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xxpunk
Torn Between Two Ladies, Am Confused
« on: October 26, 2009, 02:08 AM »

Hi folks, thanks for taking your time to read this and help me out. Am afraid that for security reasons, names have been changed. My name is Alex and am a bit confused here. Matter of fact, am getting depressed and i don't know which turn to take. I met this girl called Evania, around March this year and we became friends. I think we fell in love with each other and started dating, but not until 3 months ago! Trust me, am ready for marriage and I know what i want in a lady. I will tell the whole truth, her cell got damaged 2 weeks after we started dating or should i say courting, and i had to get her a new cellphone, something i had done once before and actually got burnt. So that is all you need to know about Evania, apart from the fact that, she's a Northerner and she's a very humble person, and i love her for that. It may also interest you to know that she is slim and fair and 5' 6" tall and she behaves like a typical "virgin", i guess you know what i mean. Am not saying am trying to have sex with her oh!
But there is this girl in my church, we worship together and her name is Princess, 5' 7" tall, dark, average figure but wow! she's got busts that would make your jaws drop, just the perfect thing for me. Very smart, smarter than Evania and recently she's been flirting with me, I was like thinking my brother was interested in her, but when i asked him, he only told me he wasn't and if i liked her, i could try her out. So we had a date and damn, i won't lie, this lady really likes me, and am getting to like her too. But we are age mates, while am 4 years older than Evania. We started hanging out as friends, but i think this is really heading somewhere else, She's wild when it comes to romance, i swear, we've not had sex, cos; am not a sex freak, but we've done any other thing in the book depicting romance (tho' i have not seen her nudity). My problem here is that, am getting romantically and emotionally attached to Princess, as she always has time to spend with me, and my family knows her more than Evania. Evania is always busy with work and we see only on weekends, in contrast to Princess whom i see like 3 times a week. They say out of sight, out of mind, am am really starting to forget who Evania is.
I don't know if this is a big problem but am feeling rather guilty ditching Evania for Princess, although Princess has the qualities i would consider, so far so good, to a greater deal than Evania
Honestly am confused here, I am thinking of telling Evania that it's over between us (and I thank God we didn't have sex), but i don't want to hurt her feelings. I am more attached to Princess now and I don't know if its the right thing. So far so good, i have not seen anything bad with her but i don't know if she's only concealing her bad side. I know everybody has a bad side, by the way she's a Yoruba girl, and am from the Eastern part of Nigeria. Evania is still in school and she has found out that am seeing somebody else, while, Princess and I are already graduates,and Princess doesn't know Evania at all.
Please in the name of God, I beseech you, to advice me just as you would advice your brothers and sisters at home. Negative and derogatory  remarks are also welcome as they serve as constructive criticism.
Am so confused and I need to get settled down soon, with the right marriage mate.
Evania, Princess or none?
Thanks for reading this.
Shola2009 (m)
Re: Torn Between Two Ladies, Am Confused
« #1 on: October 26, 2009, 04:10 AM »

jezuz christ! this is so freaking long,didnt they teach you summary in primary school?? so why are you then writing your autobiography for us? Grin pls make it short
Hotstepper (f)
Re: Torn Between Two Ladies, Am Confused
« #2 on: October 26, 2009, 04:25 AM »

Try and get to know Princess very well before u break up with the Hausa girl. Princess for all I know(might be wrong), might be pretending just to get what she wants, u/, try to mellow your feelings for her and attention towards her so u can really get 2 know who she is. b/w, dont be carried away by her butt and wild behaviour towards romance
xxpunk
Re: Torn Between Two Ladies, Am Confused
« #3 on: October 26, 2009, 08:28 AM »

@hotstepper,
thanks a lot for the advice, God bless you

Quote from: Shola2009 on October 26, 2009, 04:10 AM
jezuz christ! this is so freaking long,didnt they teach you summary in primary school?? so why are you then writing your autobiography for us? Grin pls make it short

am sorry but if you were in my shoes, the world wont even contain your story, i had to pour out my heart, get it?
190 (m)
Re: Torn Between Two Ladies, Am Confused
« #4 on: October 26, 2009, 02:30 PM »

pls run away from the princess shes your age mate 4 cryin out loud

just sleep wit her and send her packin and stay hooked wit the hausa babe

dats ma advice~
igbonla (m)
Re: Torn Between Two Ladies, Am Confused
« #5 on: October 26, 2009, 02:38 PM »

I doubt that you know what you want in a lady! You need to step back and sort that out first before making plans to get married. You are dating Evania seriously but still "changing channels"? C'mon boy! Sort yourself out first before the depression do you in.
zuuby (m)
Re: Torn Between Two Ladies, Am Confused
« #6 on: October 26, 2009, 03:03 PM »

Quote
and her name is Princess, 5' 7" tall, dark, average figure but wow! she's got busts that would make your jaws drop, just the perfect thing for me.

I smell infatuation. Grow up man and face your first love.
Ani Lee (f)
Re: Torn Between Two Ladies, Am Confused
« #7 on: October 26, 2009, 03:14 PM »

Thats one bloody helluva long post man. My advice, please dont use any of them. Better hurt one's feelings and set her free to find her deserving Prince Charming while you keep the one you feel more attached to or you may let both go. Its your call, just make sure its wise and benefits all three of you hey. BoL wit dis!!
xxpunk
Re: Torn Between Two Ladies, Am Confused
« #8 on: October 26, 2009, 03:30 PM »

@190

Yes we ar age mates, bt i dnt carry d nigerian culture on my head! I find notin wrong wit marryin my age mate if she's d rite person


Truth is am mor attached 2 Princess. Must we always marry our 1st luvs?
bomakris (f)
Re: Torn Between Two Ladies, Am Confused
« #9 on: October 26, 2009, 03:33 PM »

Quote from: 190 on October 26, 2009, 02:30 PM
pls run away from the princess shes your age mate 4 cryin out loud

just sleep wit her and send her packin and stay hooked wit the hausa babe

dats ma advice~

Haba how can you say he sleep with princess and send are paciking, is she a toy to be treated that way? what if it happen to be your sitser? the guy will just fian her and clean his mouth like nothing happened.   guy you no try at all.
xxpunk
Re: Torn Between Two Ladies, Am Confused
« #10 on: October 26, 2009, 03:45 PM »

Sex? And i told y'all i aint a sex freak!

'best' advice so far
Ani Lee (f)
Re: Torn Between Two Ladies, Am Confused
« #11 on: October 26, 2009, 03:48 PM »

Quote from: xxpunk on October 26, 2009, 03:30 PM
@190

Yes we ar age mates, bt i dnt carry d nigerian culture on my head! I find notin wrong wit marryin my age mate if she's d rite person


Truth is am mor attached 2 Princess. Must we always marry our 1st luvs?

No. Amof, i think very few of us actually do nowadays.
bomakris (f)
Re: Torn Between Two Ladies, Am Confused
« #12 on: October 26, 2009, 03:58 PM »

Hello u don't need to disturb urself that much. Just fall asleep over the whole issue and allow God to take control .

Ani Lee (f)
Re: Torn Between Two Ladies, Am Confused
« #13 on: October 26, 2009, 04:00 PM »

Quote from: bomakris on October 26, 2009, 03:58 PM
Hello u don't need to disturb urself that much. Just fall asleep over the whole issue and allow God to take control .



now there's a wise and most reliable solution
iice (f)
Re: Torn Between Two Ladies, Am Confused
« #14 on: October 26, 2009, 06:11 PM »

Quote from: igbonla on October 26, 2009, 02:38 PM
I doubt that you know what you want in a lady! You need to step back and sort that out first before making plans to get married. You are dating Evania seriously but still "changing channels"? C'mon boy! Sort yourself out first before the depression do you in.

Gbam!
It was pretty evident the guy doesn't know what he wants.
Wait for rachel oooo, you'll see her 4 times a week and ditch princess and Evania Wink
chic2pimp (m)
Re: Torn Between Two Ladies, Am Confused
« #15 on: October 26, 2009, 08:15 PM »

Quote from: 190 on October 26, 2009, 02:30 PM
pls run away from the princess shes your age mate 4 cryin out loud

just sleep wit her and send her packin and stay hooked wit the hausa babe

dats ma advice~
BEST ADVICE SO FAR LMAO  Grin Grin Grin Cheesy Cheesy
190 (m)
Re: Torn Between Two Ladies, Am Confused
« #16 on: October 26, 2009, 08:20 PM »

ure in lust wit the princes dats why im sayin  u just sleep wit her and dump her like HOT potato
please if i were u brother i wud go for the hause 24/7 cos not all that glitter as u potrayed the princess is GOLD

sleep wit the damn chick and tel her u have a gf and she should go her way~
xxpunk
Re: Torn Between Two Ladies, Am Confused
« #17 on: October 27, 2009, 12:34 AM »

Quote from: 190 on October 26, 2009, 08:20 PM
ure in lust wit the princes dats why im sayin  u just sleep wit her and dump her like HOT potato
please if i were u brother i wud go for the hause 24/7 cos not all that glitter as u potrayed the princess is GOLD

sleep wit the damn chick and tel her u have a gf and she should go her way~

am kinda feeling you here, but like i said i dont have the guts to do that, seriously, if na your sister nko?
xxpunk
Re: Torn Between Two Ladies, Am Confused
« #18 on: October 27, 2009, 12:35 AM »

Quote from: iice on October 26, 2009, 06:11 PM
Gbam!
It was pretty evident the guy doesn't know what he wants.
Wait for rachel oooo, you'll see her 4 times a week and ditch princess and Evania Wink


wateva u say my dear iice . . . maybe it's you i want, LOL
xxpunk
Re: Torn Between Two Ladies, Am Confused
« #19 on: October 27, 2009, 12:39 AM »

if i wanted to sleep wit anybody, it would be Evania, and then pray for a manoeuvre from lust to love with Princess, get it?
shayoor (f)
Re: Torn Between Two Ladies, Am Confused
« #20 on: October 27, 2009, 10:29 AM »

i beg,dis story long
Stella N (f)
Re: Torn Between Two Ladies, Am Confused
« #21 on: October 27, 2009, 11:01 AM »

poster i dont think u really know what u want  in a lady because if u do u will not post this type of thing, Princess is a graduate, wide in romance or what have u does not make her a wife material mind u, sit down ask urself
(what and what do i want in a lady) if u can figure it out and answer the question on your own that means u can go for it but if u dont know what u really want that means it will be difficult to help u here, compare the two ladies know which of them has what u want (not looking at the chest where u will suck your head off or at the buttooms where u will die, no offence oooooo Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin)
xxpunk
Re: Torn Between Two Ladies, Am Confused
« #22 on: October 27, 2009, 09:44 PM »

Quote from: Stella N on October 27, 2009, 11:01 AM
poster i dont think u really know what u want  in a lady because if u do u will not post this type of thing, Princess is a graduate, wide in romance or what have u does not make her a wife material mind u, sit down ask urself
(what and what do i want in a lady) if u can figure it out and answer the question on your own that means u can go for it but if u dont know what u really want that means it will be difficult to help u here, compare the two ladies know which of them has what u want (not looking at the chest where u will suck your head off or at the buttooms where u will die, no offence oooooo Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin)

GBAM! Best advice , taken and implemented!yawns, rolls eyes, wishes Princess goodnight and goes to sleep

*************THANKS Y'ALL, YOU CAN NOW GO TO SLEEP***************************
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