Prayer Warriors Say My Boyfriend Is Not The Husband For Me

Prayers Warriors Say My Boyfriend Aint "the One"

Hmm.  This one pass me oh!

Here it goes: I have dated this guy for 3 years plus and we sincerely love each other dearly. We have been there for each other, through thick and thin.  I mean, I can't even completely explain.

Now, i am about to graduate and my mum comes to visit me in the states and she says i should give her a list of all my suitors so she can take it to all these prayers warriors so they can see which one of them is my husband to be. I gave her 3 names (ofcourse my BF's name was #1). Now she just called me and said that my BF is not the one and that some other guy on the list is. Now this so called guy had already went to my parents to ask 4 my hand in marriage but my dad told him to wait until i had graduated from school.

i have been crying since because i just can't believe my BF aint the one. And then stupid me i told my BF and now he is devastated.

Hmm, please i need your advice.  I have been praying that God's will be done in my life.  I can't understand this at all.

What do I do now?

Dont lose your  BF of 3 years. That stranger anointed by prayer warriors is trying to reap where he did not sow. Ask your mum how much she paid those prayer warriors and tell me why they would not do  her bidding. It looks like your family knows the other guy more than your BF. Its time for him to step the play.

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I would have thought the situation is pretty obvious. Your folks are already used to the guy the so called prayer warriors recommended so what else would you expect them to say. Abeg don't deal with the guy who has been there for you for years, are your parents going to live in your marital home with you? Though one should try as much as possible to get the parents acceptance before settling down one should not completely behave as if one doesn't have a mind of his/her own. So my advice to you is to go on your own knees and pray to God before you make any decision, what makes you think that God will listen to and answer the so called prayer warrior more than yourself. I think it's just a little bit of laziness on your part that you don't want to pray and are listening to so called prayer warriors.

First time am hearing this kind of thing,Nowadays pastors are not trusted not to take prayer worrior. like 'peace2all' said how come other people are you list,if he has been with you for 3yr you shoudn't have think of any other persons.what you suppose to have done is write his name more than once infact make him the list.Anyway that prayer worrior thing is not real,if you know the word you will refuse to believe that.

This is an obvious attempt by your mother (sorry, prayer warriors) to choose a husband for you.

What if God's will is for you to be happy?  What if Gods will for you is what is already written in the bible?

don't tell me u nigerians still believe in the so called prayer warriors that go about deceiving people and their future. i guess these so called prayer warrioirs want to deceive and collect money.
my dear folow your heart. u have a guy that has been with u thick and thin.
guys like that are hard to find.
so my dear follow your heart better still your senses and don't listen to anyone about who u will marry.
if your descision is  final your parent will conform 

Why do people still let others dictate to them the people they would marry?

Listen, your parents (and d prayer warriors) wont be the ones to wake up fro the rest of their lives beside the person you marry. YOU would! YOU know the kind of relationship you have, not them.

Do what your heart tells you and tell d 'prayer warriors' to take a hike.

This reminds me of when my brother told my mum he didnt like my fiancee and she informed me. I laughed and told her, "Do you really think i give a damn?". That was the end of the matter! 

Whats happening here is simple.

Its the age-old tradition of Parental matchmaking- parents choosing suitors for theirt children. All the prayer-warrior stuff is just a smokescreen.

If you think about it this way its much easier to make your decision.

The guy your parents chose vs the guy YOU chose.

The prayer warrior stuff is simply the nparents way of drawing the 'battle line'. If you choose your boyfriend, you risk appearing rebellious/out of control. Now you must add 'ability to stand by me under pressure from parents+extended family' amongst the 'positive qualities' of your boyfriend. If he doesnt measure up, you have to leave him. You can't choose your family.

If you feel you can safely disconnect with your family, then assume they will abandon u if you go with him, and stay with him.

If you value your parents satisfaction over your own happiness, you can marry the guy they chose for you. Otherwise, ignore him, too.

Its sad, and hard  to do, but like I said earlier, we don't choose our family.

  phew!!!  Na wa,family friend nephew?

I wish you could answer WHY you had other names on the list?

Surely you cannot be surprised that he was not chosen if you yourself kept your options open and added other names

i'll pray for you mine works 

and y would u want to listen to these so-called 'prayer warriors'?  

Sorry girl, its a shame you have to be in this situation at all because the way I see it, even if you make the right decision afterall, you may not be absolutely sure and marriage is one of those things for which u need all the conviction in the world. Forget about those complaining about your list, you hadnt married the guy yet had you? If your BF was asked to do same we don't know if you would had been the only on his list. Or had you guys agreed you were getting married? If you had already decided that you were going to marry your BF then my advise is:

1.  You can't blame your parents too much since they did not know your boyfriend all along and as far as theyre are concerned theyre doing the best for you because they want the best for you anyway.

2.  Explain to your parents how unwise you think it is that some people who don't know either you or your BF are deciding your choice of lifelong partner.

3.  If the 'prayer warriors' know the proposed husband, use it to strengthen your argument because they may be 'seeing' things to favor him.

4.  A pastor once told me he doesnt involve himself in this husband/wife prophecy buisiness because he considers it delicate, what if the union splits later on?

5.  Compatibility is more important than prophecy my dear, do you even know this guy well enough? Guess not.

Whatever the case, theyve managed to unsettle your erstwhile equilibrium somehow and I don't think its fair on you but you have to manage it as best as possible to achieve your desire with minimal friction on all sides.

6.  Very important, pray, and follow your heart.

Take care and good luck!

1. don't do what prayer warrior says do what you want
2. where did you find three names when you've been dating someone you love for three years
3. if prayer warriors choose for you don't get married at all because you are not ready yet since you refuse to stand up for youself in MARRAIGE that means you can't handle anything else like keeping home and family
4. nigerian parents, when will they quit they are overprotective during your youth now you are about to get married they still have something that is eating them up
5. remember risk is better than regret, take risk and marry who you love what is the worst thing that could happen, you can always run to prayer anytime but you can run to the man you love anytime later
6. i commend you for being nice and easy going to your parent, if i were you i wouldn't make a biggie because it's only a freak that can pray to names and know which is right hello, ordinary names how will you know what is what i'm even pissed[b][/b]

Pray to God and he'll give you the answer directly. What God has joined together, let no man put asunder