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saintchux (m)
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na wa ooo
There is need for after marriage counselling to tackle some issue like this.
Is he complaining about your physique too, or are you getting younger by the day.
I think that two of you should go and see a doctor, or a counsellor. For how long will you be using drug to tighten up.
Is sex the only thing in marriage?
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Big B1 (m)
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Definitely, good sex is part of a beautiful marriage; no doubt about it.
@Topic:
First, i would like to commend your husband for keeping it real with you; He's a wonderful guy. And for you to be out there seeking for solution to keep your husband happy also makes you an incredible wife.
I hope you guys the best.
My Advise to you:
Do not stress yourself over this, it takes time for your body to return back to normal (believe it or not, it may take up to 1 to 2 years) Hence, hang in there and stay beautiful and continue to love and appreciate your man for his honesty.
Please, do not apply anything artificial, let it happen naturally.
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Honey_pot (m)
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Wow, women have a lot of things to worry about; sagging breasts, flabby bum, loose vagina, facial wrinkles, big tummy, extra fat around the waist threatening the hip's curves. And all these for men!!!!!!!!!!!
Iamworried, please involve your hubby in your-vaginal tightening efforts, he should know u are doing something about it, this will nip any contemplation of infidelity in the bud. Never use any shrinka or herbs, rather consult your gynaecologist. A lot of women had accidentally rendered their privates 'unusable' (no pun intended) through these uncertified herbs. A loose vagina is better than life-long complications, and if alll your efforts prove futile, then your husband should try pumping his privates to compensate for the looseness, i think this will take the ignorant specs off his eyes. Anyway, i don't blame him, most guys not only detest the looseness but a possible 'floppy-farting' sound during sex.
Though CS is scary it may not be as painful for everyone, my friend's wife had a CS last saturday, it was an extreme emergency, it took only 13 minutes from the labour room to theatre and getting the baby out. They were discharged this tuesday and she's been very active ever since. Anyway, i don't like the risk involved.
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Seun (m)
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Just because you know someone's whose CS was administered by quack doctors doesn't make the procedure a bad one. People are just afraid of what they don't understand. I don't see why people should risk torn privates in 2007.
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exu (m)
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I'm sorry but I laughed when I say the topic of this thread.
Is this really the type of thing people should be discussing on a site like this?
Also, admin, is this the first thing you want people to see when they log on?
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Big B1 (m)
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@exu:
No disrespect, but if you don't like the topic, please move on.
Also check the dictionary for the real definition of a forum.
By the way, where are you from?
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LadyT (f)
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Just because you know someone's whose CS was administered by quack doctors doesn't make the procedure a bad one. People are just afraid of what they don't understand. I don't see why people should risk torn privates in 2007.
No Seun my love listen, they had the procedure done quiet alright everything went well. But can you not undersatnd that it is an operation. The recovery is much slower. If you do not need a C section for medical reasons I don't think you should indulge. |
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deejay1 (m)
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I doctor wont even advice you to av a CS unless he/she thinms thats what is best 4 you to that moment of delivery. evey 1 knows Cs is painful and expensive and takes more than the time u would ever think 2 heal up. Oga admin if uv got some experience of CS and its consequece, i don't think u will ever and ever advice someone 2 have a go 2 it.
i would advice the poster to get advice from a gynaecologist
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Radiant (f)
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Some people prefer CS and others prefer normal delivery. What the fuss? Stick to what you want and leave others to their opinion. I doctor wont even advice you to av a CS unless he/she thinms thats what is best 4 you
Where did you get this from? Doctors lay out options and patients choose! Mind you, whatever you say that's exactly what the doctor will do. (Except, there's a complication along the way) For as long as he has your consent, the job will be done! |
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LoverBwoy (m)
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torn privates? bloody hell!! didnt know seun is also a medical expert "encouraging" people to go for CS  |
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Radiant (f)
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For goodness sake! What's wrong with that?
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LoverBwoy (m)
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well, i don't think it should be the first option for every delivery
ypu should have Cs when you can't manage a natural procedure
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venusmaze
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Some people prefer CS and others prefer normal delivery. What the fuss? Stick to what you want and leave others to their opinion.
Where did you get this from? Doctors lay out options and patients choose! Mind you, whatever you say that's exactly what the doctor will do. (Except, there's a complication along the way) For as long as he has your consent, the job will be done!
Sorry doctors don't lay out options for expectant mothers in England or America. What route of delivery you take is down to your prior medical history, your present condition, health of the baby etc. You are not just going to get to the labour ward and ask for a Cesarean because that's what you want. it is not done like that. Sometimes women who want a natural birth end up having c-sections because at the last minute complications arise. for instance ladies who have had ectopic pregnancies normally don't go the natural route. It all depends on your medical state and what you and your doctor decide upon. it is never a case of '' i want '' baby may decide at last minute to play up  or your body may just well decide to shut down on you. At topicyou can tigthen your virgina after delivery by some pelvic excises, they tighten the walls . Or ask a nurse at your hospital they will have information to hand. |
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Radiant (f)
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Sorry doctors don't lay out options for expectant mothers in England or America. What route of delivery you take is down to your prior medical history, your present condition, health of the baby etc. You are not just going to get to the labour ward and ask for a Cesarean because that's what you want. it is not done like that. Sometimes women who want a natural birth end up having c-sections because at the last minute complications arise. for instance ladies who have had ectopic pregnancies normally don't go the natural route. It all depends on your medical state and what you and your doctor decide upon. it is never a case of '' i want '' baby may decide at last minute to play up or your body may just well decide to shut down on you. And what have you said that I didn't say? May be you didn't understand me. Then ask! |
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venusmaze
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i think i read it . you said----- Some people prefer CS and others prefer normal delivery. What the fuss? Stick to what you want and leave others to their opinion.
how can you stick to what you want? when nothing is set in stone when it comes to babies  you said ---- Where did you get this from? Doctors lay out options and patients choose! Mind you, whatever you say that's exactly what the doctor will do. (Except, there's a complication along the way) For as long as he has your consent, the job will be done docs don't lay out options, they tell you the types of delivery routes. you just don't choose, because like i said , anything can happen. you did mention complications but sorry to tell you the first and only presumed route is natural, until there is a problem. you can't come in and ask for a c-section so as far as you saying consent goes, its natural till there is a problem
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Big B1 (m)
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@ladyT:
You must live in UK.
What is wrong with C-section?
This procedure is now very common and I will recommend it for anybody.
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venusmaze
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c-section is a major deal. You think getting cut open is highly recommended?
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Radiant (f)
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how can you stick to what you want? when nothing is set in stone when it comes to babies [/i How can't you stick to what you want from the beginning if all is well with you? I said except there's a complication, meaning you can choose what route you want. You never heard women who say they'll have their babies by CS? You never heard doctors tell a women " we'll have to discuss the delivery options" ?
docs don't lay out options, they tell you the types of delivery routes. you just don't choose, because like i said , anything can happen. you did mention complications but sorry to tell you the first and only presumed route is natural, until there is a problem. you can't come in and ask for a c-section so as far as you saying consent goes, its natural till there is a problem
NOPE!!! You can choose what route you want if you're fine! Because the lot presumes the natural route should come first doesn't mean everyone has to buy this. |
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Radiant (f)
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c-section is a major deal. You think getting cut open is highly recommended?
Might not be highly recommended but people still choose it. A major deal? Not so major I must say apart from the cost. |
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venusmaze
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Ok no problem, the reason i pointed it out is because it was misinforming what you said. Not to worry. I am not only a mother , i am also a doctor and what i stated was how it is where i practice, maybe different from where you are from. Anyway never mind. Bye
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LadyT (f)
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Can you people research C-section please!!!!!!!
Birth is dangerous full spot whether natural of not . Why complicate issues with C section if not needed!!!
Doctors ONLY recommend c-sections when the health of the baby or mother is in danger.
Yes a mother can choose thats her right, but you wont find a good health professional advocating it!
If you choose to have it thats your prerogative but please don't make out C sections are better!
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Radiant (f)
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If you choose to have it thats your prerogative but please don't make out C sections are better!
Why are is it not better than natural delivery? i am also a doctor and what i stated was how it is where i practice, maybe different from where you are from.
Don't go yet plz. lol You mean Doctors don't lay out options if a woman is in good health? |
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venusmaze
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we prefer not to lay it out as options , as that implies they can choose what they want , which is something we don't want to encourage. They are simply different routes of delivery available depending on mother's previous and present health and that of baby.
In England , Scotland and Wales cesareans are not encouraged as first option for any expectant mother who is healthy. The likes of Posh spice maybe**[i]shrug** who have all the money in the world and can afford to go private rather than NHS can enjoy such luxuries. besides Cesareans for one takes away that initial bonding moment between mother and baby, and some people in the profession have linked it to post Natal depression( don't ask me, not my thesis)[/i] bye now
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LadyT (f)
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Radiant a doctor will lay out all your options for you. Its like buying a car they show you all the ranges.
Here is a snippet on the dangers of C section. Please note there are also dangers with natural delivery BUT how would you feel about a choice you didnt have to make affected your baby. Please read why I advocate natural birth unless complications arise.
Cesarean Births Way More Dangerous for Babies' Lives Than Natural Births
A recent study conducted by experts at the US Centers for Disease Control and Prevention in Atlanta, Georgia found that babies born through Cesarean sections are almost three times more likely to experience death at birth than those born naturally. The exhaustive investigation of 5,7 million births showed that C sections are way more dangerous for new-born children's lives than previously thought.
“We are witnessing a growing number of Caesareans without a reported medical indication. This increase may inadvertently be putting a larger population of newborn babies at risk,” reported the researching team.
This could be rather shocking for the increasing number of women who resort to Cesarean sections today, even if there is no need for it because they could as well give birth to their babies the natural way. Nearly ¼ of UK pregnant women nowadays choose to bring their babies into the world through Cesarean sections.
The findings of the study should be alarming for the British population and put an end to the extensively raising number of women who prefer scheduling their births than waiting for the moment of natural delivery to occur. However, the scientists involved in the study state that the ones who should be worried about the outcomes of Cesarean sections are not pregnant women, but clinicians and policy-makers.
“The point of this article is not to alarm anyone. Women considering an elective Cesarean obviously should consult with their doctor, and this would be one piece of information that hopefully they could discuss. These findings should be of concern for clinicians and policy-makers, who are observing the rapid growth in the number of primary Cesareans to mothers without a medical indication.”
The main reason why babies should be delivered naturally when there is the possibility for it is because those born through C – sections are at a greater risk for respiratory distress and disorders. On the other hand, natural births promote healthy lung function in new-born infants by releasing hormones crucial for an appropriate breathing. Also, the compression of babies which occurs during labor removes the fluid from babies' lungs and prepares them to breathe air.
“One of the advantages of labor is that it stresses the baby and helps to empty their lungs, meaning they can breath more easily than those born after a Caesarean section,” pointed out Dr. Burnett Lunan, consultant obstetrician and gynecologist from Glasgow.
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ThiefOfHearts (f)
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what a loser of a husband
wouldnt put it past such a dude to cheat and when you catch him, he'll be like "well it's your fault, if you were tight, "
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LadyT (f)
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 I hope to be an obstetrician I will shamelessy advocate the natural way!
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LadyT (f)
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what a loser of a husband
wouldnt put it past such a dude to cheat and when you catch him, he'll be like "well it's your fault, if you were tight, "
 ROTFLMAO, |
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2cantango (f)
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My first born was deliverd naturally (vaginal delivery) - my second was an emergency CS.
I recovered a heck of a lot faster after the vaginal delivery - after the CS I was in intensive care for several days and was only able to breast feed my baby once during that time - having my baby bottle fed was not something that impressed me, but what could I do!? My vagina healed a lot quicker than my stomach - which took several months to heal.
Personally I preferred the vaginal delivery - though I'm grateful for the intervention of the CS to save my baby's life. I wouldn't advise any woman to opt for a CS if she can safely deliver naturally.
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venusmaze
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what a loser of a husband
wouldnt put it past such a dude to cheat and when you catch him, he'll be like "well it's your fault, if you were tight, "
That is funny
2cangoyes just like me, my baby was borderline, but thank God , i had a natural birth |
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WesleyanA (f)
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take coco's advice and try those excercises she posted.
CS is not advisable except in cases of emergency. there are risks involved. But then some people might have different opinion.
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LadyT (f)
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 I posted the excercise not coco (sulks)
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Radiant (f)
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Lady T, how many babies died out of the millions you mentioned?
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