Please Advice, What Do I Do- Because I Love Her.

yes it is. Now can you delete that from your post. Thanks!

In the first instance you chose to go into the relationship without properly understanding what's going on between them both. This is not tricky, it's very direct, all you have to do is knowing what you want and how to go about it. You can't tell her to tell the guy off because she's got no choice - I won't say you've got no money to give her for her rent because that's not your responsibility yet unless, of course, you want to engage yourself in her problems (which is quite normal considering her status: orphan).

On the ex-boyfriend's part, I think he's just getting services for the rent he's paid otherwise I don't see why he should spend the night there even after you've met him in person and he knows you're the current boyfriend; I think it's very low of him to descend to that point of spending the night with her because he ought to know how exactly he's going to feel, but you have to understand that no matter how stale or extinct a relationship may have gone, in such instances, they still got flames for each other but are victims of tribal circumstances and that in no way can never oust the feelings and love they have for each other -- you didn't exactly put this into consideration. There is a difference between breaking up by consent and breaking up circumstantially.

As for the girl, I don't know what exactly to say of her but in my opinion, she doesn't respect you in the least. Saying there's nothing going on between them is pure lie and a blatant one at that. Putting up such bogus lies in your face is playing up on your intelligence and maybe possibly, manhood. There's no way she can prove there's nothing going on between them all through the night and gosh!! did you expect her to tell you they were having hot sex? Come on!!! Think!!!!  In my opinion, I think you're in this relationship because you pity on her condition not because you necessarily love her and that is a big problem for you if you don't curtail, shuffle and differentiate your feelings and know what's right to do.

Why does the guy come there to spend the night? Because he paid the rent or because he doesn't have a place to sleep?
If she was in another apartment you paid for, will the guy still have access to sleep there? If no, why?

If you put together responses to this questions together, you'll figure two things out: Disrespect and Infidelity!  If she has to answer this question honestly, ask her: If her ex's parents are to allow their son to marry her and get on with their lives, will she accept him back? The answer I see here is yes and if she's honest enough, she'll tell you.

@poster,
Don't rent any rent for her and the best thing is to call it quit,leave her with her ex and her lies.

Thanks so much. I read your reply and had tears in my eyes. Honestly, I never knew that was the situation when I first met her- later was when i knew.

I understand everything you said. But what do you think i should do? Is break up the best solution?

the fact that he got her a furnished apartment and sleeps on the same bed with her whenever he spends the night doesnt mean they're having sex nah.



My guy bought me a porshe and we sometimes spend weekends in Vegas but that doesnt we're having an affair.

come nah- if I drove a porshe would I be on NL unless I got the porshe through the backdoor.

I'm just comparing situations with the OP.

well i drive a porsche and i'm on NL so what's the big deal