Can Your Parents Choose Your Spouse for You?

We have gone past this phenomenon. Are your parents going to pray for you or fall in love for you?

In some cases it might be possible indirectly.

Who are they for them to choose my life partner  , lai lai

My parents can yell, shout but they will never tell me who to marry

Ko joooooooooo kode ni jo lailai

All of una just dey talk grammar for here, as if di thing no dey happen for una side. Look, in the North, it is very common for parents to choose wives for their sons, especially the first sons. It is also common for them to arrange marriages for their kids, with or without the kid's consent. I had a female classmate that was married off at the age of 16, several years ago to a guy her father saw her talking to, on a few occassions. At first he warned her. But by the 3rd time he saw her saying hi to the same chap, he just went behind her back & married her off to the guy. Chikena. They now have four kids. She continued her education in her husband's house.

Another of my friends from the South-East dated an Efik girl for many years, without the knowledge of his parents. At that time, he had nothing. The girl stood by him and shared the little she had, with him. When he finally made some money, and decided to marry the girl, his parents refused flatly.

 Later, he started dating a Yoruba girl, and again his parents refused to approve of their relationship. She wasn't from their place, was the excuse they gave him. It was much later his aunt introduced one girl from the next local govt. area to their own, to the chap. That was when the guy's parents finally gave their approval. Tell me, have they not suceeded in (directly or indirectly) choosing the guy's wife for him?

It also happens for girls, as well. They keep parading different guys before their parents, and the dads & mums keep saying "No," until they finally see one that they like. Then they will quickly say yes, giving reasons that range from the sublime to the ridiculous, in order to make their pleasure (or displeasure) known. Now, have they not successfully chosen a spouse for their kid, while managing to give him or her the erroneous impression that that he or she made the choice?

Choose wetin for who?? Lai lai!! Na how that kind thing wan take happen? them no choose ordinary school for me, when I be teenager, na life partner them go wan choose for me?? God forbid bad thing!