My Fiancee Is Engaged To Another Man

I could not connect to my fiancee on phone for two weeks, she was out of reach. So i decided to take a 8hours journey to visit her right where she is undergoing her NYSC programme. Luckily i was able to locat her room and met her flat mate.

I introduced my self to her flat mate, that am her fiancee who stays in Portharcourt. I was worried so i decided to come looking for her.

Guess what her flat mate told me: . . . Close to one year that they have lived together, she has never mentioned my name or anybody in Portharcourt thats her Fiancee. That she talks more about some guy in Lagos, who she calls her fiancee, and that she has even talk to this person one on one. That as we speak, she has moved her properties to Lagos. And presently she is running a trainee programme outside the country. Her Flat mate was kind enough to give me her international number. I called and comfirmed her voice at the other side. Saying she used me to get to where she wants to be, and she is no longer in love with me, and that i should live my life without her

I was engaged to this girl 5years ago, we have planned for our wedding by Easter this year. I took care of her School necessities, she is wearing my ring and she kept on telling me she loves me. I credit her account reasonably on a monthly basis to help her through the service year. She said we can get married immediately she get through with her NYSC programme. Everybody in my family loves her.

For crying out loud, she is my wife to be, so i held nothing back, even her family benefited from me. But all this while she had her own secret agenda. She has 2 mtn sim card for the different fiancee. Am from Imo State and she is from Delta State. The other fiancee is from her village and the guy that deflowered her.  They seperated, and she met me, we dated for two years and got her engaged.

Am 5'11'' tall, handsome and goodlooking. A Construction Cost Engineer, 31yr ol', from a well known and responsible family. Hard working and nice to a fault. Where did i go wrong?. I still love her, but yet shocked. Still to come over it. I don't know what to tell the other members of my family. Our wedding is just 4months from now.

My questions are.

- Why was she playing me
- Why the lies and cheat.
- Does she think she can go unpunished.
- Why was she wasting my years only to break my heart
- Can i man get his true love, do you think i can ever trust any other woman

Treated her like an animal?

She was with me when  I made the 'sex in the kitchen' post. Besides, its was her idea bringing over such an issue. She wants you guys to understand that making love should not always be in the bedroom nor be planned.  She argues, that there should be a spark just to ignite the fire of love.

This is a forum, where people opinions are discussed, I don't hide things from her. Why should she?

I believe, where ever she is, when the thought of our relationhip crosses her mind, she will definately breakdown and cry.

I don't know what the other guy has down for her,  I pray it works out.

As for me, I have picked up where she left me. Am stronger now, there is no limit to which i can attain.

she  doesn't worth your privates then
thank GOD 4 your life
i

 sorry to hear about your odeal with this OBT(obtain by trick) I think its the society that has taught women how to get over men easily. We have  thousands of  magazines and articles talking about women issues. We men assume that we should not know  more about women.

I learnt from ma cousin's exprience who even had to drain his family to keep his girlfriend in school. The OBT dumped him when she went on NYSC.  Take heart bro.

Thanks all, am 31. I wrongly typed in 1978 instead of 1975. Thou it has been modified.

Beside my elder brother and kid sister, no one else in the family knows yet. Even those abroad called a forthnight asking about the new development on the wedding proper.

I don't know how to go about telling them. Am in a fixed. I know my family, they might take it a 'little far.

This is one area where they come out real strong and determined. Initially i told them she is currently running a programme outside the country, but they waived it aside, saying 'she does not need to be around for the preparations'.

I guess it over between me and her, but i don't think its over between me and my family. They need to know the truth.

Oh God!! my mother, she will cry so much for her, she loves her so dearly.

As the clock tick, i get so worried   

its very unfortunate that such a thing could happen 2 u, but i believe theres nemesis. it will definately catch up on her very soon