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helen123 (f)
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what will u do if u find out your husband/wife tested positive for HIV?
What would you do if after several years after your marriage u find out your spouse is HIV positive
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DASKACE (m)
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Would sit her down to know how she came about it. Definitely going to be a heart-break if she had gotten it from another man.
I might do something stupid if she has already passed the virus to me but if she hasn't, then I would forgive her and show her love.
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Greatpeter (m)
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I will still love her and care for her because we took oath that we will love each other in health and in sickness..........
till death do us part.
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Renike (f)
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HOW ON EARTH DID HE GET IT  if he cheated ..am leaving him o,provided i don't have d virus..( bible supports that) but i do...mm, live in misery for d rest of my life ni oo... |
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1k001 (m)
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well for one i won't wonder how she got it because one never can tell. Hopefully she'll come out and tell me straight away if it was from intercourse with another person but i won't push for it, Could potentially destroy our marriage if she's been faithful al along. After that we'll carry on as usual, afterall the vow was in sickness and in health. I'd probably even contact the virus too so that we share the pain together. All it's going to do is kill and we're all going to die anyway!
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omogenaija (f)
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hmm God forbid and i'm going straight to the clinic  and then questions will rise bout how he got the diease first  but i think married couples should always practice safe sex unless they want to make babies and when they don't use protection get tested once every 3 months or better yet one a week or twice a month |
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crazykid (m)
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hmm God forbid and i'm going straight to the clinic
That's what am going to do first. Then if i happen to test negative, i would end that marriage immediately. |
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MILITIA (f)
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That's what am going to do first.
Then if i happen to test negative, i would end that marriage immediately.
Laffing my Southern Nigerian arse off!  Haba crazykid! You will not even bother to investigate! What if it was through a blood transfusion or a needlestick? Naija man! Na wah for you oh! You forget that you too can catch the thing later down the line? Then go about spreading the ungerminated latent " pre HIV cells" around and infecting people! Being HIV- then is not a clearance you know! Anyway at topic! I will probably stay and take care of him. Because I love him and I cannot trust his care to anyone else. I want the father of my children to live with dignity. I will not even tell anybody! Though I do not expect my Naija husband to do the same for me! You know Niaja men now! His family will come over here with strong jazz or set you on fire first!  Then look for another wife for him kia kia! It is what I do for strangers as part of my job almost every day. Taking care of terminally ill patients, so why can't I do it for my Husband? Now if he does not want my help can I force him? Noooooooooooooooo !-------------Don't forget that there is life insurance to collect oh! Just kidding! Make una no kill me oh! well for one i won't wonder how she got it because one never can tell. Hopefully she'll come out and tell me straight away if it was from intercourse with another person but i won't push for it, Could potentially destroy our marriage if she's been faithful al along. After that we'll carry on as usual, afterall the vow was in sickness and in health. I'd probably even contact the virus too so that we share the pain together. All it's going to do is kill and we're all going to die anyway!
Would sit her down to know how she came about it. Definitely going to be a heart-break if she had gotten it from another man.
I might do something stupid if she has already passed the virus to me but if she hasn't, then I would forgive her and show her love.
I will still love her and care for her because we took oath that we will love each other in health and in sickness, till death do us part. Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww! How sweet! You are a real men! |
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crazykid (m)
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No be me give am the HIV na. So there's nothing to investigate? Abi you want me to catch it too?  |
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blue-sky (f)
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If this happens, i will ask him to go and check again, just incase their was no mix up. I will then go and check myself . And my kids if i happen to have any at this time.
then we need to have some serious discussions about our futur and when and how did he get it.
God forbid if i was positive, but if i was, i will stay with him.
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hannydarl (f)
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It depends on how long we've been married you can immagine if he got it from waka waka and you don't have kids yet what the fact that your husband died of AIDS will do to your image in the society.I will stay with him and keep his illness a secrete so that I will have a better opportunity when he is gone to fall in love again and get married. But if we both have it I will join a society that comes out in the open to show people what HIV/AIDS can do if one is not careful especcialy people that are not faithful to their partners.
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MsEbz (f)
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If I got married and he tested positive for HIV I'd probably kill him to be honest at the least beat him close to death, he either was stupid using drugs or was cheating and on top of that could've given it to me, I wouldn't be rational that's for sure.
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geegee (f)
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i ve been married for three years and in january i found out i am hiv possitve and my husband is negetive
guess what guys? he is as loving as ever nothing has changed he buys my drugs and makes sure i take them religiously. we still have unprotected sex because my viral load is not detected that mean i may never infect anyone except the person comes directly incontact wt my blood. i asked him why he's still wt me not like i din't know i just wanted to hear from him because this hiv thing has ruined lot of marrages he said he loves me and that nothing is stong enought to break us and that he knows if revers was the case i'll love him still.we are working towards making healthy babeies who will be hiv fee.
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Siena (m)
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@ Geegee: That is a touching experience! You and your husband are a hard act to follow, and a shining example to others. Good luck.
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geegee (f)
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thanx siena, i showed my husband your reply and he smiled.
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