How To Tighten My Vagina After Pregnancy

iamworried, don't spend your limited time replying me.  Go do the exercises and sort out your love life. 

@iamworried

This your husband ehn, let me just keep my mouth, the words in my mouth are heavy, I think he's the one the needs to go and see a doctor. Didnt his parents ever teach him about sex? manhood and womanhood? did they tell him that when he marries a wife, her privates might become a 'looser' (after the first child-birth) compared to the first night after the wedding? This your man doesnt understand the definition of marriage - i think.

What will happen after 2-more children(assuming you guys plan on having three). And what will happen when boobies begin sagging, when wrinkles begin appearing here and there, and when your abdomen becomes a belly. I guess he will file for divorce, abi. What did he mean when he answered 'I do' to till-death-do-us-part?

And this thread just got me thinking about the older generation of wives who had 5+ kids. We can't assume that all those wives' privates will be as-tight-as, after the first child pops out. A fam'ly friend of ours has 11(9 boys and 2girls). I mean shouldnt we commend those husbands for sticking to their wives. They stuck to their wives, raised up monogamous and even polygamous families and they still loved each other.

I think a husband should continue loving his wife no matter what. Whether it becomes loose, looser or loosest, let the love increase and continue firing on. Its not a sickness we are talking about, what if (God forbid) something happens and a wife becomes incapacitated to have sex, these kind of husbands will throw away their wives.

When I saw the number of replies this post had generated in 3 days, I was mesmerized. Wao, Nairaland users sure are interested in this kind of topic. I am not going to say much.
As a doctor I have this to say:
1. Pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeease don't put anything in that vagina. Do not put herbs or something in the vagina. If you love yourself and you are sensible, do not put anything in that vagina. Some of those things they put in the vagina are caustic. They would cause fibrosis and then you would develop gynaetresia. Gynaetresia is a condition in which the vagina is small. Some are so bad that the vagina can't admit more even a finger. That sure is worse than lax vagina. Your husband is complaining now despite sex, I wonder what he would do if he can't even have sex again, after you develop gynetresia. Most of the women who developed gyneatresia that I have seen in recent times, put herbs or something given to them into their vagina. Some claimed people told them, those things can make their fibroids disappear. I am sure they would regret that for life. because treating gynaetresia can keep u in the hospital for months on end. The surgical procedure is multistaged. Other causes of gynetresia are Female Circumcision etc.

2. For the proponents of CS / Vaginal delivery: Personally I think Cs is not as bad as it used to be. The actually procedure is just about 30 minutes. In good centres, the complication rate is so small. CS is not a bad idea but women always want to go through Natural birth. I think it enhances that motherly feeling. If there is anybody that wants CS for social reasons like she doesnt like pain of vaginal delivery, I would not discourage her. It is true that there is a lot of pain after the section but what do we have pain relievers for?
Both methods have their complications but good obstetric practice can reduce both to the bearest minimum

If my wife wants CS for all her deliveries, then what the heck?

Ciao

Man this is one hell of a funny yet truthful post, but this particular topic is educative which makes it all the more different and much much relevant, i've learnt a whole lot, but as for me, i'll prefer the natural birth. She's expected to widen after child birth isn't she? and won't the boobs drop, what bout when her face starts to wrinkle>?

She's mine and mine for life, i understand what Romeo is going through and he has the right to voice out, maybe time will heal, and finally, doctor, will the lady's " " ever return to default?

Goodness me,  I can't believe what I'm reading here!
These" men" (and I use that description jokingly) who are even slightly proccupied with how slack a woman might be after childbirth need to get a grip (scuse the pun) on whats true and real.

How dare any apology for a man dare to comment on a slack vagina unless he first has passed a bowling ball through the hole at the end of his privates, if that makes you wince or squirm a little then think how painful that is when the woman has done the equivalent of that bringing into the world a tiny( not so tiny) miracle which apart from a spurt from men at the outset was done all alone, The lady holds this baby safe inside it stretches her tummy ( which itches like mad) she gets backache piles from being constipated when the babys head is pushing literally on her back passage, she can't sleep in a comfy position smells make her throw up and at the outset is so tired you'D never believe yet its so small no one knows why! She has to learn to waddle as her centre of gravity shift get varicose veins on her legs and her vulva ( no that aint a car before you ask) then after enduring sickness swelling undignified poking around of many health professionals male and female in her privates with fingers forceps etc and then endure the quite incredible and disabling pain of childbirth to push out this bowling ball sized bundle of new life and potential into the world how can ANY creep of a guy say that the annoying ( yeah really?) thing is that his wifes vagina is slacker than before!!!

 

These "men" should be in awe of this women who has given life to their sperm which on any other occasion might end up in a tissue or over some dirty magazine!! I think to comment after all ive described above that she aint as slack as before is just so crass as to be beyond contempt I totally agree with English Ts comment well he is so selfish tell him his privates is smaller etc get him where he lives because a real guy would be supporting and loving his lady more after what frankly can be a fairly traumatic experience for the first time.

Iamworried, where did you get this guy from? He is clearly immature as all men who harp on about such a thing are, it takes 9 months to incubate a baby to full term at least that to get your body back to where it was ( or close) lets not forget breatfeeding which is great but exhausting, anyone who doesnt appreciate that is an idiot and Seun, this is the first time you have shocked me!

No one should wish their wife to have surgery which is painful at best potentially dangerous (MRSAs and complications etc) a friend of mine had her bladder snipped by accident and though maybe rare caused her no end of pain and suffering and in the end had to have an emergency hysterectomy as she bled so much, she nearly died!

Still think its preferable to natural vaginal childbirth? Ive had three children vaginally and on the first I tore from front to back and was stitched forever which for a few weeks made me scared of defecating but I was able to walk talk and carry my new baby push the pram and enjoy getting back to normal functioning (generally) the next day, even resumed sex quickly ( his idea though not mine   ) and not once since then after having two more has anyone complained I was slack down there!
 
I do my Kegel exercise more for stress continence protection ( I don't pee when I sneeze) than for sex but its worked for both. I could hold a pencil ( though that made me laugh, its never occcured to me to try that!)

Operations should be done in emergencies as childbirth is not an illness to have an operation to make better its a natural state and one us women can endure and recover from given the time,  and an understanding partner.

Iamworried tell him to grow up, good things are worth waiting for and he should be truly proud of you, only a man six months post baby would have the time to even think about sex!    

Suggest a big box of kleenex and a top shelf magazine - he fits the bill perfectly! W**ker!  

Iamworried.

I'm going to add as an afterthought, just check out that you were not damaged during delivery of your baby such as when forceps are used or ventouse, its a possibilty, Ive seen what forceps can do to babies so if they were used make sure your'e not damaged and insist they take you seriously as (forget the husband for now), if you don't get this fixed, a sneeze in later life can have your womb inside your knickers in a heartbeat and I aint kidding,  you said your exercises didnt work thats all,  keep it up but if you really have tried hard then get it checked again and don't take no for an answer!

Sadly I still think hubby is an ass even if he is loving and kind last thing you need to do is worry he will go elsewhere because if he does you are well rid of him! However don't foget the dreaded hormones making you a bit tearful, he might be as worried as you, your'e feeling a failure and fragile, he shouldnt mention things like that yet, but its early days, you WILL get there.

Good Luck.
x

@cyberangel

heheh

bottomline - is that a hint  

I read that in here somewhere,

Your right and I agree, support is the key factor

Iamworried
Patience is the word here but I think when your post baby fatter and baggier everywhere ( not just down there) your confidence can take a dent because you think he might go elsewhere but confidence returns when you know that the child in your arms your feeding (breast or bottle) was made by your own body, it IS a miracle and you should pat yourself on the back Iamworried, youve done a great job and the proof is right there, wait till he or she says there first words  and I swear the first time they say " I love you " darn well makes the trauma worthwhile,

It gets better just as you start to recover get your figure back and settle your sleep hubby will want another one and off you go again, 

Pencil anyone? hehehe

 

my my my 

Now, I have had 3 C-section ,  and i really don't know how you guys do it in Nigeria ,  but my recovery period was no morethan 2-3days ,  in fact my last baby I recovered and I was moving about and strong by the next day (because I knew what to expect)
The cut is so fine it is just on my bikiny area,  you could not even know ,
The first time was due to bad health, but I see nothing wrong with a C-section.
,  I really get fed up with people that go on and try to make women feel as if they are not proper women because they did not have a "natural" birth, at least i don't have all this rubbish about loose vagina, by the way even with a C-section you still need to do your pelvic floor exercise, that is the only thing ,  and it works, if you do it well.

PS: get your husband to try other positions i. e you no your tummy and him from the back with your legs closed) and try not to let him get you too wet, 

Iamworried

DONTbeworried, I am here!

Now if you were in Northern Nig, i would have asked you over, and by the time i have two shuwa women work on you, your husband will be drooling instead of complaining. I cannot vouch for Shrinka and what have you, because they are cheap ways of extorting money from desperate people, for counterfeit stuff that are worthless. Most if not all of this stuff have alum in them, and i do not know the risks involved in it's usage. but can tell you tentatively that 1000's of women use it, but against inserting it, women here dilute it in water and sit in it for a few minutes.

Now there is another thing we call dorot, Hardly will you see a married woman here without the stool used for dorot, at least in this part of the world (am speaking for Maiduguri alone) after they give birth, women here have there baths at least 3x daily and after every bath they sit on this stool (which has a big round hole in the middle) and smoke up themselves, while drinking a cup of very warm milk and honey (the milk and honey is a vaginal sweetener) the mixture of dorot is made from pure tree barks and incense, and it tightens the vagina sharp sharp. The more consistently you use it the better. But be rest assured that one treatment works for months but more is better as u will be a permanent/everyday virgin.

Third there are roots that are mixed in water, and drank very plain and tasteless but they do the job.
There are some indonesian caplets made from roots and barks of trees too, some are called susut-perut and some called Monalisa, you can find these in the Wuse market in Abuja. they work wonders too.

The Majority of them are in vaginal tablet forms, pastes, liquids, and infact hundreds of shapes and sizes, i tell you they are more famous because they give immediate results. but personally i won't go there, because anything that will enter me must be in one form/shape and must be   turgid too.

Me sha i believe in them because i have seen it work, and might i add that they are very cheap here, people take them from here to lagos, seal them in attractive packages, call them exotic names, and make money from them. Thousands of lagos women use them, because i saw one shop like that (on the island), with women trooping into it, big rich women and i went in out of curiousity just to see what was going on, i found out they were actually buying those things, a woman spent 50k to buy right in front of me, and i promise what she bought can't be worth more than 5k here. (if it's not working for her she won't be buying for that much, or at all sef)

So if you have any Northern friend open up and tell her you want (Kayan Mata), i know it's easier to talk to strangers who don't know you personally about issues like this, but i believe a solution is what you want now, not secrecy.

This is for iamworried only, you have heard plenty on both Modern and herbal remedies. (Ball is in your court) Now it's ur choice to make, and what ever choice you make GOODLUCK.

I do NOT need preachers on western therapies and drugs as i should be preaching it myself.

who told u ur vagina is slacked, u really lack sex experience, thats why u complain of slacked vagina, u should always know the kind of stlyes u have men bang u wit, missionary stlye is not appropriate, Try giv him doggy, n he will never complain again

Damn good talk.  It was nobody but me and the Queen when she gave birth and I don't think alot of guys really understand what the deal is.  When you see the pain you get smart real quick.  And learn to go without a little bit too until SHE is ready and healed.

Zarah

Youre scaring ME, in the "west" we would never shove anything corrosive or chemical in there,I'm afraid when I think of the chemical reaction you may get or if the darn stuff burns you!

God made fingers and penises to fit there man improved and made vibrators and tampons but seriously NOTHING else should ever go there just to make you tight for some guys privates

Ive never in my LIFE heard of alum being put in a vagina, only here on Nairaland
( thinking how slack you must be if a black guy with a normally huge privates is going there and says its baggy!! )

I'm inclined to agree with Anton, that he maybe saying its your fault trying to justify having an affair, don't listen to his baggy comment darling, its bullshit!


Mom mom

I'm from UK and I speak from experience watching friends recover, childbirth is a natural phenomenen, it doesnt need messing with just for the sake of a tight vagina and if you did it for that, your a fool in my opinion!

zarah didnt say you put it in, she said dilute it in water and sit in the water.

http://markmaynard.com/index.php/2005/05/29/found_filth_in_ypsi_sure_grip_tighten_he

Sorry forgot the link!

@ zarah

please, how can you send me an email ,  iamworried2007@yahoo.com  i am sure we can make arrangements on how i can get the herbs from you, i grew up in northern nigeria, jos and kano precisely and i am convinced of the hausas' proficiency in herbs.  thanks a lot. i really appreciate your post.