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deeteeneey (f)
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simple MARRY. moreover 2 me oo. the kid isnt a barrier.
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SwtNsoFLyy (f)
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very interesting topic and views here on marrying a single parent. Being blessed with a child, I do not consider 'baggage',, but a gift from God. The sort of 'baggage' that we should rather focus on is, drug use, integrity, how they treat us or their last mate. These are key indicators of negative baggage that will HOLD you down from succeeding into a new chapter in your life.
All single mothers, do not go into relationships with the intent of gaining a father for their child, but a compliment and completion to her very own being. There are alot of beautiful women in this world, how have had the unfortunate event of a failed marriage. There are also alot of men, that have gone through the same, and may have children as a result.
Its not a matter of judging the lady(or man) of their child,, but finding that complimentary mate to help us grow, increase our wisdom, as well, reach our fullest potential in life, If we continue to allow ourselves to be judgemental of the single 'parent' be it, man or woman, this immature mindset will hinder us from opening doors to possibly one of GOD's greatest blessing in our lives,
and this is coming from quite a mature, established, yet stable single mother, When I find the right mate, he will be honoured other men with this mentality has passed the opportunity by. God allows us to choose as we desire,, A bit of wisdom for the younger gentlemen on Nairaland, everything that glitters aint always gold, so be open minded as to weather or not a woman has bear children or even childless, What matters most is God's divine connection of your hearts and the strength of this woman to uplift you to your highest potential in life, be blessed,
peace,
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toplass (f)
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if i love you truly, i will say yes and yes means both you and your package(kids) my biggest prayer would be for me to be accepted. Havin a child b4 marriage does not change who you are. the problem is having a child outside with whoever after marriage which leads to disaster, betrayal, worst of all ILLEGIMATE CHILD
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ariblaze (m)
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yeah
i can marry such a person
as a matter of fact i dated a person like that
actively for over 2years
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Yukito
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 [b][/b] Probably 2 months from now Im getting married with a single mother, but I still cant hide the fact that I am not yet very sure. She was my first woman. I am 23 she's 24 the baby girl is 1 yr old, we both have stable jobs. I know she loves me very much, no questions about it. She would actually die for me, we broke up once and she almost killed her self. And I could say that I am loving her baby. I still do have second thoughts of marrying her but, "I WILL MARRY HER!"
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holythug
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it depends on situation or let me put it dis way
if i happen to b in love
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lucabrasi (m)
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hey dude,i think having a kid has nothing to do with a great relationship cause at the end of the day he/she has been honest enuff to let you know they v got a kid and so many guy/girl are worse off and have done worst stuffs and it takes a great person to stick around n take care of a child cause thats called being responsible, i have a son from an ex and i make sure i tell any girl so they ll know wassup
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adeboo (f)
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I would definitely marry a single parent cause i am one.
The thing is that he cant be a father that has multiple baby mamas cause that to me just smells of irresponsibility.
Like its been said, i am not looking for a father for ma baby she has one already - what just makes ma baby special is that she is being treated for sickle cell anemia. So she is a special baby, people say 'baggages' but i say at least she isnt an excess baggage.
I want a relationship for me, someone that will be there for me, that will love me and take care of me. By the grace of God, i can fend for her and i have been doing so since she was born - so i understand when men say they cant marry a woman with kids. I put maself in ma boyfriend's shoes as well and i discussed it with him especially when she is not so well.
So i would marry one but with certain conditions.
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TaniCarr (f)
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How can you say, if you love her? You have to know she has a child before you fall in love.
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Vladislav (m)
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Casper,, you need to ask yourself,, ARE YOU A VIRGIN?,, if NO go mess yourself,, And stop insulting peoples' essence
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funmise (f)
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I read dis thread last year June, n nvr tot dat i will b in d same position as the person that started dis thread.
Men, dis is hard, i dnt knw wut 2 think, my mind is gone blank.
I luv my boyfriend so much we ve been goin out 4 2yrs nw b4 i discovered he's got a child
i cant bear d tot marrying a man with a child.
I dnt ve anything against d child, its jus dat ve nvr seen a family with steps dat, there is peace. its only in a vry few %.
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martho (m)
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if she is my ideal woman,why not.there is nothing wrong with that,she could make me a happier man than the singles without a child.it is immatured to think like that.lets grow up.
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Gamine (f)
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Its a hard decision.
My friend was telling me yesterday she wants to hook me up
with a guy.
This guy is 40 and has six kids, his wife left after confessing to
wanting to poison him.
Would i go for him?
NO!
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Moyola (f)
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Nope
xcept i was once married aswell dennn . . .mayb
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lucabrasi (m)
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Its a hard decision.
My friend was telling me yesterday she wants to hook me up
with a guy.
This guy is 40 and has six kids, his wife left after confessing to
wanting to poison him.
Would i go for him?
NO!
are you in the same age range?40 with 6 kids for a girl s pushing it a bit, why would your friend think that ll be a good match @topic i dont see anything wrong with it as long as the kids not more than 1or maybe 2,she s more matured and will value her partner more having been through the negative side of a relationship and the hassles of being a single mum |
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Gamine (f)
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@Luca. i wonder hw young you think i am.  if the guy didnt have those kids, it wouldnt be a bad idea |
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lucabrasi (m)
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@Luca. i wonder hw young you think i am. if the guy didnt have those kids, it wouldnt be a bad idea oh i see,dont mind me had the misplaced believe that you r a young girl,and concluded based on my believe that age diffrence between a girl/woman and man shouldnt be more than 12 years |
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erratic
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@Poster Nope. Am not matured enough. But I could date one though.  |
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Gamine (f)
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Age is nothing to Love jo.
i may be more than 15yrs younger than the guy
but if he's evrything i want , i will marry him
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lucabrasi (m)
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hmmn, age has a lot to do but i guess15 years isnt too bad, love without weighting the options is not being totally real, bianca onoh ojukwu has aged more than her years with taking care of ojukwu,his health,near blindness e.t.c plus kids in their teens wont have a ful life with their dad
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lucabrasi (m)
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well, its true but thats my own personal opinion and i might be totally wrong,who knows,
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Gamine (f)
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i get what you mean anyways
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whitedove (m)
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There is nothing wrong marrying a single-parent,infact i will be getting married to one come next month, i must confess she is one of the greatest things that has happened to me.,before i met her ,i had so many relationship that were not working,she came and turned my life around.single parents can be liken to wine they get better with process of time.
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syren
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There is nothing wrong marrying a single-parent,infact i will be getting married to one come next month, i must confess she is one of the greatest things that has happened to me.,before i met her ,i had so many relationship that were not working,she came and turned my life around.single parents can be liken to wine they get better with process of time.
I'm very happy to hear that  |
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Festus Ugo
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No need to walk away , it is an issue because she decided to keep the child , (a commendable thing), you might never have know had she removed the child.
I think its not a big deal. I am currently dating a single mother and i tell you the truth she is the best thing in my life for now.
her daugther calls me daddy because she is found of me. i buy her toys etc takes both mother and daugther out on a good day i i enjoy the little girl's company even if she is just 2year old.
you can't tell until you try.
Mine is wonderful experience because the relationship is very matured because she is experienced, once hurted and never want to pass tru it again.
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iamunique (f)
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Interesting thread.
My best friend is torn between the choice of accepting to marry a single dad. She is madly in love with him and he is also seriously in love with her.
However, the guy's case has plenty 'comma'.
1)He has two kids from the same woman.
2)He was never married legally to the lady but he met the lady's parents and did traditional engagement (this happened when the lady was preggie with the first child)
3)He insists he does not love her and all she did was trap him with the kids.
4)He told my friend that he wants to bring the first child over to his house to stay with him when they get married.
5)His babymama has vowed not to let go and has threatened fire and brimstone when he told her that she should move on and stop waiting for him.
6)He bears all the financial responsibilities of the kids.
7)Babymama still gets to see him because he goes over to her place to see the kids and they all get to hang out together (he claims he wants to bond with the kids and babymama wont allow him to hang out alone with the kids unless she's there with them)
I would appreciate people's opinion on this. My friend is 27 years old. Dude is in his mid 30s.
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Ola8 (m)
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NO, That's is the end.
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whitelexi (m)
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No, i honestly wont, no matter the situation.
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Riskie (f)
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I would not want to marry a single parent. It usually doesn't end nicely. The child(ren) usually don't accept you and do their best to ruin your marriage, especially when they are older children. The children's mother is a whole story on its own. Peace is generally missing when the children's mother is in the picture. If you are a young person you should avoid marrying a single parent completely.
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chessguru (m)
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why not? she could even be better than those who are not, each matter will be decided on its own merit, it depends on the personality,
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suprted (m)
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i would marry a single parent, what's the big deal.
obviously, you have to keep your eyes open and see the lay of the land. but it's not a deal breaker.
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