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Eurphoria (f)
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shut it,, you want to take the moral high ground? lmao please its hilarious especially when you dripping with mud
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Donzman (m)
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@Ugwumba
So you're saying the couple should do exactly what when there's cheating?. . . I actually thought being faithful to your partner was one of the main clauses in a marriage "contract", so I don't see how you can regard cheating as a minor issue.
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Eurphoria (f)
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Rad goodnite my luvv , i will come back when MEN come here, can't be dealing with boys   night sweetie |
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goodguy (m)
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Sister Radiant, Aunty Eurphoria, Good night. I'm off! |
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Eurphoria (f)
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goodnite muppett  |
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Radiant (f)
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lmao. . Eurpho, u rock! Goodnight  |
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Eurphoria (f)
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goodnite my luvv |
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ThiefOfHearts (f)
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A cyberbeing's 'whine' is embarassing to you? Don't you think you're taking the cyberworld too seriously?  more like embarrassing to read. Keep in mind that everyone is telling YOU to shut up. It was said that YOU are the one that derailed the thread and you continue to by constantly weeping over some comment I made in response to what you said to me and no it didnt bother me as im not the one screaming "duel" You can keep saying blah blah raised me this or that. again, obviously it hurt you that badly. I win! |
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ThiefOfHearts (f)
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*hugs Rad* Better now |
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Honey_pot (m)
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Oh my, what a thread!!!! So much have been said. Donzman is right, it appears we've lost a sense of objectivity 'cause most of the posts fell on gender divides. Most guys and few gals tho' made interesting posts. What scares you is that some of us DONT want to deal. If you're not ready to give your all, leave us alone.
Request not granted, ThiefOfHearts. What makes u think i will agree to this deal, a deal to leave pretty tiffy alone? Ok, if u want me to leave u alone, please could u kindly return my heart which u stole the very first day i set my eyes on u, make sure u return it intact 'cause i don't want a suicidal 50-50 split, or do we need divorce lawyers to help us settle out of court? You people are just "scared" and "annoyed" because there are actually some women that wont accept that shit.
TOH, no one is scared or annoyed, and nobody says u should accept any shit. If i'm right, almost all the ladies approached this thread with a negative mindset about men, as if men are evil and all men are cheats. My only worry is the open show of gross intolerance and hatred for the most misunderstood creatures on earth - Men. Also, some of the abusive names used by ladies on men in this thread to say the least are crude and rude. Have u all forgotten that when u say men are pigs, that it includes your brothers and fathers also? Won't u girls get married, to the same pigs i suppose? I'm not holding brief for any cheating husband here, that is completely unacceptable. At the same time, we should all bear in mind that both men and women cheat in equal magnitude, except that women are very sleek about theirs. I will still want to maintain that we approach marriage with some flicker of hope and positivity. Study your partner before u strike the final deal. Radiant's views (except for the abuses) are good, i don't think any problem is irresolvable in marriage. |
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Ugwumba (m)
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@Ugwumba
So you're saying the couple should do exactly what when there's cheating?. . . I actually thought being faithful to your partner was one of the main clauses in a marriage "contract", so I don't see how you can regard cheating as a minor issue.
Cheating is ugly, never minor (nowhere and no way I would imply this). The marriage vows however say - 'in sickness and in health, till death do us part' Nowhere does it infer that if the 'sickness' is an STD from your partner, then you MUST get rid of him/ her. To everyone their own choice of what to do in such situations, but do not prescribe to him/her who chose to forgive, because they may do this to serve a mightier purpose than you or I can discern. |
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Donzman (m)
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Cheating is ugly, never minor (nowhere and no way I would imply this).
The marriage vows however say - 'in sickness and in health, till death do us part'
Nowhere does it infer that if the 'sickness' is an STD from your partner, then you MUST get rid of him/ her.
To everyone their own choice of what to do in such situations, but do not prescribe to him/her who chose to forgive, because they may do this to serve a mightier purpose than you or I can discern.
ThiefofHearts, listen to that line by Ugwumba! I'm out, I have a class ! |
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ThiefOfHearts (f)
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I consider cheaters esp ones who are sexist about it as being pigs. If you don't share that mentality then obviously you're not a pig.
So what exactly is the big deal?
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ThiefOfHearts (f)
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[The marriage vows however say - 'in sickness and in health, till death do us part'
Nowhere does it infer that if the 'sickness' is an STD from your partner, then you MUST get rid of him/ her.
Lmao. Have fun with that. If that is what your Bible meant, then I will be having a court wedding instead. |
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kaecy5 (m)
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in court wedding then what?
i used to think in court wedding there is a 4 better for worse phrase???
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ThiefOfHearts (f)
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depends on the state actually.
Point remains that kind sickness I no agree with.
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Radiant (f)
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Marriage is supposed to be a beautiful institution but there's so much pain these days that one doesn't really know what step to take. God help us all  |
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ThiefOfHearts (f)
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what does my status have to do with anything? Either answer the question or carry go. all this "it's because you arent married, only married people would know, blah blah" has absolutely nothing to do with the discussion at hand. and your response is like marriage is the end all be all, it really isnt. sorry |
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ThiefOfHearts (f)
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Marriage is supposed to be a beautiful institution but there's so much pain these days that one doesn't really know what step to take. God help us all *pats Radiant on the head* |
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Radiant (f)
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lmao. . . na so o |
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Ugwumba (m)
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what does my status have to do with anything? Either answer the question or carry go. all this "it's because you arent married, only married people would know, blah blah" has absolutely nothing to do with the discussion at hand. and your reponse is like marriage is the end all be all, it really isnt. sorry @ TOH, of all the human experiences, marriage is probably the only one that you have to experience to understand. No, marriage is not the 'end all, be all', as you so aptly put it, but topic was 'cheating in marriage'. If one chooses not to get married, good for them, but once the choice is made, you will discover how much will need to be sacrificed to make it work. My point? No prescriptions work in marriage and no marriage is perfect. Cheating is hard to take, BUT CAN BE FORGIVEN. |
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ThiefOfHearts (f)
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@ Cheating is hard to take, BUT CAN BE FORGIVEN.
Why don't people ever REALLY read what I write? It's only when I feel like being silly and freak out that they read what i have to say then they start yanning rubbish about me being "mean" and all that crap I ALREADY said that it can be forgiven and i said I kind of admire those who forgive but ONLY if they truly forgive and can once again give the person their trust 100%, not those that pretend like everything is fine but are still truly hurting and continue to let that situation to affect their marriage entirely. I've said this three different times. However that whole talk of staying with Aids patient, that's a whole different story. keep in mind that a mother will pass that to her children. |
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Radiant (f)
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Cheating is hard to take, BUT CAN BE FORGIVEN.
Certainly! But, for how long? |
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ThiefOfHearts (f)
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If you're a woman, forever
If you're a man, never
apparently.
What worries me is those that take your forgiveness and use it to their advantage thnking that well, "she/he forgave me this time so I guess I can continue to do it anytime".
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Radiant (f)
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What worries me is those that take your forgiveness and use it to their advantage thnking that well, "she/he forgave me this time so I guess I can continue to do it anytime".
That's when it will get to my Throat!  |
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Ugwumba (m)
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Why don't people ever REALLY read what I write? It's only when I feel like being silly and freak out that they read what i have to say then they start yanning rubbish about me being "mean" and all that crap
I ALREADY said that it can be forgiven and i said I kind of admire those who forgive but ONLY if they truly forgive and can once again give the person their trust 100%, not those that pretend like everything is fine but are still truly hurting and continue to let that situation to affect their marriage entirely.
I've said this three different times.
@TOH, not sure what your aggro is. I do not recall disagreeing with you (or even directly responding to your earlier comments). So,we may agree. PS- I also choose not to speak of people as 'mean' or in anyway insult anyone for expressing an opinion (provided it is not borne out of hatred). Not sure what you wanted from this thread, but hope you got it.  *unsubscribing* |
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kaecy5 (m)
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chineke!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2 fighting
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ThiefOfHearts (f)
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well it seemed like you were trying to say I'm wrong when you're not saying anything that different than me cept for the whole sickness story. Anyway, glad you said your piece and had your fun. CIAO.  don't let the door hit you on your way |
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ThiefOfHearts (f)
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chineke!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2 fighting
you wan fight me? |
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kaecy5 (m)
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impossicant |
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