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WebMonk (m)
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I wonder how did some people came to the conclusion that the "spouse" is a "she" If he said "If You Find A Used Condom In Your Wife's Office", it would add up. but the poster used "spouse" Or correct me if spouse if gender specific? As for the question itself. C'mon! Her office! Some people just refuse to see the writings on the wall, (i won't say anything, but to catch her redhanded. then,  ) |
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almondjoy (f)
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Catch her flaming red-butted, then what?  |
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WebMonk (m)
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Do i have to spell it out?  (Though factors may apply)  |
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moneybags
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@moneybags
I laughed when I read your post. 'denying reality' , mmmmmh?
Who is doing just that? me or you?
The only thing I agree with you on is that the situation is sad indeed but oh boy/girl, do your investigation
or simply hang around for a few more years!
Abeg what was funny about my post? In your initial post you imply that infidelity is not a crime if committed by a man? It's people like you that perpetrate nonsense that society coughs up. Infidelity is criminal against the other spouse in a marriage, whether or not the other spouse is a man! If your husband is committing adultery, pretending that you don't see it (according to you, "as long as he's doing it outside") is quite stupid. I wonder how you'ld continue to live with and sleep with your spouse knowing fully well that they're sleeping with someone else  Whao, that's living in denial. Anyway by the time you get one of those STDs, you'ld also pretend that you are well and convince yourself that you'll be around to enjoy your children. Get your self esteem intact. No cheating spouse is worth it. Get out of there before the cheating spouse brings upon you an incurable disease. Most spouses who stay with a cheating spouse and pretend that they don't see that their spouse is cheating are just acting out of fear! So don't come here and try to perpetrate that senselessness. Can you imagine teaching that rubbish to the next generation  it's not a crime for men to cheat but it is a crime for women. Ever asked who the men are cheating with nonsense !!! |
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yewa-man (m)
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I really don't know what I would do,
what would I be lookking for in the waste bin anyway.
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mellow (m)
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I will cross that bridge when I get there.
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Shawdy
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it could be a set up if she is truely faithfull, you'll know but please think before you act
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Shinatu
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@moneybags
I am not good at calling people names like you do so i'll just stick to the mode of a decent
analysis of issues between two adults.
Your analysis of my post must be faulty because I have reread my post and I cannot see where I said I personally regard infidelity by men as crimeless and I cannot find the quote 'as long as he is doing it outside'
I also rememebr actualy agreeing with you that it is a sad case.
Maybe you should take another look at the posts.
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moneybags
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Madam Shinatu (abi na oga), I didn't call you names. I simply said that what you were saying was senseless. Perhaps your post will refresh your memory: . . . When did infidelity become a crime for men in this society?
You better throw way face like you no see anything, thank God that he is using protection and pray that God will continue to bless him so that your Children will be taken care of and their future not jeopardised. . .
When you ask the question "when did infidelity become a crime for men in this society?", it's obvious you're alluding to the fact that it is not a crime for men in this society. And that's quite silly. What kind of advice is "throw way face like you no see anything"? A man is violating the marriage covenant he made with his wife, in a way that can potentially lead to an incurable illness and possibly death, and you're saying "throw way face like you no see anything" And worse still, "thank God that he is using protection"?? Are you for real "pray that God will bless him???" For what??? For cheating on his wife??? You must be kidding me That's nonsense! In fairness to you, you did not have the quote "as long as he's doing it outside" and for that I apologize. |
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(fake)david
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so? shouldnt you be happy he/she at least used a condom?
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mboma (m)
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i will be patient in all what i do until she comes around  so she will not say i did not give her enough chance to defend her self. she migth even say she[i][/i] was not the person that used it. |
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adubiay
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I will let her know is a dirty habit dropping such in the bin, i will just tell her how to dispose it properly in case of next time.
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Luti (m)
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i will watch things slowly, probably was used by someone else. Don't jump into conclusions!!!!
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Mmuosky (m)
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If the office is her alone. I would ask her about it If it is true she had sex with some one, i would have to rethink the marriage. |
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chiboyz (m)
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take a deep breath and and demand an explanation when you've calmed down because there could always be an innocent explanation to why the condom was there,that way you do not jump to conclusion and ruin your relationship.
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bobbteeth
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honestly, i will not say anything immediately untill i catch her red handed and she will be surprise and ever regret for her insatiable attitude. on that day she will also weepppppp  |
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Damoche10
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No need to ask am. I go set trap. If my trap catch am, then I'll send her back to her parents PERIOD!
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dellynash (f)
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would be happy she used a condom! at least no transfer of HIV.
After which I would pay attention to her behaviour and have someone to sniff for me in her office.
I would never confront her until I have a real proof of she is being sleeping with.
The truth is that we can all fall for temptations, if she accept and show remorse and promise to do awau with such
infidelity.
Case Closed oooo, who knows may be na me no dey make love to her well.
I would want to know the reason behind her action to prevent such wahala.
i agree with you
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LITTLEMAMS
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please, pray for God to guide your action. this is really a complicated situation. if not resolved please use DNA test to be sure you are not crucifying your woman for what she never know about. take a deep breath and and demand an explanation when you've calmed down because there could always be an innocent explanation to why the condom was there,that way you do not jump to conclusion and ruin your relationship.
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spaceworld
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The man or The woman, either of the sha how did either know such is the waste bin, well they are bird of the same feather
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Sonye (f)
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Well, to console myself, i might just say Its better than seeing a text message on his phone saying "I'm pregnant and i need you to come and face your responsibility" (That happened to my friend)
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donchigo1
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hello friend.
don't just jump into conclusion immediately just wait a little while and see what your spouse action will be .
may be some body who has seen how close both of you are, may want to be an obstacle to your relationship by puting the condom in the office, so don't suspect any thing, just carry on with your life.
or if you are not comfortable with the way things are moving just call her to order and ask her some questions regarding the condom you saw in the office.
just ask playfully how come about the condom in the office or else you will be at the verge of terminating your relationship but check yourselves very well if you two are not cheating each other. if you are not too sure then go for a DNA test . i think that is the best but for it .
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rowlandwhy
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You guys think like babies at times,
How can one dispose such thing in his / her personal bin
of course their are dustbin in the gent/ladies where he or she can dispose it sharp sharp
i don't think it can be done any where
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Veracious (f)
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The question was a general one that applies to both males and females spouses.
@ post
The fact that Him/her used a condom shows sensibility;now for such a person to dispose the condom in the waste basket right there in the office is outright insensibility,because the cleaners or other colleagues would see it and think of the him (whichever case) as someone who is not responsible.
Such an experience would bring disaster. It does'nt matter how much you love your spouse; it would definentely bring out the other side of you,you never knew existed.
so the best bet is such should never even occour.
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oziomatv (m)
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Our lawyer will have a case for the moment if he does'nt have any at the moment.
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moondust (m)
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then d wind must have blown it in through the window  |
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Sirop (f)
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It probably was a co-worker that wanted to do it for a thrill thinking the cleaning crew would trash it first or they are trying to sabotage your marriage. Take a picture of it. Go on with your life if your spouse continues to slip and cheat catch him/her then and show your proof.
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moondust (m)
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It probably was a co-worker that wanted to do it for a thrill thinking the cleaning crew would trash it first or they are trying to sabotage your marriage. Take a picture of it. Go on with your life if your spouse continues to slip and cheat catch him/her then and show your proof.
yeah, .how convenient |
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Sirop (f)
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@ moondust
Sure it can some jealous little girl who wants her boss, but the boss is refusing so she humps her boyfriend or tampers with a condom, place the condom in the office. Now his wife is mad at him and she may get a chance. It can happen either way by the female employee or male employee.
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dot2002 (f)
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That is a little naughty habit to keep a used condoms in the waste basket in da office she might as well flush them down the toilet or at best eat them!!! i heard they contain proteins or some form of polymer, it should have been disposed off properly. It will be hilarious and i will screech hard and loud about it . |
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tommyex (m)
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or at best eat them!!! i heard they contain proteins or some form of polymer ehen!Jesus is lord eat it like meat abi?lol |
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