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dunzpetro (m)
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It is not proper for one to marry against the parent's wishes but some parents who would'nt give the nod due to tribe,status,education,etc. should not be listened to, 'because what they consider appropriate might not stick,again they would'nt be there when one would be having problems with the spouse they supposedly think is the right choice for u. So i'll advice u to follow your heart,for where your heart goes, there your treasure lies. Parents wish or not.
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nike4luv (f)
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i'll try my best to change their views about my suitor and if they don't agree, am sorry but i'll go on with the marriage. i can't sabotage my future because of what my parents think
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honeycome (f)
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i wouldn't like to marry against my parent's wishes. My parent should know my boy friend before ever talking about marriage, then i can know from day one if they want me to marry him or not if its comes to marriage.
I think we can avoid this problem in the future, if our parent is aware of whom we are going out with.
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funweez (f)
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Of course it would be great to have your parents blessings especially if they are people you have a lot of love and respect for. But its also very difficult, because atimes they sometimes can't give you any concrete reasons as to why they are against the union. Sometimes its just a gut feeling they have about your intended. Talk about being between the devil n the red sea aye!  |
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funweez (f)
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Of course it would be great to have your parents blessings especially if they are people you have a lot of love and respect for. But its also very difficult, because atimes they sometimes can't give you any concrete reasons as to why they are against the union. Sometimes its just a gut feeling they have about your intended. Talk about being between the devil n the red sea aye! |
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Damest09 (f)
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No, I will just try and make them see reasons. If they have reasons why i shouldn't marry that person i will pray about it and parent often see what you can't see because you're are blindfolded by love.
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j-girl (f)
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I take it that my parents are more experienced than I am and they know me almost inside-out. For me to marry against their wishes means I will definitely be on my own so there is a 90% chance that i won't marry against their wishes but if the love is so strong that I know deep inside me, he is the one for me - then yes i will marry against their wishes
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kemisole (f)
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i agree with u (princenedu)
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Memunah (f)
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Well for me i CAN marry against their wishes.Firstly i see no reason y your parents who claim to love you wholeheartedly wont give consent to your happiness,joy.just on the basis of a stupid culture or maybe because the guy is a muslim,u are a xtian and such bullshit.its arrant nonsense.My feelings matter because i wil be the one to be in that marriage and face any consequences that comes out of it.For my parents to tell me not to get married to a guy i love dearly they ve got to ve TANGIBLE REASONS.(Which i don't think they can ve)In short they ve no rigth because nobody choose them for each other so y choose for me  ? |
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jydagirl (f)
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Had my folks listened to their's,i would't be here  |
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frankiriri (m)
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There's a saying that the true value of advice is not that it must be taken but that it would deepen your regret if you don't take it. With that in mind I would say that when your parents refuse to give their consent, you have to take a step back and properly evaluate their reasons for refusing. If not you can't get any help if problems develop between you people |
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frankiriri (m)
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I had a freind who married against her peoples wishes. When small marital problems crop up that the parents would have easily settled if it was someone they liked they refused to listen to her in a bid to spite her.
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frankiriri (m)
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I think it is easier for the men to marry without parental consent as the lady's people usually have less influence over the matrimonial home.
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benzion72 (m)
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It is good to listen to your parent and it is not too good to listen to your parent. Marriage is for mature adult if you are really mature enough you will be able to see and know what you want for your life you will choose your patner without pride or prejudice, you will also choose based on reasoning rather than ordinary fleeting emotional instinct.
It is also very good if you can listen to superior argument from adult who see beyond the mad love rush of the now
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nice2nite (m)
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What a question?
well i will like to say i can marry against my parents wishes. the reason is that, i can't let my parent choice to be my own choice,making your parents choice to be your choice u will find at later that your marriage will loook like problem to u especially when u don't love her/he.the only way will youth can enjoy marriage is when we allow our choice to be the best choice in our life. No matter what people may say or your parent don't let it border your because is your life, if u made a choice let it remain because love is all that matters. u cannot marry somebody who u don't love it will rule your marriage.
I think a marry without my parents wishes if they say dey don't like the girl i really love than i will do without their wishes.
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dashview
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i can because she will live with me and not them
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stellyray (f)
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Anambra girls marry any where plzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
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goshen360 (m)
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Hi guys @ nairaland,
its quite interesting to discuss this topic here. First, i will like to let everyone here know that its scripturally fundamental to honour one's parents (in all) especially when it comes to marriage issues like this. If your parent are against you marrying someone, its beta for you to stop that marriage for sake of your future.This is the more reason why its important that you let your parent know WHOEVER you are dating before you go too far."KNOW YE NOT THAT WHERE YOUR PARENT SEE WHEN SITTING, EVEN WHEN YOU CLIMB THE HIGHEST MOUNTAIN, You NO FIT SEE AM"its important to get your parents' blessing in your marriage.
stay kool
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9ja4eva (m)
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Hi guys @ nairaland,
its quite interesting to discuss this topic here. First, i will like to let everyone here know that its scripturally fundamental to honour one's parents (in all) especially when it comes to marriage issues like this. If your parent are against you marrying someone, its beta for you to stop that marriage for sake of your future.This is the more reason why its important that you let your parent know WHOEVER you are dating before you go too far."KNOW YE NOT THAT WHERE YOUR PARENT SEE WHEN SITTING, EVEN WHEN YOU CLIMB THE HIGHEST MOUNTAIN, You NO FIT SEE AM"its important to get your parents' blessing in your marriage.
stay kool
Hai everyone, I kind of agree with u anyway.I don't think its right to marry without your parents blessings.What our parents see in our future partners we might not see and when we become strong willed to go into it there is a great possibility of REGRET.Its common now for most people to act to be what they are not and we in love wldnt see it but our parents will.We need to really get rooted and hear parents out before going into any marriage.One thing so many who plied the route of nt listening to their parents have come to realize is that it comes to a certain time in Marriage where it backfires and then it becomes hard for us to go back to the parents we didnt listen too.Well for me i cnt because i know my parents wldnt pick someone bad for me and i get to tell them of the person before i say yes to the persons proposal. About the guy that has a kid i honestly do not think the girls parents will let her because dt is another world on its own bt its shaunable. |
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agnesoseka
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i'd rather remain single than get married,knowing,ma folks don't approve, we r africans and their blessins r important,basically,as our follks,i guess we nid their blessings in what ever we do!!! well, different strokes 4 different folks i guess.
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agnesoseka
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i'd rather remain single than get married,knowing,ma folks don't approve, we r africans and their blessins r important,basically,as our follks,i guess we nid their blessings in what ever we do!!! well, different strokes 4 different folks i guess.
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zodiac (f)
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@topic
i think d reason d parents of your friend do not consent to d marriage is because d man already has a child with another woman.
i feel girls generally wait for d consent of their parents bfore getting married because we are more dependent on them than d guys are,and so thet use that 2 their own advantage.
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joey22 (f)
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no i can't marry against my parents wish because without my parents am no body and besides,they always have their genuine reasons  |
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decarpoo
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hmm
it is dangerous man don't try it thir blessing is very very impotant and once a marriage is not blessed by the parent there will be comma oo think well okay
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funty (f)
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if i really love d person, then sure i can marry against my parents wish. it's my life not theirs and should be my decision even if they don't agree with me.
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Lawijo (m)
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The role of the parents cannot be underestimated considering their important socio-economic positions in a society as Nigeria'.
Further, it will course add more value and less problem for all the parties involved to have the blessings of your parents coupled with all the other very important aspects. I.e. Mutual love, respect, peace, harmony etc
But if you will allow the decision to be taken by your parent, then you will be approaching the whole issue from the perspective that your parents will be telling you their real reason/s for approving or disapproving of specific spouse.
My take on this, is that, all the parents need be concerned about and wish for, is the "hapiness!" of their children and not start playing unnecessary politics that will not be based on any rational, objective nuances.
And finally, it's you who is going to live with this person and put all it requires into this relationship to deal with and overcome the challenges that marriages brings with it and not your parents.
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jb-baby (f)
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I wouldn't marry wtout my parents consent because its really going 2 be complicated later. as in no parental blessing n who knows God might just be angry wt u, n den when in-laws start their wahala, u dnt av your mumsy 2 go to for advice, no mummy 2 help u through pregnancy n no mummy 2 help wt 1st child especially. now that can really be messed up u know. I can't try it friends.  |
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akindayor (m)
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am facing same prblm right now my suggestion :let the girl chill out and try to convince mom and dad there's no cause for alarm and being in another tribe does not meanj he's a devil, she just has to investigate their fears and howbeit succinctly so as no to rupture the trust in da relationship.GOd speed
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Trendiest (f)
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It really all depends on their reasons, like my dad dosent like my sister's BF because he's like 7yrs older than her, NOT A GOOD ENOUGH REASON IF You ASK MI
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laudate
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Anambra girls marry any where plzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
That is not strictly true o, !! |
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