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yemstrad (m)
Can a Father Marry His Deceased Son's Widow?
« on: December 09, 2005, 04:41 PM »

roomies, it happened in Ife (Osun State, Nigeria) and we heard & watch it some 3 weeks ago, on Galaxy TV via a popular TV show tagged Nkan Nbe being anchored weekly by Kola Olawuyi.

I was perplexed when the father (100 years old) affirmed his relationship (3 kids now) with the late son's widow (2 kid before his death).

Could it be that the father was instrumental to his son's death or could it be he has been digging the woman before the son's death.

Is there anything wrong in what he has done.
sweetnini (f)
Re: Can a Father Marry His Deceased Son's Widow?
« #1 on: December 09, 2005, 04:54 PM »

of course it's wrong there is no need to ask this question
can u do it?
yemstrad (m)
Re: Can a Father Marry His Deceased Son's Widow?
« #2 on: December 09, 2005, 05:02 PM »

Well, he may have done so to prevent the woman from being out of his household. Who knows, the woman may be a very nice one whom he did not want to loose after the death of his son.

As for me i can't do it but it happened live in Ife (Osun State). What do you think this old man deserve as reward?
sweetnini (f)
Re: Can a Father Marry His Deceased Son's Widow?
« #3 on: December 09, 2005, 05:12 PM »

i can't really say
but if the guy really want her to stay he mustnt marry her for goodness sake she is his sons wife and has hisgrandchildren Angry
yemstrad (m)
Re: Can a Father Marry His Deceased Son's Widow?
« #4 on: December 09, 2005, 05:25 PM »

nini, we've got to see ur live pix and not this flower (rose - am i right?). back to the point, this man should be probed by ICPC i suppose.
Viktor (m)
Re: Can a Father Marry His Deceased Son's Widow?
« #5 on: December 09, 2005, 05:31 PM »

Oh what a shameless father that would be....................
yemstrad (m)
Re: Can a Father Marry His Deceased Son's Widow?
« #6 on: December 09, 2005, 05:53 PM »

Shameless indeed. The old papa is now deaf but not dumb. The woman at the center of this matter has to thunder into his ear to get him hear what people say.

I guess the man is already getting his judgement on earth.
Seun (m)
Re: Can a Father Marry His Deceased Son's Widow?
« #7 on: December 10, 2005, 10:21 PM »

I see nothing wrong with it
yemstrad (m)
Re: Can a Father Marry His Deceased Son's Widow?
« #8 on: December 12, 2005, 03:51 PM »

Quote from: Seun on December 10, 2005, 10:21 PM
I see nothing wrong with it


Seun, i want to believe the above piece is from u. How on earth, u deemed the old man was right with what he has done? then we can categorically place the death of his son at his door step.

controversial entry we got from u or could it be a case of impersonation ?
prettyH (f)
Re: Can a Father Marry His Deceased Son's Widow?
« #9 on: December 12, 2005, 10:55 PM »

Quote from: Seun on December 10, 2005, 10:21 PM
I see nothing wrong with it

Nothing wrong ke..please there's everything wrong ...infact very wrong.
damygurl (f)
Re: Can a Father Marry His Deceased Son's Widow?
« #10 on: December 13, 2005, 01:15 AM »

what!! Yucky!!Yucky!EWW!!EWWW!! that is so wrong!!! wats wrong with da father? and y in d world did da woman agree to something liked that maybe they used juju on her because that is gotta be da only way she gon marry her late husbands father and eevn have sex with him. gosh that is too disgusting to think about!!!
conscience (m)
Re: Can a Father Marry His Deceased Son's Widow?
« #11 on: December 13, 2005, 05:51 AM »

What are you people fighting about?
The man is dead and the woman is free.
Its the case of '' His place , let another man take''
Abi your quarell is because the oldman is the father of the late husband?
If na you nko?
Will you be looking after food, for another person to eat?
CARRY GO BABA.........NA BLOOD DEY UR BODY JARE.
WHAT A YOUNG MAN CAN DO AN OLDMAN CAN SHOW WITH EXPERIENCE.
damygurl (f)
Re: Can a Father Marry His Deceased Son's Widow?
« #12 on: December 13, 2005, 09:44 PM »

what? say that again will ya? so u telling me u can marry ur sons wife if God forbid he dies!!!
conscience (m)
Re: Can a Father Marry His Deceased Son's Widow?
« #13 on: December 13, 2005, 10:48 PM »

Yes! Yes! Yes!
If it is acceptable norm within my culture.
prettyH (f)
Re: Can a Father Marry His Deceased Son's Widow?
« #14 on: December 13, 2005, 10:51 PM »

Quote from: conscience on December 13, 2005, 10:48 PM
Yes! Yes! Yes!
If it is acceptable norm within my culture.

Are u saying it's acceptable in ur culture or if it were acceptable? Huh Huh
conscience (m)
Re: Can a Father Marry His Deceased Son's Widow?
« #15 on: December 14, 2005, 11:11 AM »

Quote from: prettyH on December 13, 2005, 10:51 PM
Are u saying it's acceptable in your culture or if it were acceptable? Huh Huh
It is not acceptable in my culture.
But if it were, i will do it without winking Wink
What will you say, in India or other CulturesĀ  a sister marries the husband of herĀ  late sister, if she is still single.
OR in Tiv land and other places, where a son takes over the step mother[s] in the event of his father's death.
Or in the same Tiv land, where, a host friend shows appreciation of his bond with you, by offering you his wife to take to bed on a visit. A Gesture you are expected to reciprocate..........NA WA, THIS ONE I NO FIT DO OR NA MATCHET I GO USE FOR MORNING CHOP PERSON NECK THROWE! Shocked Shocked Shocked Shocked Shocked
Its just a thing of the mind and perception.
SHIKEENA!
christyne (f)
Re: Can a Father Marry His Deceased Son's Widow?
« #16 on: December 14, 2005, 12:35 PM »

Very disgusting.The fact dt d son is dead does not give d old man priority over his son's wife.It is really a bad thing and the man is a disgrace to his generation and all yorubas.

Quote
CARRY GO BABA.........NA BLOOD DEY UR BODY JARE.

Even if blood dey him body,he for go hotel go carry babes,that would have been better.
conscience (m)
Re: Can a Father Marry His Deceased Son's Widow?
« #17 on: December 14, 2005, 01:09 PM »

Quote from: christyne on December 14, 2005, 12:35 PM
Very disgusting.The fact dt d son is dead does not give d old man priority over his son's wife.It is really a bad thing and the man is a disgrace to his generation and all yorubas.

Even if blood dey him body,he for go hotel go carry babes,that would have been better.
Leave the one were dey for house?
na wa .
yemstrad (m)
Re: Can a Father Marry His Deceased Son's Widow?
« #18 on: December 14, 2005, 06:24 PM »

The old baba is 100 now, the TV series had it that the son died 1987. With simple arithmetic, the baba was 82 when the son died. What would an 87 yr old man be able to dig in a young woman?

The baba just manage give himself bad name before his death, simple as ABC.

Nature abhors lacuna, so there is no culture that will allow abnormal things in this jet age. Even, if thos ab things have been there in the past.

I still insist (God, please don't slap my mouth o) that, the old man was involved in his son's death.
christyne (f)
Re: Can a Father Marry His Deceased Son's Widow?
« #19 on: December 15, 2005, 10:22 AM »

Na wa o, only God fit judge sha.
yemstrad (m)
Re: Can a Father Marry His Deceased Son's Widow?
« #20 on: January 01, 2006, 03:51 PM »

But some people are saying there is nothing wrong in what the old man has done, even in this forum.
Sassykes (f)
Re: Can a Father Marry His Deceased Son's Widow?
« #21 on: January 01, 2006, 06:11 PM »

EWWW that is so gross on so many levels, what the hell was he and the freaking female thinking. eww before i get insultive and use nasty words i will leave this topic alone.
allonym
Re: Can a Father Marry His Deceased Son's Widow?
« #22 on: January 03, 2006, 07:12 AM »

what is eww or gross about this?

Nobody mentioed how old the woman isshe could be 80 to the man's 100.

I suppose you'all find it gross when two people over 80 get married?

Seriously, what is wrong with this situation?  A man marries a woman. . happens everyday.  The woman is a widow. . happnes a lot.  The woman's husband was his son. . . rare. . but I can't see anything wrong with this either.  I can't even think of any culture that finds this wrong.
yemstrad (m)
Re: Can a Father Marry His Deceased Son's Widow?
« #23 on: January 08, 2006, 01:29 PM »

Quote from: allonym on January 03, 2006, 07:12 AM
what is eww or gross about this?

Nobody mentioed how old the woman isshe could be 80 to the man's 100.

I suppose you'all find it gross when two people over 80 get married?

Seriously, what is wrong with this situation? A man marries a woman. . happens everyday. The woman is a widow. . happnes a lot. The woman's husband was his son. . . rare. . but I can't see anything wrong with this either. I can't even think of any culture that finds this wrong.

Bro, it is a bad thing. Period.

The woman is about 40 - 45.

he entire family members have deserted the old man already.
prettyH (f)
Re: Can a Father Marry His Deceased Son's Widow?
« #24 on: January 08, 2006, 02:20 PM »

@ allonym,

what concerns age and the man's action? Its simply wrong. Can't he cater for her without marrying her? And u mention the fact that cultures permit such a ludicrous act. Sorry to burst your bubble, mine doesn't .
Advin (m)
Re: Can a Father Marry His Deceased Son's Widow?
« #25 on: January 08, 2006, 04:44 PM »

father marry his daughter inlaw!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! that's punishable by death.
How would the father feel? doesn't he have any consience? It totally wrong.
mizkay (f)
Re: Can a Father Marry His Deceased Son's Widow?
« #26 on: January 08, 2006, 04:50 PM »

which kine one too be that? chei!!! wonders ooooo......anyway make i just catch my papa.....i go kill am finish....!!!1
allonym
Re: Can a Father Marry His Deceased Son's Widow?
« #27 on: January 08, 2006, 07:29 PM »

Quote from: yemstrad on January 08, 2006, 01:29 PM
Bro, it is a bad thing. Period.

The woman is about 40 - 45.

he entire family members have deserted the old man already.
What is bad about it?

Quote from: prettyH on January 08, 2006, 02:20 PM
@ allonym,

what concerns age and the man's action? Its simply wrong. Can't he cater for her without marrying her? And u mention the fact that cultures permit such a ludicrous act. Sorry to burst your bubble, mine doesn't .
Why can't he marry her?  What is your culture - where are you from, your tribe etc?

Quote from: Advinchi on January 08, 2006, 04:44 PM
father marry his daughter inlaw!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! that's punishable by death.
How would the father feel? doesn't he have any consience? It totally wrong.
Punishable by death under what law or under which culture?
yemstrad (m)
Re: Can a Father Marry His Deceased Son's Widow?
« #28 on: January 09, 2006, 02:26 PM »

Please, don't make it more ridiculous than it is presently. How on earth can this be morally acceptable? Infact, i feel like Government should just go and put this man into KiriKiri maximum prison in Apapa.

Let him start experiencing hell from this earth. He is a foolish old man  Angry Angry Angry
christyne (f)
Re: Can a Father Marry His Deceased Son's Widow?
« #29 on: January 09, 2006, 03:49 PM »

Yea i agree with u.He's a foolish old man,he deserve to be buried alive.
Ohun ti o da o loruko meji,koda lo nje (what is bad does not have two names,its always bad.)
mmomi (f)
Re: Can a Father Marry His Deceased Son's Widow?
« #30 on: January 09, 2006, 04:49 PM »

Where is guiness book of records!! From papa to husband, abomination of highest order.If this happens to appear in website it will read www.error-error........wonders shall never end Roll Eyes
allonym
Re: Can a Father Marry His Deceased Son's Widow?
« #31 on: January 09, 2006, 05:13 PM »

Quote from: mmomi on January 09, 2006, 04:49 PM
Where is guiness book of records!! From papa to husband, abomination of highest order.If this happens to appear in website it will read www.error-error........wonders shall never end Roll Eyes

Quote from: christyne on January 09, 2006, 03:49 PM
Yea i agree with u.He's a foolish old man,he deserve to be buried alive.
Ohun ti o da o loruko meji,koda lo nje (what is bad does not have two names,its always bad.)

Quote from: yemstrad on January 09, 2006, 02:26 PM
Please, don't make it more ridiculous than it is presently. How on earth can this be morally acceptable? Infact, i feel like Government should just go and put this man into KiriKiri maximum prison in Apapa.

Let him start experiencing hell from this earth. He is a foolish old man Angry Angry Angry

So pretty much nobody has any reason for why they feel the way they do.

Funny how everyone wants to kill the man, what about the woman?  I don't remember her being forced into a marriage.
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