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chillin (f)
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lol lol u rite! lol
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kaylala (m)
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Make the money don't let the money make u and spend the money don't let the money spend you. I never said on gals anyway !!!  |
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kaylala (m)
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Guys, please let us be like Aurelio in Mia. Let us be smarter!!!  |
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ocho (f)
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"be smarter" as in "spend more on girls" right?   |
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kaylala (m)
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Outright NO!!! The way round. Meaning The gals should do the spending. Things r changing.Don't lose wot u have.Wake up  |
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prettyH (f)
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Thank you o |
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mamba (m)
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Thank you o So far your ready to pay back in kind, you can spend all you want I know I'm gon collect the money back x5 in the bedroom |
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paddy_lo (m)
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Well first date,the man should pay....after going out for a while and u establish a relationship...i guess it don't really matter who pays...as u go out to enjoy each others company...
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vinna (f)
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I don't know about what entails in other cultures, but i know as an african, a MAN is supposed to fend for his woman and all known religion share same view. Its the man who woos and he that must bear the expense of wooing. When you become an item, it would now be up to both of u how ur relationship runs, but i personally think a man shld not go out with a woman and expect her to pay because that would be the height of irresponsibility,but if she does, fine.
And secondly, as much as we might like the western culture, taking it in all its totality and dropping all ours would be detrimental to our uniqueness as AFRICANS.
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Banderas (m)
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Ok. Vinna, in african culture, when a woman serves me my food, she had better kneel down. In african culture, if a woman is rude to me, I have a right as a MAN to flog her publicly, even when she has children. That is african culture. However, you probably don't want me to do that. The way I see it, many african women want to be lazy and enjoy the good parts of african culture that benefits them, while doing away with the parts that are painful. I say this, choose one, be african, or be european.
Meet me halfway!!!
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chillin (f)
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I have a right as a MAN to flog her publicly, even when she has children. That is african culture. However, you probably don't want me to do that. The way I see it, many african women want to be lazy and enjoy the good parts of african culture that benefits them, while doing away with the parts that are painful. I say this, choose one, be african, or be european.
Meet me halfway!!!
broo!! wait no longer!!! flog her n' letz see watz gonn happen!! mehn your ass is straight 2 jail!! uhmmm beat her in public uhmm this is gettin serious!! "even when she has children"?? uhhhhh boiii!! u funny!! ohh yeahh we'v got juss 2 choices?? african or european?? what happened 2 asian and american |
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goodguy (m)
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Thank you o Banderas! Abeg tell them again and let them hear very well. |
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prettyH (f)
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Ok. Vinna, in african culture, when a woman serves me my food, she had better kneel down. In african culture, if a woman is rude to me, I have a right as a MAN to flog her publicly, even when she has children. That is african culture. However, you probably don't want me to do that. The way I see it, many african women want to be lazy and enjoy the good parts of african culture that benefits them, while doing away with the parts that are painful. I say this, choose one, be african, or be european.
Meet me halfway!!!
Thank you o Banderas! Abeg tell them again and let them hear very well. I don't blame the two of you. Which nonsense african culture entails beating a woman and subjecting her to misery? Abeg vinna tell them o |
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Banderas (m)
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Hey Chilling, you alright? what is American culture? does such a thing exist? And Asian culture is the same as African, very derogatory to women. Does anyone remember the woman who got gang raped because her brother was talking to a girl? And this was the traditional law in some part of Asia (pakistan if I remember correctly) don't get me wrong here mate, I definitely have no intentions of flogging a woman, neither will I be with anyone who thinks so lowly of herself that she would allow me to flog her. That's just wrong. The last Nigeria babe I dated was earning about 1/4 of what I earned, so it made sense that I would do most of the spending. I needed an amount of struture in my finances, so I opened a joint account for our trips. Things went awry when I told her that she also had to contribute something to the relationship. She absolutely didn't want to drop N1. Can you imagine, here I was blasting like 40K a month on a relationship, and she refused to even consider dropping 1K. Dammit. Now, don't get me wrong, I have a lot of respect for Nigeria ladies, but I have to tell you, if you don't get up and do your bit, you will definitely lose a measure of respect from your mate. Oh, it's not about misery dearest PrettyH, it's just that african tradition is a very male oriented tradition, and women's roles were simply to stay at home, cook and reproduce. i.e. Nothing like headache, nothing like sexual satisfaction for the woman. It was completely male oriented. |
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prettyH (f)
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Don't think your point holds water in our generation.
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Banderas (m)
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Don't think your point holds water in our generation.
PrettyH, I agree with you. Men no longer treat women like that because the traditions are changing. So why are women claiming that men should provide for them because it is african tradition? That seems like double-speak to me. |
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chillin (f)
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yo Banderas!! i'm gooood!! prettyH thxs gurl!!
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goodguy (m)
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Hey PrettyH, the guy is making sense. I definitely can't go out with a lady that expects only me to always do the spending everytime.
Afterall, u ladies say what what a man can do, you people can do better. So why the noise? According to vinna's post, she's referring to african culture which only favours you ladies. Banderas also listed african cultures which doesn't favour you ladies and you're making noise.
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Banderas (m)
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Hey PrettyH, the guy is making sense. I definitely can't go out with a lady that expects only me to always do the spending everytime.
Afterall, u ladies say what what a man can do, you people can do better. So why the noise? According to vinna's post, she's referring to african culture which only favours you ladies. Banderas also listed african cultures which doesn't favour you ladies and you're making noise.
Oga, thanks for your post mate. You're really a good guy!!! |
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prettyH (f)
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Please allow us make noise o. Who will see what doesn't favor them and accept? |
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goodguy (m)
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It's when it comes to money matters that you people remember African Culture and that we have to act like men.
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prettyH (f)
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Na una sabi |
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FOD (m)
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Banderas and Shegs...i too gbadun una...The nail has been overhit on the head.
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prettyH (f)
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So from what i can decipher, u guys want equality in bills payment abi. So do u guys agree that what a man can do a woman can also do ...........even better |
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Banderas (m)
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Heh heh heh. If you want to do better, then pay the whole bill, don't share it. At the moment, I agree that men and women are equal, not that women are better.
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ocho (f)
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@Banderas and GoodGuy: oh please!! who ever says we(women) can't have the best both worlds? we can still get you, the men to spend on us and still assert the gender equality issue. just loook at it this way, we make up for so much by having all the usual women troubles, you know like child birth, and the rest of them so it's only fair we get the best of both worlds. CAN I GET A WITNESS? |
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prettyH (f)
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Yes o. Tell them sis.........tell them @ banderas, what does it take to pay the bills, abeg its chicken change. But u guys know we are better and even stronger. |
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Z4M4eva (f)
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It depends, I would love to pay the bill, and if he wants too, he can.Doesn't really matter in my opinion who pays the bill, I can pay it, I don't mind.  |
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goodguy (m)
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@Banderas and GoodGuy: oh please!! who ever says we(women) can't have the best both worlds? we can still get you, the men to spend on us and still assert the gender equality issue. just loook at it this way, we make up for so much by having all the usual women troubles, you know like child birth, and the rest of them so it's only fair we get the best of both worlds. CAN I GET A WITNESS? We also pay the school fees for the children, build the house/pay house rents, buy you clothes, buy foodstuffs for the house, go to work very early and come back late in the night, and take care of over 80% of the living expenses of the couples, etc. Besides, we're not talking about husband and wife now. We're talking about a guy just asking a girl out. Or maybe boyfriend and girlfriend. Yes o. Tell them sis.........tell them @ banderas, what does it take to pay the bills, abeg its chicken change. But u guys know we are better and even stronger. Madam, we're not saying we can't pay the bills. What we're simply trying to make u girls understand is that you shouldn't always expect the man to foot the bills every single time you go out. |
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prettyH (f)
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No now i've got to ask this question , are guys tired of paying the bills?
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