Fighting Between Brother And Wife. How Does One Handle This?

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Those quotes in bold just prove to me that your brother has no respect for you, your wife, your home nor the fact that you are accommodating him. 

The person you need to speak to is your brother, not your wife.  Your wife is doing her best, coping with his laziness (and cleaning up after him), cooking and having her efforts abused, and hearing his lack of respect for you.  What other response do you expect from her? 

You should appreciate that you have a good woman in your corner, but your brother has no respect for either of you and the longer he stays in your home, the worse it will become.  You need to nip his behaviour in the bud, neither of you are his slaves. 

Once you do that, if you have other siblings staying with you in future, they will know how to behave in your home, what is acceptable and what isn't.  It's not for your wife to simply accommodate his behaviour etc, it is also for you to have a serious talk with him otherwise it looks as if he is walking all over you, abusing your home and getting away with it.  And that really is where your wife's frustration lies.

I had a friend in a similar situation, her brother-in-law was equally awful and her husband eventually kicked him out.  It was only when he had to struggle on his own did he appreciate that he had it good at his brother's place but abused it.   

Your children and your wife are  your priority.  The sooner you can get him sorted out, the better, but don't let it drag on for too long.  Good luck.

Poster please NEVER listen to things like these. Family issues are meant to be sorted out without involving who aren't even related to you. Pastor ko? Preacher ni? I would agree with the bit about having your brother go. You married her and if you see sense with the situation then let your brother go and build his own life. Help him financially if you can because first of all; He has no business living with you at all. I hate it when family members do not know when to draw the line and act sensible.

I think such man is a goat in with a little man's brain, that is yet to be a man.

  Sounds like what I said pissed you off. You need to grow up. Sad that a contribution from my anus makes more sense than all the brain cells combined in your head. Your brother should start sleeping with your wife since you have let him start running your home. You want to hear that you are a man and you just caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. Go and be a man and stop throwing tantrums and letting another man run your house. You are married to your brother not your wife.

@ jodeci

Outstrip may have been rude in some of what he's said, however some of it makes sense but you can't see it.  By not dealing with your brother you risk losing your wife's trust, your brother will move on and your relationship with your wife eroded because of the conflict that wasn't dealt with in time.

Your wife probably won't say much now but I'm sure that with each passing day the resentment is building.  Deal with your disrespectful brother soonest my friend for peace to reign in your house.  Once he's left I'm sure you'll be shocked at what your wife has been withholding from you all this while.