Battling With Sin And The World As A Christian

they fell along the way because they did not make use of the grace made available to them, it is scary yes but it is possible, because with God nothing shall be impossible; lets make up our mind to succeed where others failed and the grace of God shall carry us through.

@babycute

Yes o . Lets not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. As well u need to be strong willed and really disciplned to avoid falling by the way.


@n2h
Whats up?

don't change the thread sage, this one is about a sister's struggle with the desires of the flesh and contributions to help out 

I know exactly what u are going through. It's hard we most admit it but when u think of God and u pray to him for strength he will lead u through.  And ur boyfriend to broke up with u cus of sex it's  a shame. Apparently he was not the one for you.

Nothing is impossible with God

In everything we do if we put God first he will lead us to Success

You can do it through God that strenghtens you

Bless u  all

word! i am happy with all your comments esp the fact that we should not fail whaere others are failing.

hi, am new here and i am interested in this discussion. babycute, can i please ask if u did talk with your boyfriend about the boundaries u wanted e.g kissing? did he agree in the first instance with you? actually something like this happened to me, earlier this year and the more i tried to discuss with my boyfriend, the more we distanced.

i also would like to know how to you guys obey God's word on chasity and still have a boyfriend. like for instance, if u really like some one, but it is hard for you to keep away from each other and u can't think of leaving the person. i really would like to hear about ur opinions and i agree it really is hard, but some people do make it through.

cheers

@neddy.yea we did talk about it.he asked me if i had done it before i  was like no and didnt intent to do it till i got married,he was like yea right that what was the use having someone you can't feel,me i was like watever jo,i would change him,he didnt change oh,it was always  a battle,we were always arguing about it,i should have let it go when i knew his stands about it,but i was too blinded by so called love,and thot i would change him.so its better when u know what knid of morals he or she has,and that it doesnt go with yours let it go o.
@Nairaland users, guess what?just found out today that this same boy had beem messing aroud with my friends and every availiable female on sight when we were supposedly dating.i feel so bad,i have been crying ever since,i know its over between us,but it hurts so bsd.what if  i had given him my all,how woulD I FEEL NOW?listen people,atimes we might feel God is to rigid and his rules to tough to follow,but now i know he loves us and is trying to protect us from getting hurt or making drastic mistakes.these rules are for outr own goog, i feel so bad i wont lie.but i am happy i can share it with you all, happy new year in advance

@babycute: i'm so sorry to hear that. I mus say that your out look on life is very impressive and inspirational. Look at it this way, it was probably never meant to be between you two and you'D have figured it out sooner or  later. Your heart will heal, it might take a while that's all. You'll surely find some one who, even though dosen't take the same stand as you will love and respect you enough to wait for you and be faithful to you. Take it easy ok baby girl. God bless.

Me I ain't no angel when it comes to sexual matters. But I remember King Solomon saying the other day that one of the most wonderful things in the world is the way of a man with his maid - including necking, kissing and the actual baby making act.

I am currently married. From my experience, marriage doesn't exactly cure you of all the baggage yo got from watching corrupt movies, peer gist and bragging etc., etc. One thing I thank GOD for though is I dated my wife for 16 months before we married and not once did I kiss her on the lips or cross the line. I really sought the face of GOD before I met her and while we were courting. I have to say that listening to Pastor Bimbo Odukoya and many like her before marriage was helpful in no small way.

If there was an easy way to avoid temptation, I'll be writing a book. Truth is there ain't apart from the time tested prayer, fasting and the filling of your mind with the WORD of GOD. As much as possible, avoid watching TV soaps and dramas that glorify sex with no responsibility. GOD will do the rest.

Isn't it amazing though, that when many of us think 'sex' we think 'o God please keep me away from this temptation.' when we go and lie, covet, idolize, hate, simply lust, every day. How is it, that us humans have put values on sins. like, lying isn't as bad as premarital sex, which isn't as bad as stealing, which isn't as  bad as murdering? How can we as Christians, and humans follow both the law of humans and God at the same time. because we would all be locked up in jail if we followed only God.... i don't know how to explain my points of views on anything anymore. because simply a lie is just as horrible and wrong and unjust and ungodly as adultery and murder. so how can we choose? what give us the right to choose what should land us in jail? Sorry if I'm babbling, this has just been on my mind.

Hi all, am back. Wheres babycute and the other guys?

@blessedman

Good that guys open up bout certain things

@AbbeyMarie

You are right bout ur obsevation but this thread focusses on one aspect of sin- thats the sex part. Why not start another thread and lets get pples opinions.

hey  wad up,tassmal nice2have prettyh,all of you, I'm doing aight.school resumed so lots of tests and all.ive hot hot jist for you all.just logged in hurridely.will log on later sha, tkea all

Hi Faniael,

Welcome on board.

Welcome brother, add your voice to the existing ones and let Christ be glorified 

Guess what people..i kind of met this guy sha. We just started talking o.but it sims dere mit be prospects.but I'm taking it so so slow.i don't want2 make any silly mistake this time around.we talk alot about things generally.and I'm glad aldo he has had sexual relationships in the past.d longest relationship he had ever had and coolest atleast so he says..was d non sexual one that is it was void of sex.that is encouraging abi? If things go2 another level with us.i know he strikes me as someone who would respect my feelings. jist2..my ex came back ..asking4us2 get back. It sounded crazy and i was rily mad that he had d guts2 come say stuffs like dat2me .but nairalanders...hm..nairalanderr ur friend me babycute was considering d offer. I knew he had messed me up spritually,physi cally,emotionally name it.i was stl considering d offer. I really don't knw why i was.maybe because i felt shebi i had done things with him 2 such great extent and i was use2him already.or maybe i was just scared of moving on..it was a tough battle because

hey baby girl, nice to hear you've found someone, and i reason with you when u say to take things slow with this new guy. Of course he may seem nice and all because hey, almost everyone seems that way when we first meet them but take your time and get to know this guy so first of all, you're convinced that he's a true christain and won't lead u into temptation, and well, sin!
concerning your ex, let me use an illustration of the maskin tape's adhesive ability. When it's taped unto something and u try to detach it what happens? it's hard to detach because it's been kind of stuck and when u finally detach it, it's got particles from what it's been attached to stuck to it right? but does that mean it's lost it's ability to stick unto another surface? NO! so what's my point? it's only natural for you to want your ex back because well, as u said, u were fond of him but that dosen't mean you can't move on with you life and open your heart to loving someone else, because just like the tape, u still have the ability to "adhere" to someone else.Besides,from the stories you've told  about your ex,if u consider the odds in taking him back, you'll see that it's not worth it. Do u really want to be with someone who dosen't regard God's expectancy on sexual purity as something important? hence, tying to get u to sin with him? when making our decisions in life, our relationship with God and how those decisions affects it should be our priority. So God bless u in your battle girl, and always remember that though his grace and faith, we're able!!!