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frozennose
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Oftentimes i heard couples argue about the church they should wed in and this has caused so many problems leading to family disagreements and total annulment of the marriage plan.
please good people!
Whose church should the wedding be held in?
(Man's church or the Woman's church)
let the truth be told for once
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!amebo no1
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the womans church, but diff strokes for dif folks
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Bokoharam
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the womans church, but diff strokes for dif folks
A TABOO IN IGBOLAND. SO IF U R A YORUBA GIRL MARRYING AN IGBO MAN, GET READY FOR FAMILY FITE. IN FACT, THE MAN'S FAMILY IN EXTREME CASE WON'T COME 4 D WEDDING. |
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jay bee (m)
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jeez, people worry about this 2?  |
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!amebo no1
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A TABOO IN IGBOLAND. SO IF U R A YORUBA GIRL MARRYING AN IGBO MAN, GET READY FOR FAMILY FITE. IN FACT, THE MAN'S FAMILY IN EXTREME CASE WON'T COME 4 D WEDDING.
which part of igbo land do you come from?anambra? cos i know 99.9% of the igbo men do it in the womans church, which obviously looks like the right thing, cos he is planning to take her away you are marrying the woman , why do you go to her parents house for the bride price, why isnt it done at your place |
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platinumnk (f)
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huh. i was told the tradional wedding at the womans place, church wedding at the mans church  |
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!amebo no1
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plat are you from anambra
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cantell (m)
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@Amebo no1,
Which part of Igboland? Pls i need to know. If you're talking of "my mama say i be igbo" guys, that one no follow. A real igboman will never go to his wife's church for their wedding.
Na im wife dey marry am? Hia! no talk that one again oo.
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!amebo no1
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a lot of anambarians believe its the guys church, if the wife no dey marry am why him dey come the girl house to pay dowry
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cantell (m)
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@amebo,
Going to the wife's house to pay the dowry is a tradition. Its the way its done anywhere in Igboland. I don't even have to tell you that if you're really a nwafo.
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!amebo no1
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its not about being a nwafo, is it not part of marrying, tradition or not, is it not part of marriage, i know alot of people that do the wedding in the girls church after that she starts her husband church, the man is marrying her
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cantell (m)
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@amebo,
Those guys are "my mama say i be Igbo"
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echo- bee (f)
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the wife's church
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platinumnk (f)
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plat are you from anambra
no im from imo state. The reason why I said this because I was engaged and me and my fiance discussed this over and over and he is also from Imo state. We would do the traditional wedding at my place, and do the church wedding at his church. |
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jay bee (m)
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^^^^ was  ? why na??? |
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Fhemmmy
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The man see the snake and kill am
The woman see the snake and kill am.
Who cares who kill the snake?
All that matters is that the snake is dead and that none is injured.
So in this case, as long as both couple that are marrying could agree on one, that is all that matters
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lexandra (f)
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The bride's church because you owe her parents this respect and you are coming to take her.
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Fhemmmy
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The bride's church because you owe her parents this respect and you are coming to take her.
Isnt the wedding btw the man and the woman? So if the parents of the woman no care, why do we make a big deal out of it? |
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ubiaa5 (f)
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mostly the wifes church,but not in all cases.
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Fhemmmy
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mostly the wifes church,but not in all cases.
I love that response |
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vanitty
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The lady ofcourse
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Fhemmmy
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The lady ofcourse
What section of the law book dictates this? |
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vanitty
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They are the unwritten laws.
The bride's family is paying for the wedding and reception so obviously they might want to do it in their church
Besides ain't you asking her to marry you? so why should the wedding be done in your church?
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coolier (f)
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Bride's family. They are the one giving their daughter away.
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Fhemmmy
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They are the unwritten laws.
The bride's family is paying for the wedding and reception so obviously they might want to do it in their church
Besides ain't you asking her to marry you? so why should the wedding be done in your church?
You mean the wife's family will pay for the wedding? Be serious jare . . . . .are u for real? |
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vanitty
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lol that is the tradition, the little little you contribute is just a gift but it is actually the bride's family that is meant to pay for the wedding
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Fhemmmy
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lol that is the tradition, the little little you contribute is just a gift but it is actually the bride's family that is meant to pay for the wedding
So how come men are not marrying then, if na the woman family go take care of the bill for the wedding? |
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vanitty
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This summer my diary was so busy, - everyone is marrying o, the ones that are not married are probably not yet ready to take on the responsibilities been married entails not necessary because of the wedding ceremony
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Fhemmmy
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This summer my diary was so busy, - everyone is marrying o, the ones that are not married are probably not yet ready to take on the responsibilities been married entails not necessary because of the wedding ceremony
Are you the lady in the movie "28 Dresses" or how come your diary is full? |
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vanitty
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Lol i am not o You guys excuse that you can't avoid the wedding doesn't hold anymore, stop shirking away from your responsibilities, and if you are at that age go and marry  . . there is no point in bein 30 years old, still wearing hoody and going to clubs shouting bruv bruv . agba ti de |
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Fhemmmy
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Lol i am not o You guys excuse that you can't avoid the wedding doesn't hold anymore, stop shirking away from your responsibilities, and if you are at that age go and marry . . there is no point in bein 30 years old, still wearing hoody and going to clubs shouting bruv bruv . agba ti de hahahahahahahaha Nice one there. But it is not about age, sometimes, it is the space |
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cantell (m)
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@Vanitty,
Are you sure you're a Nigerian? because we're talking of Naija couples here. Pls tell me the parents of a bride that would sponsor a wedding(not traditional wedding) and i would gladly marry their daughter. In a few years time it'll be inevitable, so i'd like to marry now and get it over with.
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