Is It True Naija Men Eventually ONLY Marry Nigerians

People hit me wit your opinions.

I just broke up with my naija bobo.  (I'm not nigerian).  But our relationship had so many insecurities because everybody kept telling me "is he nigerian! leave him".   They said that these men always married their own from their village - in the end.

Needless to say i kept up with my baby.  And wow!  It was great until we broke up.


Ok but seriously if i date a naija bobo is there reason that i fear that he will revert to his IGBO route.

Not necessarily, my mom is an american and my dad is a nigerian.

i think it all has to do with culture and the guy's parents, most men believe they have to be with someone who has the same culture with them, but then again thats their choice.

Yep they do even when they marry abroad--they still come home 2 marry a Nigerian

jaybaby na wa oh!

Anywhere.Nigerians are thinkers!thumbs up guys!!Good analytical thinking!!!

I am not a Nigerian myself despite the fact that my name is Emeka

It is actually an Armenian name,so OgaMADAM from Zamunda might still not be a Nigerian despite using Nigerian names

She might actually be from Zamunda

Are u saying there is no place like Zamunda?

no ohhhhhhh, if they don't marry ashewo, then go marry akata

Nairaland   

hmmmm.

huh 

MADAM IS BACK IN THE HOUSE YALL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I was away for a while only to come back to this!  Thanx everybody for all yall comments.  you made me laugh.  Jaybaby WETIN BE DIS?  You know a woman must follow the leading and the culture of her man abi?  Thats how i was raised.  Wherever he is from, i go follow, its just that nigerian men are so damn strong and have a lot of drive, thats attractive to me.  You made me laugh girl.

Whether its on the board or real life, im always mistakened for a naijan.  When all my naija friends go teach me igbo and pidgen they always tell me to "trace my origins" because i must definitiley be apparently igbo.  They say i look igbo too.

Its not that i want to, i just feel at home with nigerians in ways i don't feel with other cultures i mingle with around here.

With nigerians when you arrive in their place the first thing they ask is "Have you eaten?"  Ofcourse theyd give you egusi soup, and all that, and for me, with my ex boyfriend, i geuss i just felt a sense of home that had nothing to do with his culture or country.  It was something innate, but still we lost that.  So im asking out of curiosity o.

No i am not Nigerian.   And Okwanuzo3 youve really hit it on the head.  Zamunda is absolutely fictional.  I don't come from there O.

I call myself OGAMADAM because i just dig the idea of spoiled, fat african mamas, wearing shiny goldy outfits, and eating out of gold plates.  I like the idea that a man, will lay all down when serious to treat his MADAM well.  No be so?  And my bobo buying me jeeps and stuff. 

Not that i don't see holes in the culture yall, i still see some messy stuff like infidelity, the abnormally strong love of money, untasteful abilities to lie.   But what culture doesnt have problems

BIG UP NIGERIA!!!

peace, im out.

We tend to try and put 'love' (loosely defined) as the basis for most of these things as though what we call love is an unduring thing. A lot of people who claim love end up divorcing bitterly.

Understanding should be the key issue in any relationship. That may be the reason Naija men eventually end up with Nigerian women. A lot of us like to confine culture and belief to the dustbin but they always play a great role in the sustenance o0f every relationship.

A man who was brought up with Nigerian values and cultures will struggle with a woman brought up with other values and cultures. It's not just Nigerians, if you go to other societies, the same is true. It's always very sweet and 'loving' in the beginning but it often turns sour afrter some years.