Who Is More Important; Your Husband Or Children?

Please educate them. How can you put the kids first when you don't even have a great relationship with your spouse? Biko tell them!

yes they've survived, thats why 98% of the kids have learnt to hate and disrespect men,thats why the kids have learnt to compare everyman that comes their way with their dad, and learnt never to trust a man, thats why some of them wish they have a father figure to teach the females what to expect from men and teach the males how to be men

so yes they have survived


its ok for a woman to say my kids comes first,but for a man to say that, i reckon that man is still a child sucking his mother breasts,and still has a long way to go, before he can be called 'A MAN'

read properly and tell me where i said kids shouldnt get the attention they need?where did i say the kids should be abandoned?

like i said the kids will need me and their dad to raise them up, if i am not in a good relationship with my husband, how can i give the kids all they want? no matter what happens, no matter how much time i spend with them, they will always want their dad, a man figure,i can only do what i can do as a woman, the man still has his role to play, take for instance football, i might have a son that loves football and needs someone to encourage him and help him out, thats when the man figure comes in, my part as a woman has limits too, they are things a man can do for his kids that i cannot do

Thats why i said it takes a good relationship with my husband to fill in the gaps, if i am not relating well,with my husband, the man dat  made it possible for those kids to come into existence, then whats the need of a family anyways

my kids are my life, my husband is also my life, but it takes a good foundation between couples to bring a child up

thanks NL for your replys

^^^ LMAO 

My order of priority

1) Spirituality
2) Spouse
3) Kids

Theres no argument here. Havnt you ever heard the saying that a woman has the emotional strength of 10 full growm men? Its not for nothing it is the woman and not the man who carries a child. She has it in her to unite all. A woman can balance it out and she simply would need the cooperation of her husband to understand that theres no competition.
The children are a couples priority in life. You people should stop splitting it into woman/man discussion.

PS. On a lighter note. If a woman asked her husband for 450euros to buy a bag, he'd say no. But he would cough out the 3000 euros for the childrens achools fees. So who is the man's priority there? lol

yeah like i said it is an individual thingy, but how will you feel if after asking your husband to buy you a car( take for instance you cant afford it) for over a year and then your husband buys your 16 yr old daughter a car the minute she asks for it?

Im just trying to weigh both options, tell me you wont nag or complain about it, and i will call you morenike a liar

i bliv this should go simultaneously
but it is evident that children as an edge
cos children is the pride and future of every family

Every mother  . . . well most will willingly die for their kids (literally)
Are u willing to do the same for a man?
well there u go then.

sure, even the armed robbers , rapists, ritualists are the pride and future of their family

and what is more ideal?

let me see, oh yeah, your wife should put the kids first huh? what if your 5 year old daughter cries out every night cos she imagines she sees masquerades , and doesnt wanna sleep with you and mummy in your room cos she feels the masquerade is also in your room, and will prefer it if mummy spends the night with her all the time

How will you feel if your wife leaves you on the bed alone months after months just to sleep with your baby girl, tell me it will be ok with you?

if a woman says all these its understandable by me, but if you men , you attention seeking creatures say the same, then i call you all hypocrites

speak for your lover sir, and not for us, same way most women dont give an f about their kids, want me to tell you of women dat abandoned their kids? women dat dump their kids in the motherless babies home just because they wanna be free? women that drown their babies in the toilet or throw them inside the well? women that sell their babies?women that kill their child at birth?

are you kidding me?

i've had women loose their husbands cos of this

I dnt think I'll be the kind to ask my man to buy me a car. . . .Like seriously?
A working woman may need her husband's collaboration to get a car, but to wait on him to buy her a car. . . .? No.

Oh who is morenike?

the man shd always be first.