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Lord_Reed (m)
Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry
« on: October 29, 2009, 03:50 PM »

Hey people how do u deal with a partner or spouse (male & female) who never/rarely says sorry when they've done something wrong?
scemchee (m)
Re: Never Says Sorry
« #1 on: October 29, 2009, 03:58 PM »

you ignore them and move forward with your life.
Bontee
Re: Never Says Sorry
« #2 on: October 29, 2009, 04:01 PM »

You judge them by their action.
iice (f)
Re: Never Says Sorry
« #3 on: October 29, 2009, 04:06 PM »

Talk to them.
Lord_Reed (m)
Re: Never Says Sorry
« #4 on: October 29, 2009, 04:07 PM »

Quote from: scemchee on October 29, 2009, 03:58 PM
you ignore them and move forward with your life.

Am not talking about a casual friend or acquaintance am talking a bout a lover or a wife.

Quote from: Bontee on October 29, 2009, 04:01 PM
You judge them by their action.

And do wat?

Quote from: iice on October 29, 2009, 04:06 PM
Talk to them.

And say wat?
justwise (m)
Re: Never Says Sorry
« #5 on: October 29, 2009, 04:07 PM »

Quote from: Lord_Reed on October 29, 2009, 03:50 PM
Hey people how do u deal with a partner or spouse (male & female) who never/rarely says sorry when they've done something wrong?

God!!!! i had on couple of yrs ago, she never ever say sorry, she is always right. It drives me insane. Thank God she is an ex now.
galatico (m)
Re: Never Says Sorry
« #6 on: October 29, 2009, 04:09 PM »

Quote from: scemchee on October 29, 2009, 03:58 PM
you ignore them and move forward with your life.

Yeah am in support of that . or you could probably talk to them and if they still remain adamant judge them by their action .
rita@NL (m)
Re: Never Says Sorry
« #7 on: October 29, 2009, 04:15 PM »

Some ppl are not just used to sayin sorry  but it's not like they dont feel bad thou but they cant just say SORRY.
If she's a lover and u cant stand not saying sorry,tell her to bounce but if she's a wife,she's your cross you have to carry it, that means you have to live with it.
justwise (m)
Re: Never Says Sorry
« #8 on: October 29, 2009, 04:23 PM »

Quote from: rita@NL on October 29, 2009, 04:15 PM
Some ppl are not just used to sayin sorry but it's not like they dont feel bad thou but they cant just say SORRY.
If she's a lover and u cant stand not saying sorry,tell her to bounce but if she's a wife,she's your cross you have to carry it, that means you have to live with it.

That is even worst, my ex ego is so high that she can't bring herself to say sorry.
iice (f)
Re: Never Says Sorry
« #9 on: October 29, 2009, 04:24 PM »

explain to him/her that what she/he did was wrong.  The effect of their actions on people and having the decency to apologize for hurting them (people/person in their lives).  Making sure to explain that the apology should come because he/she felt it necessary of his/her own accord to do so and not because it's expected (like people always expect some apology and get their knickers in a twist if they don't get one) If it doesn't take, then you've done what you can.  
I don't know what is even worse. . .the one that does it over and over and pours out apology like water or the one that doesn't even realize the wrongness of the deed Undecided.
rokiatu (f)
Re: Never Says Sorry
« #10 on: October 29, 2009, 04:30 PM »

How are you going to have a marriage with someone like that?!? You cant, its impossible.
I can not deal with a partner like that. you either change or i leave.

amhurting
Re: Never Says Sorry
« #11 on: October 29, 2009, 04:37 PM »

O ga oh. So there are babes that cannot accept mistakes/faults?

My bf seems to have forgotten my worth

When am wrong, I do not hesitate to apologize and make amends.

No wonder he is doing shakara  Sad
justwise (m)
Re: Never Says Sorry
« #12 on: October 29, 2009, 04:44 PM »

Quote from: amhurting on October 29, 2009, 04:37 PM
O ga oh. So there are babes that cannot accept mistakes/faults?

My bf seems to have forgotten my worth

When am wrong, I do not hesitate to apologize and make amends.
 No wonder he is doing shakara  Sad
.

Don't change cos somebody 4got your worth.
U have a quality that will earn u more respect.
MrPrsdent (m)
Re: Never Says Sorry
« #13 on: October 29, 2009, 04:58 PM »

@poster

Its in nigerian character Grin Grin
Lord_Reed (m)
Re: Never Says Sorry
« #14 on: October 29, 2009, 05:23 PM »

Thanks guys. Meaningful contribs there.
Ujujoan (f)
Re: Never Says Sorry
« #15 on: October 29, 2009, 05:30 PM »

Just ignore h/her! People like that are usually stubborn and opinionted. If you are unlucky enough to fall in love with such a person, I guess it's one of those thing you have to live with!
sylve11
Re: Never Says Sorry
« #16 on: October 29, 2009, 06:23 PM »

Quote from: scemchee on October 29, 2009, 03:58 PM
you ignore them and move forward with your life.

Shikena! Smiley Cool



Quote from: iice on October 29, 2009, 04:24 PM
explain to him/her that what she/he did was wrong.  The effect of their actions on people and having the decency to apologize for hurting them (people/person in their lives).  Making sure to explain that the apology should come because he/she felt it necessary of his/her own accord to do so and not because it's expected (like people always expect some apology and get their knickers in a twist if they don't get one) If it doesn't take, then you've done what you can. 
I don't know what is even worse. . .the one that does it over and over and pours out apology like water or the one that doesn't even realize the wrongness of the deed Undecided.


wise one there! Kiss Cool

sagacious (f)
Re: Never Says Sorry
« #17 on: October 29, 2009, 07:44 PM »

You look for technique to get him hurt to bone marrow, pretend you are right and refuse to say sorry, make him see how you feel.I think that is the best way he will feel you pains, let him realise later that it was intensional and then tender your apology
amhurting
Re: Never Says Sorry
« #18 on: October 29, 2009, 07:55 PM »

Quote from: justwise on October 29, 2009, 04:44 PM
.

Don't change cos somebody 4got your worth.
U have a quality that will earn u more respect.

i wont change. thanks
BlissMoney
Re: Never Says Sorry
« #19 on: October 29, 2009, 08:21 PM »

Be mature in a relationship. If one is Lion let another be sheep. If she/he did not say sorry, you say sorry to yourself and forget about it. Shekena!!
olalekan1 (m)
Re: Never Says Sorry
« #20 on: October 29, 2009, 08:28 PM »

But what about the one that keep saying sorry all the time. Committing the same offence from time to time and will not stop saying sorry. How will you feel and what will you do?
rubi (f)
Re: Never Says Sorry
« #21 on: October 29, 2009, 08:41 PM »

Purposely hurt him/her back and never say sorry then they will get the feeling.
OMO IBO (m)
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry
« #22 on: October 30, 2009, 10:30 AM »

Kai, i'm deffo one of those who find it hard to say sorry.
I'd do anything else but say sorry

Stella N (f)
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry
« #23 on: October 30, 2009, 10:55 AM »

that's one of the things that kills relationship if am to say, to me ooooooo if i offend u and find out that i did something that annoyed u i will tell u that am sorry, it will not take a hair out of my hairs rather it will solve a grate problem that may arise.
touchmeder
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry
« #24 on: October 30, 2009, 01:33 PM »

a mere lover who after continous talking refuses to change there is still time to back out
husband and wife issue learn to deal with it.
bjmighty (m)
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry
« #25 on: October 30, 2009, 01:38 PM »

Just tell him or her to 4K OFF and move on!!!
sweetpie23
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry
« #26 on: October 30, 2009, 01:40 PM »

get used to it Undecided
amram (m)
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry
« #27 on: October 30, 2009, 02:13 PM »

it could really make life horrible. if there are other
benefits you carry on. Perhaps it is a spouse
and you believe that there is no divorce and
remarriage then you turn to God to help you carry
the cross.
cvibe
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry
« #28 on: October 30, 2009, 02:23 PM »

Ignore the partner.
Iykolysis
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry
« #29 on: October 30, 2009, 02:27 PM »

MrPrsdent, point of correction, it's not a Nigerian thing as u rightly adduced. It can happen anywhere be it in Ghana, Europe, China, etc. It is caused by an individual's inability to swallow his/her pride. lol,
malaika (f)
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry
« #30 on: October 30, 2009, 02:32 PM »

I know how frustrating that is. My hubby will offend me then say "it's not like I did it on purpose" and not apologise afterwards and I'll be like   Huh   so that makes it ok   Huh 

But I still apologise when I do s'thing wrong in the hope that he'll learn from me  Wink   Marriage is about deciding what you can live with and what you can't, we make those choices almost daily. The good must outweigh the bad.
r231 (m)
Re: Dealing With A Partner Who Never Says Sorry
« #31 on: October 30, 2009, 02:58 PM »

ignore her and if she continues oh well
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