Problem Maintaining A Relationship

My closest friends are female. I'm the guy on who advises them on how to win their guy when he is bent on getting away. When a male perspective is needed, they run to me. The typical bobo nice.   However, I seem to have one problem maintaining a steady relationship. I enter with all the good intentions. However, everytime, after a short while, especially when the lady starts playing wife, I get tired and want to do only one thing. Get out.  These are relationships with women I initially thought are my ideal women. I especially get pissed when the woman start being too submissive.  My last serious GF called me to tell me she's getting married. Then I started thinking. She's a gem though not perfect. I don't see myself as a player and never intend to be. However, I think I've been in too many relationships. Way too much for comfort. Is it something to do with me or something to do with them or just one of those things?

I so much agree with seun i guess u need help. Say the truth it is the sex u want and nothing else isn't? You might end up being a bachelor but surely those girls would not want to end up bn a spinster because of u.
Carry on ok, and when u are old u will become an Aristo. No worries.............
Peace

Eya i feel for u seriously................ I pray u get over this.

na who bottle shuk for leg, na who dey cry?
na who chop sugar, na who belle dey pain?

Thats the way life is we all want different things from life, sometimes you just don't want to settle down yet, there's nothing wrong with that.
You don't need a shrink, you just want variety in your life.

Don't buy into our people's wahala, there's no book that says you have to be married or in a serious relationship by X age,  In my twenties i didn't want to be tied down either (and i wasn't a player  ) just wanted to travel around and experience life etc. But now i'm settling down and it feels ok

At least you're honest with yourself unlike some of our peeps that will get married and still be out hunting for fresh meat everyday

enjoy your life my bros...

I think seun is right,just do as he had said

Bachelors for life say, "yeah!"

Why should you 'pity him', which one is better a man who is honest with himself and is not interested in settling down yet or the guy who gets married but is out chasing skirts every night.

There's no rule that says everybody must settle down, neither is there any rule thats says you'll be happy if you're in a relationship.

Actually this applies mostly to Nigerian ladies, they go out with a guy and 3 months later they are already planning the wedding. I once went out with a girl a long time ago and within 3 months she was already referring to me as her 'fiance'
Of course we had to go our separate ways 'cause i wasn't ready to settle down then and she was going way too fast for my liking.

The bottomline is, if you're ready to settle down now then its all good if not take your time and enjoy your life, its like 'puberty' it doesn't happen to everybody at the same time.

Marriage is not a bed of roses, and it's worse for those who don't put their hearts in it. 

Even if career bachelor isn't ready for marriage until he is 40 years old, he will be able to find a girl.  As long as he's rich and he's amusing, he will get girls as young as 25 years old because young women don't have a problem with old men.  (a career spinster has a bigger problem on her hands because women do not like to date younger men and young men do not tend to date women that are much older when young 'babes' are available)

That only applies if you marry the right person, if you're married to the wrong person, trust me you'll prefer to be single.


 

you don't 'get me' you're just making assumptions

What's the point in getting married if at a point in the dating, you feel like four walls closing in on you? You can't thinking of marriage under that kind of situation. The few times I've really been in relationships when I really thought of settling down, those were with partners who don't want to be held down just yet. I guess if the "one" refuse to surface, bachelor for life isn't such a bad idea. I think the party can continue.

pluto04, The point is, you want independent women, alot of guys do have the same problem like u do but fail to face it. And lots of ladies that get dumped by good guys are ladies that are MISS TOO NICE, TOO CLINGY, TOO SUBMISSIVE. I mean wots the point of being all over a guy, evryone needs a breathing space.

Mide2, You might be right. I really think a woman who is able to have her life without me will be more fun. Maybe that's who you call an independent woman. The ones I've been with were fun. The experience was sweet while it lasted and the breakup wasn't my making. I guess I just needed to get my priorities right. I'm taking a break from relationships till I'm done arranging my priorities. Thanks Mide2 and Otokx for your contributions.