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izeek (m)
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iice,
just how i c it too.
u dont wait until he hears or finds out, tellhim from the first date.
that way u know if he is there for real or not.
if u postpone it, am sure it wud be aproblem to tell much later.
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spikedcylinder
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thats the mistake we all make, hiding things cos we feel we might loose the peron.
i believe you lay it all in theopen from the onset, and if he feels its too muh for him to hndle then let him move along.
I agree with you 100% but that is not the issue here. The issue here is: way forward? |
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Macgreat (m)
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Leave!!! FAST!
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kpolli (m)
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this is a testing time for the 2 of 'em,
but fact is if he leaves he then he never loved her
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nne_mak (m)
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Only very few ladies in dat situation tell you at the start of the relationship,
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TheSeeker (m)
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iice,
just how i c it too.
u dont wait until he hears or finds out, tellhim from the first date.
that way u know if he is there for real or not.
if u postpone it, am sure it wud be aproblem to tell much later.
Thank you ooo.
I always say, give them the full blast. . .if they stick around, then they are worth all the effort.
Na why, people relationships crumble. . friendship/relationships. Keep tip-toeing around each other  Yeah, you're right, just the way I've seen it. One thing is certain though: not everyone knows what to do in certain situations. . . like I said and going from what she said, she wasn't going to hide from him, she wanted to wait a little bit more before she tells him - which I think was a stupid attempt. I'm still sure most ladies nowadays will still hide such from their potential boyfriends depending on where they are or whatever other criteria they have chosen to hide it for. Now, the question is what should the guy do? This is just like any other secret, maybe a little heavy, but still it's an offense that can be forgiven, if he truly loves her; nevertheless, my friend doesn't know what he wants to do  |
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Lord_Reed (m)
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If he loves her he should stay. At least it wasn't like they were gonna get married 2mrw n she told him 2day. Yes it's an issue n yes it's pretty tough to encompass but hey it's sometin from her past so let him keep loving her cos her revelation has not made her a different person all of a sudden.
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iice (f)
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Yeah, you're right, just the way I've seen it. One thing is certain though: not everyone knows what to do in certain situations. . . like I said and going from what she said, she wasn't going to hide from him, she wanted to wait a little bit more before she tells him - which I think was a stupid attempt. I'm still sure most ladies nowadays will still hide such from their potential boyfriends depending on where they are or whatever other criteria they have chosen to hide it for. Now, the question is what should the guy do? This is just like any other secret, maybe a little heavy, but still it's an offense that can be forgiven, if he truly loves her; nevertheless, my friend doesn't know what he wants to do
I think he should ask himself if he's willing to forgive and what he wants out of the relationship. . .it's just as much keeping something that important from him as it is a breach of trust. If he's willing to forgive, then he should have a talk with her. Ask if there is anything else she's keeping from him and that since they are 'weathering' this storm, she shouldn't be afraid to tell him things. Trust is important, we all know that. Then he should think of how they will incorporate the child in their lives (unless they plan to keep the child separate from their lives ). Is he willing to be a father figure (whether they get married or not, he will be a male role model)? Does he understand the responsibilities and circumstances (sacrifices etc) that comes with having a child. . .One step at a time to patching up his relationship. Good luck to them. |
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