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iamworried (f)
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How Do I Tighten My Vagina- My Husband Complains That It Is Loose !
@ doctor or anyone in the house that can advise me
i had my first child about 9months ago. since then, my husband has been seriously complaining that my vagina is no longer tight , ie. it is now loose. this has seriously affected our lovelife. please, how can i tighten my vagina? i have been doing keagal exercises PROPERLY for about 6months now but there seem to be no positive effect. is there any herb that i can use. someone advised me to use kaun<potash> to rinse my vagina as this will help greatly. please, will this work? i am really bothered about this, i want my husband to fell the tightness that he had enjoyed previously with me. thanks
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layi (m)
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Get a copy of Citypeople magazine, so many ads of shops selling shrinka/vaginal tightener. Alternatively you can get down to De plazaville shopping complex by Allen Junction, Awolowo way, Ikeja. Ask for Sparkles love shop. They sell shrinka. It works very well.
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rikkyjen (m)
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Didnt he know childbirth was going to make you slack,he is an inconsiderate and selfish guy! Is it your fault that you are now slacked up? if he didnt want you to slack up, then why did he mess you inside out till you got pregnant!  This kind of guy makes the sane men wonder why every men should have balls. it aint for everybody i swear!. Well, during sex, the best bet for you is to contrast your muscle and tighten up your legs.!
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Seun (m)
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i had my first child about 9months ago. since then, my husband has been seriously complaining that my vagina is no longer tight , ie. it is now loose. At least you've learnt something: next time you hear that a woman chose to deliver her baby through a Cesarean section CS), you probably won't accuse her of being "selfish". I'm going to encourage my own wife to do just that. For you, it's too late, so let's talk about solutions. First, be careful of what you put in your vagina. Don't listen to anybody who won't compensate you if his suggestion causes damage. Why not follow your gyneacologist's advice?
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hot-angel (f)
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Ohh your husband is not a nice man. I mean for heaven's sake, . . .
Anyways, i would say you talk to your gynaecologist . I think s/he will have the best advice for you.
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miky (m)
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whether he is nice or not, he is man enough to tell her what he senses or feel.you guys should talk more its another phase for marriage.
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Seun (m)
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Ohh your husband is not a nice man. I mean for heaven's sake, . . . He may not have said it the way you imagine. Complaining is better than going out to hunt for tight vaginas.
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hot-angel (f)
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Seun, that's a good way to look at it.
And i also have to say that, it's better your husband told you. I still say u see your gynaecologist though. Because this Potash thingy, i don't trust.
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LadyT (f)
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At least you've learnt something: next time you hear that a woman chose to deliver her baby through a Cesarean section CS), you probably won't accuse her of being "selfish". I'm going to encourage my own wife to do just that.
For you, it's too late, so let's talk about solutions. First, be careful of what you put in your vagina. Don't listen to anybody who won't compensate you if his suggestion causes damage. Why not follow your gyneacologist's advice?
Seun after you see tha pain your wife will be in after the C-section you will regret you made your selfish sugesstion. Young lady you don't need creams or anything to make the vagina regain its tightness you need to do pelvic floor excercises. This is for all women who have given birth and those who havent you ALL should do this. Right here it is nicely put on the net: What are the pelvic floor muscles? The pelvic floor muscles form a broad sling between your legs from the pubic bone in front to the base of your spine at the back. They help to hold the bladder, womb and bowel in place and to control the muscles that close the anus, vagina and urethra. When the pelvic floor muscles are weakened or damaged, as the result of childbirth for example, they cannot do this effectively. This can result in stress incontinence, decreased satisfaction during intercourse and prolapse. Stress incontinence means that you might leak small amounts of urine while coughing, sneezing, laughing or exercising. It is estimated that up to 25 per cent of new mothers suffer from stress incontinence. How do pelvic floor exercises help me? Pelvic floor exercises can strengthen these muscles so that they function effectively again. The more you use them, the stronger they will be. Strong pelvic floor muscles can support the extra weight of pregnancy, help in the second stage of labour and, by increasing your circulation, assist in healing the perineum between the anus and vagina after birth. When done regularly, these exercises can help to prevent stress incontinence and prolapse in later life. Another benefit of the exercises is that women with strengthened pelvic floor muscles are more likely to be orgasmic and have a more satisfying sex life! How do I find my pelvic floor muscles? Imagine that you are trying to stop yourself from passing wind and trying to stop your flow of urine mid-stream, at the same time. The feeling is one of "squeeze and lift", closing and drawing up the front and back passages. (When you have practised the exercises for a while, you could also try this during love-making, asking your partner whether he can feel the effect.) Of course, that sounds easy enough. But the catch is that you have to squeeze and lift without: • pulling in your tummy • squeezing your legs together • tightening your buttocks • holding your breath In other words, only your pelvic floor muscles should be working. Just as children learn to wink by using all their facial muscles at the beginning, you might find it difficult to use your pelvic floor muscles in isolation at first. It does get easier with practice though. You might find it helpful to place a hand on your abdomen while you are practising, to make sure it stays relaxed. If you're unsure whether you are doing this exercise correctly, you could try the following. As long as there are no contra-indications -- and provided you have recovered from childbirth -- put one or two fingers in your vagina when you are having a bath and try the exercise. You should feel a gentle squeeze if you are exercising the pelvic floor. Your vagina will go back to normal if not better.
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Seun (m)
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Seun after you see tha pain your wife will be in after the C-section you will regret you made your selfish sugesstion. 1) Come on, try to be real. C-sections far less painful than natural childbirth. 2) In addition to that, C-sections never result in torn privates. 3) If I was a woman, I would go for a C-section, so this is not a selfish suggestion.
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LadyT (f)
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Seun Seun for Gods sake. The pain of being ripped open lasts for days. And then when the stitches are taken out. Its best to go through the natural way if you can and be done with it. C sections prolong pain.
You can fix your vagina do the exercises! Seun you either love your woman for who she is or you love her vagina. why put her through that pain? Please don't ever advise or pressure a woman to have a C section done
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Seun (m)
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You seriously believe that a proper C-section is more painful than natural childbirth? Have you ever had one?  Here's a testimony from someone who went through the procedure: I had one and it wasn't too bad. I'm not sure how they do things where you are but this is what happened when I had mine.
I was worried about being awake during it and wondering how I would feel knowing that they were cutting me open. I had the epidural and that wasn't as bad as I thought. I went into the operating room and a few minutes later my husband was there. It was a weird feeling, I could not feel any pain but I could feel them tugging and pulling and then I could here a cry, it was over a done with within 5 minutes. They stitched me up while I was holding my daughter . I spent the rest of the day in bed. The next day they made me get up, I mostly sat in a chair but they said it would be worse to recover if I wasn't moving around. By day three I was walking around like normal, I would have slight pain if I turned to do something quickly but overall I was feeling great. When you first start walking just start by doing one lap of your room and slowly increase it. But please try to walk straight right from the start. If you start to walk hunched over and then try to straighten up a few days later it will be much worse. For the first few days they should ( did for me ) give you strong painkillers. When I was home I took Panadol ( Paracetamol sp??) for a week just to make sure. They said to take painkillers every four hours or so for a week. Even if the others haven't worn off yet. It is easier to control the pain when you don't know it is there. If you leave it too long before taking something it is much harder to get rid of the pain once it is there ( did that make sense?? ) Even though I didn't feel like I needed to take any painkillers once I was home I did as the hospital said. My recovery went well. I have diabetes and it is easier for everyone invloved for me to have C- sections so I know that will happen again next time and I will not be worried in the slightest. http://www.babynamesworld.com/forum/topic8729.html
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LadyT (f)
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No I have not. I did work experience on a maternity and gynecology ward  what my eyes saw! My mother has had two and two of my aunts have had them. All have also had natural birth. They all said Natural was better because the pain didnt go on for weeks. The pain of natural birth lasts until the baby is born. But with the C-section it goes on for a lot longer after the baby is born the healing process is long and painful, C-sections are operations it takes time to recover!
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LadyT (f)
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Yes reading what she is saying is distressing. People who have natural birth don't need to be on pain killers or coached on how to walk its not worth it if you don't need it.
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davidylan (m)
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At least you've learnt something: next time you hear that a woman chose to deliver her baby through a Cesarean section CS), you probably won't accuse her of being "selfish". I'm going to encourage my own wife to do just that.
 Poor woman! Do you know the pain and discomfort women go through to have a CS? My mom had just me by CS and my dad nearly had a heartattack. My brothers went the normal route. Lucky fellows! Abeg, by all means allow your wife to have her babies normally. CS is only for emergencies. I pray never to have to face that decision when the time comes!
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showbobo (m)
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Its likely you left yourself open after delivery and air has possibly entered you which has expanded your vagina.You know your vagina is quite elastic and the air must have expanded it.You can go to loveshops for shrinka but not all work and are quite expensive.So, if you are a yoruba woman you should know ALAGBO(herb seller).they have good herbs that would help you tighten it in a jiffy.Oyinbo medicines nowadays are not 100% efficient but our herbs here really work.So,give this a trial and lets hear from you it.
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chynes (f)
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@ Seun,
How many children are you planning to have?
2, 3, 4 or More?
and you will expect your wife to go through such a procedure each time?
A CS for that matter which is usually a pretty painful experience that
usually takes time for the woman to recover.
If you've had your appendix removed and that is veeeeeeeery minor compared to CS,
you may not be talking like this.
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Man-eater (f)
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its psychological. your husband and alot of guys think it will slack so his mind is thinking it has when it hasnt.
there are alot of soaps i see that are for vaginal tightening.
if you have the money and your not planning on having anymore kids you can have a vagina reconstructive surgery.
or try yoga and pilates they work on tightening the pelvic muscles.
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seunwiz
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ever heard of Modupe Ozoluwa, she will be of great help n after that your husband shld beg for it n make sure his cheque book is under d pillow 
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danniecool (m)
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I think this is for man and woman, I gat no experience on issue like this. But I think there some drug for Vagina tightening but are pretty expensive is better for a woman to go through the process of natural child birth than the C section is a kind of ricky and painful.
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Coco29 (f)
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Mr admin i hope you did not mess with my post  like i said before, there is no need for the woman to suffer or have an expensive operation. pelvic floor exercise works well and if you do it correctly, your vagina will go back to normal.
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nikynike (f)
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Get needle and thread tell your husband to help u tighten your vagina. When u've not stayed for a year u want it tight again so that u can have another baby. Make sure u attend immunization the nurses will tell u several ways to do it.
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English1 (f)
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Tell your husband his privates must have shrunk!
What a selfish man.
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tee-tee (f)
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I will advise that you see your gyneacologist and be very careful with what you put into your vigina.
@Seun ----The best way to have your baby is through the natural way. C-section is never advisable except otherwise, ask any good doctor.
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eniola1310 (f)
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the exercise works well. try it !!
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LadyT (f)
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Its likely you left yourself open after delivery and air has possibly entered you which has expanded your vagina.You know your vagina is quite elastic and the air must have expanded it.You can go to loveshops for shrinka but not all work and are quite expensive.So, if you are a yoruba woman you should know ALAGBO(herb seller).they have good herbs that would help you tighten it in a jiffy.Oyinbo medicines nowadays are not 100% efficient but our herbs here really work.So,give this a trial and lets hear from you it.
Showbobo where did you study your mode of science? There is NO NEED FOR ANY DRUGS OR CREAMS.
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indo (f)
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@seau na wa o! u would let your wife go through that because of a 'slack' hmmmmm!
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cynthia (f)
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nawa o, i am just laughing and imagning if i get married and start having babies, here, so this is how child birth seems like, i don't even feel like giving birth nor getting married with all this i am reading. its going to be very tough u know? @ seun - so you would allow your the Doctor to tear up your wife's tommy 5 times even if you are are going to have 5 babies. nawa for you o, 
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la! (m)
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i think its the "tightness" problem is mostly a psycological one for your husband ,i mean how tight does it hav to be to please?  , d tragedy is,he still might not be content after all your reconstruction efforts and what not,bt i feel if your goin2 try a remedy do the excercise thing like coco29 suggested.sounds safer, all the best
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showbobo (m)
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Lady T,what i said really works its from experience.lets wait and hear from her if she tries it.
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