When Your Spouse Starts Getting Fat: what should you do?

I'm sure it's not going to be easy, but when it comes down to it, you've got to practice some "tough love". I am usually very conscious about my health, but even I go through times when I just keep eating like there's no tomorrow. I do this when I have some deadlines to meet and I'm under a lot of pressure. I notice that it is usually around this time that I put on most of my weight, because I direct all my attention to the tasks I need to complete and pay less attention to what goes in my mouth. Over the years, I have tried to improve by curbing this habit, but I'm still a work in progress.
Similarly, you can try to look for signs in your wife's habit and take it from there. I can't stress the possible ramifications of obesity. My sister is a nurse and recently lost a patient because of this. The patient was very obese, which led to other problems as well, including those that I listed earlier. He saw also suffering from emphysema, bronchities and edela (in lay man term this means a lot of liquid in a certain part of the body), in this man's case it was excessive amounts of liquid in his stomach, making it difficult for him to breathe. By the time he died, there was practically no circulation around/below the knee.
I am not trying to scare you, but if you care for your wife, you've got to talk to her and try to help her. She might not appreciate it now, but she'll thank you later.







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To answer your question, No. The patient was bed-ridden because he couldn't move around anymore and was having problems breathing on his own. I'm assuming your wife can still move around and can still breathe on her own. However, looking at the picture, I would say that there is cause for concern, especially if she continues to eat the way she does and doesn't see anything wrong with it. Being overweight puts a lot of pressure on our body and stresses it out faster/quicker than what would normally take place and puts our health at risk for other illnesses. One reason being that the heart has to work harder to pump blood through the entire body. If this continues for a long period of time, it will begin to affect the heart and shorten one's life span. Now, her situation might not end up as grave as the patient I mentioned in my earlier post, but I would strongly suggest that you try to see a physician, and let them give you a more accurate analysis. 
 

Sorry, man.  i have no idea about what response would be helpful.  Is she refusing to admit the problem because she feels she can't do anything about it?  You know sometimes to avoid criticism people just clam up.

If him or her being fat really upsets you then you and he/she need to discuss it.  However, not all fatness is harmful - moderately overweight people are actually at an advantage in some areas, especially if they also exercise and eat healthily.

The real issue here is the personal dynamic.  Most heavier people already have an awareness that they are heavier, some actually are naturally heavier. Many times they are comfortable with their size, in others they are not.  In the former they are not really interested in losing, in the latter they are likely to be insecure and resentful.  Bottom line: any advice not asked for is going to be resented.  Ask yourself, how would I feel about someone trying to change me without being asked?

Now a  real surprise - do you know that some people actually LIKE fatness, either in themselves or in others?  Before bringing up to another person the issue of their changing you need to first determine how they feel.  If they change it should be primarily for themselves, not for you.

Send him to the gym

Hey there is a non judgemental site that deals with this issue.

Its for people who are married to fat wives and husbands

www.myfatspouse.com

Before you start whining about spam at least look at it, ITS NOT SPAM, its a real support group for people have this issue where they don't get scolded about being shallow for having natural opinions.

On the other hand they don't tolerate "Dump the Fat B**ch" very well either there are real people who are in this situation that have real ideas and suggestions.

As d woman, put him on a diet, u are d one cooking and fattening him anyway, so research into healthier alternatives, less fried stuff, fruit instead of ice creams and chocolates for desert, less carbs, less meat, more fish, lottsa veggies etc

In a woman's case, guess she gets fat because' you feed her properly. Its' a sign of good health in abundance

tell him/her for check up especially check the liver if is functioning very well.

Why not join him instead, and be his supporter. there is a lot of weight losing solution out there