Would You Marry a Single Parent?

Thank you all for sharing your opinion. And thank you TBD10463, mummax2, alheri for sharing your experience quite insightful. Those experiences are real eye opener.

@TBD10463, Maybe somebody with parenting experience can offer some advice. I have no experience. Thanks once again for sharing your experience.

The world is fast coming to an end because it seems single parenthood has become an order of the day.
Single parenthood out of loss of a partner or unfortunate marriage circumstance is OK.
But all them girls who just get pregnant and keep babies while mates are studying,I can't fathom it.
Those guys going unprotected too,I ponder!

Unfortunately those going on without protection could be victims of dreaded diseases.
mo money thank God for your life.Things happen!I'm sure u wont want to have kids in that same circumstance even if u were lucky.
U know what i mean.

Why not!? But as long as the woman has a daughter (4-6 years) and not a son

Just like lots of people have said, LOVE is not enough. there are lots of other factors. for all the people that believe its impossibe to date a woman(since I'm  a lady) who has a kid, what if she was raped and decided on been responsible and kind enough to the baby to keep it? does that still amke itmossible or a man to be sensitive enough to keep her and love her and not been so concerned about how jealous he would be or how much of her love he can get. And since the jealousy thingy came up , it does not matter if the baby arent his ornot. if it were the guys' he still would be jealous( men are like that they always have that feeling that the baby wouldget more love than they and they don't like it). really, the only way people would really know how they would react when faced with dating or getting married to a single parent is actually been faced with the situation.IT takes lot of maturity on the side of the person with the dilemma because there are lots of things that t.he person can not chnage and that is te fact that if the child don't like u, the child don't like u and youmight never be good enough. so for u that say we will jus work through it or talk through it, you had better get ready because its not ben and jerrys it is responsibility.

U just said my mind. Seconded!

yes i possibile .on codition

its so interesting reading all the replies especially when it kind of relates to you.
i'm a single mum! and proud of it
you want to marry a single mum? think, well, well
because she's going to be expecting a lot from you
i'v been there before,i don't want any financial help but emotional, i needed a lot of love
and i love my child, and would love my child more than i would love another man- can he take that?
me, i have made up my mind, marriage, no way
people tell me no man will want to take you with your baggage,
true talk, i seen it happen several times
you just work hard for you and your child
no point looking up to another man for love, affection whatever
because no matter what, that child comes first
like someone said, i don't come with no "baggage" but a "gemstone"

sure! i'll get to know the kıd, ıf ı can lıve wıth em, then we get marrıed,  or somethıng lıke that!

Sure why not, will I be able to love the child like my own?>
Really does depend, but I'm going to say yes

You right Eurphoria, but what if the ex was dead?
You sure wouldn't have the problem of dealing with her.
If Love exists in the relationship then i see no reason why you shouldn't accept. But it sure is going to be hard.

Definitely! The most important thing for me is love and acceptance. If we both love and accept each other then it will go a long way in making our lives easier. You see when people enter into a relationship with pre-conceived negative notions, then that relationship will be fraught with problems; single parent or 'non-parent'


What of relationships without children? Are they automatically perfect because there were no children before the marriage - No!

I know of someone who thought he was a househelp because of the way his parents treated him when he was growing up- he was their first son (both of them). So how do we explain how some parents treat their biological children?

If you both work out how things are going to be before the relationship becomes permanent,  most of the problems expected from such relationships really won't arise. So long as you see yourselves as soulmates then you will want to work things out and chances are you will succeed

_{Having said that, what I've noticed is that those in relationships with single parents are matured people; it is not for the childish}

why not as long as am happy with him/her.

I have 5 children. After my divorce, I have been proposed to more times than I can count.

I actually use my children as the reason I don't want to get married.

I have issues trusting men around my children, my boys too but especially my daughters who are drop dead gorgeous even at 5 and 10 years old.

The woman in this case was absolutely correct, you do not run every Tabo, Duwa and Oseun to meet your kids. Your kids don't need to see all those potentials in your life.

No big deal, love matters most