Please Advice, What Do I Do- Because I Love Her.

I dont think she is telling the whole truth & there is more to the story than she is letting on.

Its not normal to sleep on the same bed with an Ex.

well that is inappropriate behaviour, regardless of if they are still having sex or not they both should respect you by not sleeping on the same bed and what is he doing sleeping over for? i always like giving girls benefit of doubt when it comes to cheating cos i can't get my head round why a woman would ever want to cheat on a man she loves but this story sounds suspicious!

Thanks so much. But what do you think I should do? Do I ask her to tell her ex to stop coming to that apartment or what? Advice

Lol. Your first sentence makes you sounds nice, but I never knew you are dumb ass stick. I am sorry.

Thanks for replying anyway.

OMG! I am beleiving you. Thanks so much for your levelheaded advice. Ofcourse i can afford to her rent. i surely can, but what if she ask me to let the present rent due before getting her another apartment. What do I do to that?

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Pay the EX the difference of what you owe and let him carry on. Then she will have no excuse to have him around unless she still loves him of course.


You don't have to rent her another apt, you can continue paying the rent of where she is if you can afford it. The EX just won't be responsible for her anymore.

Her EX has nothing to do with your relationship. This is only a conversation between you and her. However, if you are a struggling/broke/poor man she will probably tell you NOT TO WORRY ABOUT HER RENT.

Talk to her first and see what she says.

Hmm, That's a good Ideal. I will talk her about it tonight.

Can I reach you on phone. You are an awesome man

Alright! Thanks

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poster how can u tell owner of the house to stop coming to his house 

Thanks All.
I was just assuming, what's your own suggestion?

im hardly on yim though. did u get that  ?

In the first instance you chose to go into the relationship without properly understanding what's going on between them both. This is not tricky, it's very direct, all you have to do is knowing what you want and how to go about it. You can't tell her to tell the guy off because she's got no choice - I won't say you've got no money to give her for her rent because that's not your responsibility yet unless, of course, you want to engage yourself in her problems (which is quite normal considering her status: orphan).

On the ex-boyfriend's part, I think he's just getting services for the rent he's paid otherwise I don't see why he should spend the night there even after you've met him in person and he knows you're the current boyfriend; I think it's very low of him to descend to that point of spending the night with her because he ought to know how exactly he's going to feel, but you have to understand that no matter how stale or extinct a relationship may have gone, in such instances, they still got flames for each other but are victims of tribal circumstances and that in no way can never oust the feelings and love they have for each other -- you didn't exactly put this into consideration. There is a difference between breaking up by consent and breaking up circumstantially.

As for the girl, I don't know what exactly to say of her but in my opinion, she doesn't respect you in the least. Saying there's nothing going on between them is pure lie and a blatant one at that. Putting up such bogus lies in your face is playing up on your intelligence and maybe possibly, manhood. There's no way she can prove there's nothing going on between them all through the night and gosh!! did you expect her to tell you they were having hot sex? Come on!!! Think!!!!  In my opinion, I think you're in this relationship because you pity on her condition not because you necessarily love her and that is a big problem for you if you don't curtail, shuffle and differentiate your feelings and know what's right to do.

Why does the guy come there to spend the night? Because he paid the rent or because he doesn't have a place to sleep?
If she was in another apartment you paid for, will the guy still have access to sleep there? If no, why?

If you put together responses to this questions together, you'll figure two things out: Disrespect and Infidelity!  If she has to answer this question honestly, ask her: If her ex's parents are to allow their son to marry her and get on with their lives, will she accept him back? The answer I see here is yes and if she's honest enough, she'll tell you.