dec why you can't find responsible bachelor/spinster but ask yourself if you responsible. Get degrees, good job, cars, achieving success in whatever you kind does not make you responsible if you still lack most of the attributes above. For guys, most women don't wanna to marry you if you are still "managing", the trend is with guy that is "comfortable", so make yourself "comfortable" For gals, u can't eat your cake and have it. It's the most likely pattern in the west. With all that "success" your choice of "comfortable" guy goes up and chances of living "alone" that self-sufficient life is very high. Yes, it can be disputed and argued but the truth is that what is going on in your head (both genders) is different from reality. And the reality is this, as one tilts much more towards western lifestyle, you have to get ready to reap with fruits as well though striking that balance between west and 9ja lifestyle (which is what each gender wants from the other) can be difficult if not elusive. My two cents. Ok you can all tear me apat to your heart's content, |
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chic2pimp (m)
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lol @ these girls talking about they have given up.
internet miss independents
Abi ooo. No mind dem jare. shior |
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Ebonyeyes (f)
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And these talking are "so called internet responsible bachelors"  |
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~Sauron~
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I thought to bring this worrisome trend to general notice, it may be useful for one or two persons.
The rate at which vastly educated girls of African [mostly Naija] descent, lose their senses of self worth and sink into compromising relationships in the UK is worrisome. Let us make some distinctions here; apart from girls who were born here, every other marriageable girl here is either a legal or a not so legal [my coinage] migrant. Those who belong to the later category are a different kettle of fish. That category requires special grace of God or special attributes to break into the class of the married! I am referring to those who belong to the first category. I work closely with a faith based NGO that deals with young adults and university students [counselling, career advise, job placements, etc] I noticed a lot of young and promising girls going into relationships that are patently doomed to fail. What do you say of a brilliant black university student running after a knife wielding Yob? [their euphemism for an aspiring criminal] or the one doing her MBA at the moment going out with a man who had 2 children from another woman he is not married to, but still see from time to time? She knew the relationship will not work, yet she is prepared to risk it, because there are no better options,
These are just few of such cases. The obvious reason is that there not enough responsible bachelors around. The few who are legally entitled to be here are either pursuing their careers or are already married. Those bachelors who have no papers and are not married are either too afraid to go near the educated girls, or busy sampling white girls, leaving only a very few who are willing to settle down with the many sisters that can offer access to Red Passport.
My blunt advise to unmarried sisters coming over here ?
Try and sort out your love life before jumping on the plane, to avoid situations like this. You are free to ignore this advise though, if your faith is big enough to see you through, but this is the reality!
This OP is very drunk!!! What evidence have you got to back up this codswallop? People(especially Nigerians) marry every weekend on this Island so tape it shut. |
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chika98
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lol @ these girls talking about they have given up.
internet miss independents
how e take consign you? if women in general choose to leave dating for a while; how does that prevent you from sleeping at night? |
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*Hauwa*
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This OP is very drunk!!!
What evidence have you got to back up this codswallop?
People(especially Nigerians) marry every weekend on this Island so tape it shut.
bless you jare, so far this year i have been bridemaid to 3 different pple. 1 more in dec naijans are marrying oo,  |
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~Sauron~
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bless you jare, so far this year i have been bridemaid to 3 different pple. 1 more in dec naijans are marrying oo, The OP is high on a cheap Bolivian weed. |
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dayokanu (m)
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Try guys in the US
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~Sauron~
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Try guys in the US
There has never been responsible bachelors in the USA since the days of Honest Abe. |
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chika98
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There has never been responsible bachelors in the USA since the days of Honest Abe.
He he heeeeeehe he heeheeeee Yeah of course there isn't and the good men are in Europe? |
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~Sauron~
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He he heeeeeehe he heeheeeee Yeah of course there isn't and the good men are in Europe?
Of course. Winston Churchill comes to mind. |
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presido1
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The same old story. Hauwa am waiting for you ooh
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chika98
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Of course. Winston Churchill comes to mind. Good men are "almost" extinct everywhere. |
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~Sauron~
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Good men are "almost" extinct everywhere.
Come to Europe!!! Watching villains like OJ Simpson on TV has clogged up your mind about men. The same old story. Hauwa am waiting for you ooh
Hauwa is married with 4 kids. |
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chika98
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Come to Europe!!! Watching villains like OJ Simpson on TV has clogged up your mind about men. Hauwa is married with 4 kids. Old news as I visit Europe twice a year. Nothing there. Same all story except the men there are dogs in sexy clothes |
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~Sauron~
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Old news as I visit Europe twice a year. Nothing there. Same all story except the men there are dogs in sexy clothes
It depends on the parts of Europe you visit 5 times a YEAR. |
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presido1
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Hauwa is married with 4 kids. This can't be true as she don't look like. |
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chika98
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It depends on the parts of Europe you visit 5 times a YEAR.
I guess it depends on the part indeed |
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~Sauron~
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This can't be true as she don't look like.
Looks can be deceptive. I guess it depends on the part indeed
What kinda men do you expect to find in Serbia or Kosovo? |
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chic2pimp (m)
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Old news as I visit Europe twice a year. Nothing there. Same all story except the men there are dogs in sexy clothes
You are thoroughly mistaken. American guys are not a patch on their european counterparts. |
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~Sauron~
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You are thoroughly mistaken. American guys are not a patch on their european counterparts.
American men are mongrels who can walk on 2 legs. |
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chika98
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You are thoroughly mistaken. American guys are not a patch on their european counterparts.
I am yet to meet a "European" that is different from men around here. This is not to say that there aren't good men there either. |
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~Sauron~
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I am yet to meet a "European" that is different from men around here. This is not to say that there aren't good men there either.
Nah. Europeans have more class than the Americans. 20 million Americans catch an STD every year. How do you guys sleep at night? |
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chika98
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Nah.
Europeans have more class than the Americans.
20 million Americans catch an STD every year. How do you guys sleep at night?
The very same way you guys do. Europeans have more class ke? HE hehe hehe ehehe heehe abeg leave that thing |
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~Sauron~
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The very same way you guys do. Europeans have more class ke? HE hehe hehe ehehe heehe abeg leave that thing
Show us the evidence. . . . . There are more responsible men in the UK than the USA. It's a fact, not a myth. |
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chic2pimp (m)
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I am yet to meet a "European" that is different from men around here. This is not to say that there aren't good men there either.
SHOCK HORROR!!!!!  oOya take that back  . Would you pls identify the places you've been to in europe? American men are mongrels who can walk on 2 legs.
Soulja boy tell em' The very same way you guys do. Europeans have more class ke? HE hehe hehe ehehe heehe abeg leave that thing
You don't say? Oh may dayzzzzzzzz. Everything we do,you name it oozes class. |
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chika98
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Leave that thing! You sef. . you too like all the emoticons. Show us the evidence. . . . .
There are more responsible men in the UK than the USA.
It's a fact, not a myth.
I rest my case then. |
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chic2pimp (m)
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There are more responsible men in the UK than the USA.
It's a fact, not a myth.
GBAM!!!Leave that thing! You sef. . you too like all the emoticons.
Why I no go like am?
I rest my case then.
C'mon now. You & I know it is true. You lot over there have got to many men acting like 'Wanna be thugs' |
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