I Love This Girl In My Church What Can I Do, Please Help Me.

  This is my story,
                   there is a girl in my church she is a teenager of about 16 we both are friends, on valentines day she sent a message to me. the message touched my heart and since then i av been having feelings for her. i dont know what is on her mind before she sent that message maybe she realy loved me or she just see it as an ordinary message. since then her love started growing in my heart such that i think of her day and night. when i cant keep it to myself any longer, i called her and i asked her the reason why she sent that message but she said she never sent such message to me. the message was mistakenly deleted on my phone so i have no prove to show her. may be she is lying, i dont know. but the love that started by that message has not ended.
                   so, recently, i decided to tell her that i love her, so i sent a message to her that i love her then she called me and her reply was not yes and it was not no but she said 'dont ever send such message to me again'. with this response, can we conclude that she loves me or not or she is not matured enough to decide?
                    i am a bornagain christain and so she, we are both workers in the church. i dont know maybe it is wrong for me to tell a girl in the church that i love her (not having a lustfull desire for her).

i want a a godly reply.

Give your heart more time to digest her feelings, the result would determine if you yourself love her or just bouncing in the wave of the movement.

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She is just 16. Wait until she is 18 and see if U still love her

@sista jay, i dont understand what u mean. it is not infactuation that i have for her but real love. apart from the fact that she sent a message which she denied, may be someone sent it with her phone and she is not aware of it i dont know, but i realy love her so much with all my heart, she is beautiful gentle disciplined e.t.c in summary she has almost all the qualities that i like my dream wife to have.

Wait for her to grow up.

Then go and establish a stead friendship with her first, but always let her know your motives so she does not get too familiar with you hence she starts calling you her brother.

u dont ve to wait jare.16 is matured enuf.at least in Nigeria of today,even 16 yr olds give birth.at least we heard of an 11yr old dt jst gave birth.if your feelings for her is true and sincere, and not jst sexual,go 4 her.jst thread softly and dont rush her to much.i believe she likes u too.i had my first boyfriend wen i was 16.and he respected my feelings of no sex then.though we ve broken up since but i dont regret goin out wt him.we had a nice time.

i am not talkin about openess here.how many 21yr olds can even stand if front of their parents and say dey ve boyfriends?everything is done codedly now.i am jst advising the guy dt it wud truly hurt to see de person u luv,goin out wt another jst because u dnt ve the liver to tel her u do.and as cud be seen here,de babe also likes him too.age is not a barrier wen it comes to love.if its true luv sha.

Thanks.

I agree with u
do u know the girl wen u said shes from the kind of home u jst described now?

Thumbs up.u must be a psychologist.

@ honeric01. I am the poster. this girl i am talking about is my friend, but not my best friend for now.i would like to make her my best friend and my girl because she is the type of girl that i want in my life .though we only meet and talk in church and on phone, well, that is enough for now because going out for a date is not so good for now but i want her to be my best friend because i am always happy when she is around me.

To further describe the girl, she is disciplined. she has a good character, her mother is a sunday school teacher, her father and her sister is a counsellor. i dont know maybe her parent has counselled her about love and relationship.

considering the factors of her parent can she ever say yes

I think you are really serious about her. Please don’t rush things, since you are already friends, build on that. I will advice you do the following:

1.  Send her another message and apologize for hurting her feeling with your previous message – This shows you are a gentleman.
2.  Show more concern to the things that matter more to her now, academics, career, spiritual life, future plans etc.
3.  Call her like 2-3 times a week and equally send her txt messages; let your conversations and your messages focus more on 2.
     Please don’t overdo it.
4.  In the process of 3 subtly share your own plans & aspirations with her, seek her opinion and advice, this will also allow you to know
     what she thinks  of you

If you maintain this cordiality, you will know when she is ready for serious relationship, and you will be uppermost in her consideration.

All the best.

from his profile, he is 20 and the girl is 16. they both have time to grow up and mature. Just need some advices.

That's why you have to make sure you get used to her first, make sure you are friends with her, get very used to her and it will surely work its way out.
  her background is what's making her behave that way, so just get used to her first.