I Think I Am Getting Depressed: Help!

temiade, u cant  it ve it all. stick to your career and Hawaii and 4get about husband.
se o fe je meji ni aba alade ni?

temiade am advicing you as a relative. it is better to have a broken relationship than a broken marriage. mariage is not some thing you jump into and also note that money without happiness is zero. now if you can answer all this question then you will know where you belong.

1. what kind of man are you looking for
2. what do you intend to find in that man
3. Are you OK with his behavior
4. have you tried to test him by starting a fake quarrel with him to know his inner feeling
5. do you know his background very well
6. have u tried to ask your parent why they want you to marry a naija guy because they might have a good reason
7. what do u think a man can do to make you happy (has he done that to you)
8. when ever you are discussing does he use the word OUR (meaning the two of you either talking about future)
9. is he always conern about your well being
10. have you try to put it in prayer

if you can answer all these, you will get a solution to your problem.
for further advice contact me on mail ( adezcom24us2001@yahoo.com )

You're definitely not alone, there will always be pressure especially for those of us with strong African heritage, parents never let go on 'rearing' the child until the grandchildren have been born, and even afterwards they continue to stick their noses into your affairs, this is just the way most traditional cultures operate.

You're young, even though you don't feel like it, you're educated, and if you're a wonderful person to be around then you'll have no problem.

If you prefer Nigerian men, I'm sure you can attend Nigerian events, even if you can't make them all, you can attend those you are able to attend, and then you can network, maybe the people you meet aren't suitable, but they will most likely know some other people, who will know some other people and so forth.

It depends on your priorities, if you're not willing to compromise on your career and lifestyle, I guess you can always continue with your current choices, after all you are very open minded which is a great bonus.

I think you just need to up your networking skills, if you know any Nigerians you can ask to meet up with them and get to know some of their friends, the possibilties are endless, and never feel like you're running out of time, as of course, everything should happen in God's time, and if this is your desire, you just need to keep pestering God and paying attention to what you hear from him so that you can know what steps to take.

If your current boyfriend is the one for you, I am sure that the wisdom God has given you will clarify this, and if you have to continue searching it will be okay also. You have given yourself a deadline for marriage, but I believe you should just sort out your priorities, like I said before, blessings come in God's time, not ours, so maybe you'll end up meeting someone and won't have to date them for 3-4 years to know that they are right for you.

Lastly, stay true to yourself, really think if you are thinking about this for you, or because of the pressure you are getting, after all there's nothing worse than forcing something that doesn't come natural.

All the best
& God Bless.