Distant Relationship; How Can It Be Valued.

I have started experiencing untrustworthy from my fiancee, because of the distance between us. She has her reasons:Her tertiary institution was run like a day school, and was posted too far for her NYSC. She complains that am too close to girls, my friends are mostly the opposite sex. She is not too comfortable with that.

She has had many faceoff with them occasionally, when she engage with her surprise visit.
My friends have always counted her as a lucky girl for having somebody like me who loves and talks about her all the time.

For crying out loud, am i guy, a lot of girls are making a lot of passes on, even my female friends a looking for the slightest opportunities to come in. Last year december we had a serious quarrel over a particular girl, she calls ' my bed mate' and she is walking out of the relationship.

This so call bedmate has be consistent in my life, was a business associate and a friend, apparently we got too close for comfort, having been this close, she wanted it all. By so doing she deviced a secret measure to get my fiancee upset, all in a bid to get her out of the picture. Her reason: She believes that we share a special bound, that she is always there to listen to me and gives me the attention i needed. We are practically everywhere, and she has completely shield me from other girls.

I like her, but i don't love her, she has been there for 2yrs, but my fiancee for 7yrs. She knows am engage, she has her boyfriend too, but she just want to be around me because she finds me funny and interesting to be with.

But i came to a conclusion last year december, am through her and her likes, deleted all the female numbers in my phone after sending them a text message of my wedding plans. I did all this for my fiancee. Am a new person now. I promise not to hurt her

The problem here in my fiancee, she is still bent at calling it quit, i really love her, because i have built my world around her. Even when she gives me light that,  she's still not the same. We don't flow freely on the phone.

Am truely in love with her, I don't think i can live without her .

What do i do ?     

this one pass my power, ya'll got issues to deal with.

hmmmmmmmm,

The trouble got fueled when my so called bed mate cunningly stole her number from my phone and sent her a stinker, both the true and untrue stories about us. I noticed they were both sending each other mms, and inturn  forwarding their replies to me. I thought i would die that night, Cos each time i try to call one of them, it reads 'number busy' meaning that they have started exchanging words.

Then, suddenly: their phones went dead that night. By morning,  my fiancee had bought a new sim card and throw the other away, and kept me in the dark for one month. Her intention was to be gone from me, for good. That she can't take it anymore.

It ain't easy  trying to get my fiancee's divided attention to listen to me again. I did get her number somehow and got all the humans that knows us both to come to my rescue.I just can't live without her.

After 3 weeks of 'operation save my soul' crusade by my friends and families. I can a least talk to her on the phone without much pains in my heart.

But things are not yet the same, basically i have not seen her since then. She does not want to see me yet, we only reconcile a little' through the phone,  Everybody talked to her through the phone ( I hope MTN will give me a discount for all the calls that was made that period) She is yet to flash me, lest mms or call me.

Each time i call, she's either too busy, tired, need some sleep or some sought. All i get is please call back later.

Am in love with this girl, she is everything to me. Hmmmmm, Do you know i had an accident in the cause of this emotional trauma, I went through hell when i was at the verge of losing her.

My so called bed mate did apologised to me, but i have told her to never to come close to my doorstep again. Am planning a move out to a new location, just to put my past behind me.

I need my fiancee back, i need to solidify her trust  for me once again, How do i go 'bout it.

This so called  name 'bed mate', was never in existence. My fiancee gave her that name.
We all now that among your friends, their is a Judas. Among the ladies, we have serious deperados. All these could only materialised to this chaos if one part of the relationship does not get that fullfilment.

The distant relationship and its value: I need one guy, or a girl to tell me what he or she does when his/her girlfriend leaves for 4months or some.

Then check mine, that last this mush consistently for 6yrs or more. Its true we have tom boys ( girls that finds hanging around guys more interesting than their fellow girls). And the opposite do exist, maybe, because i was born a twin with a girl by my side.

My fiancee is not just anybody, she is very special. And she knows too that am a rare gem. We are just meant for each other.
There is no relationship that does not have little ups and downs. Its this ill, when experienced, bounds and straigthen  the two together.

If you think i went too far and i deserved it, what make you think she has a clean slate over the years. I did embraced her in the longrun when she made her own mistakes too.

You see, its the ability to recognise you mistakes that shows that you are ready, and matured in heart and mind.

This girl, my fiancee happen to be the person i have moulded to fit the description of a perfect, natural and virtues woman.

Funny, how poeple forget things so soon, am 31yrs old while she is 23yrs ol'. Everything i have done, i did for her. I have giving her reasons to live life like every other previlege citizen in this country.


'I owe you my love',  this was exact words.

Am only living to honour it to eternity

So am not too proud to beg for what i know is my own,   

wahala wa o 

my only advice for u is that, take things easy o. if u die today because of one chick, omo, thousands of them go walk on your grave o. if u try all what they told u above and it doesnt work out. pick up yourself, experience is d best teacher. this one go teach u next time to ALWAYS cherish watever u ve next time.

but i pray things work out between d two of u sha,  pele o

This issue has stuffs!

Pass my comprehension!

Thanks guys, y'all one in a million

Guess what,   I sent her a txt: reading i quote

ONE MINUTE UR LINE IS BUSY, D
NXT, IT'S SWITCHD OFF, WEN  I
LUCKILY GET THRU, DATS WEN You R VERY
BUSY, SO TIRED N NT IN D MOOD TO TALK,
STILL SLEEPG OR SOM SOUGHT; TELLG ME
TO CALL BACK LATER. BABY, You SEE, I NEED
UR ATTENTION MORE DAN EVA NOW, I HAV
GIVEN UP ALL MA FRIENDS, 'COS 80% OF
THEM R GURLS, DIS You KNOW.
AM TOO LONELY 4 COMFORT. I JUST NID
5MINS OF UR TIME ON LINE EACH DAY. AM I
ASKG 4 TOO MUCH. I DNT GET UR MISSD CALLS,
LEST FLASHG OR TEXT. You DNT EVEN MAKE USE
OF FREE NITE CALLS? WAT R You DOING TO ME?
THERE IS AN EMPTINESS INSIDE OF ME. WHERE IS
UR LOVE? 'COS MINE STILL LIVES



Surprisely i got the first mms from her after 2months, it was as if God turn her heart a little: Reading i qoute

PLS,CAN You SEND ME 1500MTN CARD ,  PLEASE


Surprisely, the first flashing after 2month came afterward: i presume, just an act to confirm the reciept of her mms


I didd send to her, within 3mins,  a 1500mtn card, and an extra 400mtn card as jara.

Then we talked, after 6hrs ( i called her) we had a conversation that lasted for 10mins, solely on a nuetral gound, then saying she sent the 1500mtn to her kid brother to sell, and save herself the 400mtn. I have never felt this healing before.

Please tell me folks,  could this be real, 'because this is the first time she asked me 'bout my health since 2months ago. But she is yet to reply me she still loves me too each time i tell her mine, she only waives it aside, What do i do next    

oh boi, u know wetin be hot soup?? na there u dey now!!
she hasnt made any meaningful attempt to know how u are doing, not even responding to your calls and all, then after 2 months she replies your long text asking for credit?
is that who u are crying for?? 7 years?? i'm so sorry, and don't mean to pry, but brother, na so una dey do una lof that time??? u get money ooo!! to throw way!!
on the real tho, i don't think u should push harder than u have, u've don alot already and like u hinted, alot of girls are making passes, why don't u filter through and move the hell on,
kai, i dey long distance relationship too, but if u really want it to work, u have to cultivate some level of maturity, because that long distance wont be forever if u work towards it,


let her go,