Working It Out?

I'm married 18 months and things have been terrible. He always thinks he is right, even when he is wrong and does what he wants when he wants and if I complain at all I am always selfish. Everything comes before his family and he doesn't help at all.

I work a 40 week, get the baby up, take to childminder, work, then come home clean and cook and basically go to sleep. He goes to work at his leisure, works, then does what he wants, goes to the pub, watch footie, sees mates but never helps out. The worst thing though is his coldness, he never says or does anything nice for me (i.e, sweet words, a nice gesture, no kisses and no sex). We have not been together really but all the family think we are and some of his family have been off with me becuase they think i am not performing my wofely duties but how can I with no husband!

Lately we have been trying to work it out, really working issues out but he blames it all on me and thinks I should change, I admit I can be a bit moody too at times but I certainly do not nag or pester him. Whilst we are trying to work it out, whilst he will sleep in the same bed, he refuses to hug me, kiss me or have any sexual contact. When I mention as I did a few days ago that intimacy and affection is an important part also that we need work on he says I am selfish and that that is all I am interested in. I have only had sex or any contact with him 3 times this year, twice January and once feb but I am climbing the walls with frustration and it is really affecting me When I raise the subject he just tells me to shut the f**k up and stop being slefish.

I even told him that I don't think he fancies me anymore-even though I do think I am an atttractive woman- and if that is the case I will accept it but I do not want to exist in that kind of cold unaffectionate marriage.

It is really hurting me, I feel so starved of affection, love and a partner that shows any understanding and compassion to me. I just don't know what to do, I think I need to leave this man, his behaviour evens makes me worry he may be gay although he is very against gays-not my opinion but I just can't understand a husband wanting to work things out with his wife but to not have sex-it is 9 months since we last were close.

As I read your post this was what came to my mind. And his having strong anti-gay views is not enough evidence. In my opinion its either this or he probably has someone who meets his needs elsewhere. The guy obviously has no interest inyou or your marriage.

@ebonyeye. would like to add you to my messenger list.

Regards

Deji