Who Is More Important; Your Husband Or Children?

THERE is always this subtle competition or should we say rivalry between a man and his children when it comes to getting the woman’s attention in the home. Only a man who does not want to face reality will deny the fact that this happens once in a while in the home.

Most men have had cause to complain that their wives, at one time or the other, had neglected them and focussed all their attention on their children.

Do not get me wrong; there is nothing wrong in this kind of situation. It is what we, sometimes refer to as a “healthy rivalry” but, of course, there is the tendency that, once in a while, some people take this too far.

When a situation like this surfaces,with the woman’s affection tilted to a side to the detriment of the other, it could lead to problems in the home. That is why as mothers, it is very important for us to ask God for wisdom to be able to strike a balance between our relationship with our children and husbands.

Both are very important

If your husband is 'your better half', and both of you are 'one', then he comes first.

ummmm and what will make the husband not to be better half, or make them not to be one/
i guess you referring to all the gbetus

wonderfully said, besides some husband are just like kids.
 

remember your children are still your kids, even when they are 40 years old, so at that point when they can fend for themselves and all that, who will now be more important, would you now change your mind and say the husband?

^^^ ok oh.

I used to be of the train of thought that children come first but now I know better.

must the individual had to have kids to know what they want?

Choosing a Man over your Kids is a 'no no'.

Depends.

But my children comes first.

lets agree to disagree. We could argue this all night long.

@ poster, i don't mean to interrrupt put this is a tough question considering the sentiments i have as a guy.

Would you rather loose a child at birth, or loose a husband 6 months after you lot just got married?


Both are important in this world, but without that man there wouldnt be any pikin in the first place, a man leaves his parents and cling to his wife, they both become one? your kids first, who will be with you in the same house after those kids are gone? who provides for those kids? who shares the same bed with you all day? who went to the altar with you pledging to love until death do you part?

All this ones saying kids first, i would have said same a couple of years ago, wait make una marry, una go tell me if una pikin go live with una till them grow beards, or leave una for house and go start their own family

well yes, when your kids are able to fend for themselves then you would have more time for your hubby, but like i said before, the hubby has to understand, and put the kids first too (in a situation where both can't be No. 1,)

You've said it all