I Am Going To Have A Nervous Breakdown

Many girls have been through the same or similar issues, they tried all the means you ve used so far to get your man to respond but things went from bad to worse. This is not an easy experience to deal with, emotionally and mentally I know exactly what you are going through because I have been there before.

Take this advise if you wish and watch how smooth things will be for you.

Stop calling him
Stop sending him SMS
Stop sending people to beg him
Stop reporting him to people
Try to get rid of him from your heart and move on with your life. you have just one life
and they are millions of men out there. Be sure God made you for one of them.
Keep yourself busy, if you are employed; focus more on your job if not try to get one.
Do all your complainig to God.
Life is such a beautiful thing.

Why can't you control yourselve. I mean, I already find it annoying the way you talk about it now. I am sure if I was your bf and you beg me like this I will not call you again. It seems you kind of nagging woman. talk, and talk and talk. . . haba . . .when will you calm down?

Alright. My manners has been B+
If not why will I knell down on two knees to welcome and thank him at heathrow airport?

It's only human to say silly things when angry. But truth is I am sorry, i have apologised and sober and I have learnt 

 poster, sorry My dear. I'm sure you'll soon get over the whole thing, but i advice you to simply move on if he won't speak with you.

no news oh. nothing yet !

I dont think he will do any of these now cos you ve talked to him too much. When you were vibrating, you didnt draw the line and now he is playing mind game with you. Silence is the best aswer at times even when aswers are needed. Incase if he changes his mind, dont repeat the same mistake. it is not good to argue with your BF especially when it comes to issue of trust cos that is a very serious  offence.

Stop talking and play the game along, i am sure he will cool down soon but the mor you talk the more you fuel the fire. Dont make him feel as if you dont worth the stress !

@Poster

I've been following your very interesting thread

First, it seems rather absurd that your guy would go to this extreme just on the basis of difference in opinion on vacation destination. I feel there's more to the story, especially taking into consideration your account of his mum's "response". But we all have our different peculiarities and I've learnt to "Never say Never"

Secondly, discard all the advices telling you to let him go and move on. Look deep within you and decide what you really want and ask him to do the same (just send a text). If it's him,  then give him some space, if he really loves you, he'll come around and tell you what the real issue is. If not, you shouldn't force it. In the long run, u'll both be worse off if you do.

You've obviously invested a lot in each other and trust me, I know it won't be easy to give him that space he obviously needs, but you need to give it to him. Take that time out too and hope for the best.

There're no absolutes and we all are just giving you advice based on what you've told us, but there are two sides to a coin.

A lil' advise: Some things should remain between the two of you. So be careful what you tell others when asking for advice. Most guys would definitely not appreciate your "telling tales" about them.

okay. thanks

What if he has seen another girl and moved on?
What if after all your begging and hoping, he does not come back?
What if he just realized that he is not willing to go ahead with this realtionship?
What if he is already impregnated a girl and is forced to marry her?
What if he will never, never be yours again?

WONT YOU MOVE ON? WILL YOU DIE?

people have lost their mother, father, husband, sister, boyfriends, brothers to death. they cried and cried, yet they moved on.

Get yourself a hobby as soon as possible and move on with your life.

Hey Miss Ajaiyi girl, somehow I got to find out that your man is visiting this thread from where he is. So on your behalf I am doing this to touch his mind . He is reading tonite!


Honey, every night as I lay in bed,
I think only about you,
And all our past times.
Times in which you made me laugh,
And times in which you made me cry,
Times where you made me angry,
And those where you made me happy.
And mostly,
Those times when you'd tell me: "I love you!!!"

I remember those times when we'd talk about our lives,
When we'd plan to get married.
And even have four kids!!!
I would tell you I wanted two boys and two girls,
And you'd say that it'd be crazy and weird.
Then you'd tell me you wanted either three girls and one boy,
Or three boys and one girl.
And I would always end up with a big smile on my face,
Because of your silly ways.

Now,  I can't hear that any longer,
'Cuz you're not here by my side.
So all I can do,
Is think about it and keep it in my heart,
'Cuz it's the closest I’ll ever be.

But whenever I think about all this- every night,
With tears running down my cheeks,
I begin to wonder.
I ask myself,
What was it I did wrong?
What one thing I did was it that you didn't like?
Was I suddenly not good enough for you?
Did that little light of love inside our hearts suddenly turn off?

My love,
I don't understand what happened between us.
That unfortune argument cant do to put us apart,
We were so happy together,
So happy that I thought we were gonna last a life-time together!!

I ask myself, time after time,
Without finding an obvious solution.
A question I'd now like you to answer.
I want you to tell me- WHY dont u talk to me again?
Why was it a last minute decision?
And,  without an explanation?

Now,  I want to let you know,
That without you, babe,
There is no good reason in life to keep livin' it.
I loved you,
And still do,

And I need to let you know that I miss you,
Even if you think it's not true,
Just pick the phone and say u still love again!!!

@am hurting

I have already told you the same thing happened to me and that was what led me to nairaland. I did the same thing though his actions were so bad, it got me frustrated. I left him and moved on and now he is back. The tables have turned.

You have apologised and acknowledged your mistake which was what I did, then let go. Live your life. If he truly loves and cares for you, he would be back. It would hurt, but you just have to try.

hopefully u have had your fill of crying.

Now dry your eyes, take a look at urself in the mirror ,look at the beautiful chick staring back at u, say to her  U R BEAUTIFUL, SEXY, GOD MADE and move on!!!!!!

The time u are wasting crying over someone who will not forgive u can be better spent doing other things , getting to know other people. it will be tough at first , but have some dignity  , confidence in urself that it will be well

@all

There are instances where you move on but you really and always felt you left something behind. honestly I am a liing witness of this kind of situation. I could have gone back to her but due to the fact that she did so many stuffs that i can hardly forget and even her family members and friends, its hard to come back together if not even impossible!


@amhurting

Stop using negative adjective about your BF, like wicked, heartless etc cos this same guy might knock on your door tomorrow and if he dosen't, maybe it has been destined that he will help you to europe or maybe his grandfather owe your great-grandmother a favour(lol)

Just stay cool, though i know it is going to be hard but all the same the guy might even be undergoing more emotional stress too but as a guy we will always hide it

 

@amhurting

have u had from him, please let me know how it went?

I tire o!

@ poster, why dont u go looking for him. Let me tell u why he didnt pick your calls nor called u as he told your mum he wld. Its because he's waiting for u to do the right thing. And u know what the right thing is? is for u to look for him and apologize face to face. There are certain things that u dont need to be told, they just come naturally. Thats if u truly love him. I'll advise u, to go and see him. He'll soften if he sees how remorseful u are. Text msgs wont do that,. And remember, he didnt pick your cals cos he knws he'll soften if he hears your voice and he wants your pleas to be accepted only if u do the right thing.
Pls DONT, I repeat DONT think he doesnt love u anymore. He still does, the only thing is he doesnt want u to repeat the same thing. Im sure he's hurting too. The thing is "we cant make omelettes without breaking eggs".
Go for your MAN. Wish u luck!