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yemstrad (m)
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Office, Club, Church, Internet,School; which is the appropriate to seek a lover?
I have gone through so many threads in the forum (Romance) and have seen a lot of reservations on the most popular phenomenon in live i.e. LOVE.
Based on those reservations, I have a problem as to the appropriate place to seek a lover and I want the experienced ones in the house to share this problem with me.
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IAH (f)
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Anywhere, man. ANYWHERE! Although I have this uneasy feeling about that Internet one. I'm not exactly comfortable with it.
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yemstrad (m)
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Anywhere, man. ANYWHERE! Although I have this uneasy feeling about that Internet one. I'm not exactly comfortable with it.
But to some, trying to seek a lover in the church is a taboo while to some other ones, to have a lover in the office is unethical. now u've added that of Internet. The question is still, where is the appropriate place to seek a lover. I'm waiting o 'because i'm confused. |
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IAH (f)
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That church one is no taboo at all. Infact, that's where the greatest number of couples are being matched these days! When you see single ladies and guys facing church seriously, na mainly because of life-partner o!
That office one, if you truly truly love the girl and it's not just to "sleep with her" like you said in that your thread, then there's nothing wrong with that too.
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yemstrad (m)
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That church one is no taboo at all. Infact, that's where the greatest number of couples are being matched these days! When you see single ladies and guys facing church seriously, na mainly because of life-partner o!
That office one, if you truly truly love the girl and it's not just to "sleep with her" like you said in that your thread, then there's nothing wrong with that too.
My sister, this much is your opinion. When a guy makes a move at a lady he love in the church, it is taken that the guy is practising immoralty of going against the bible as people believe the church is meant for worhip somehow... somehow. This is the general belief. Also, u'll agree with me that people in this part of the world still see u as the unserious type when u try to find a lover through internet. Infact, that was exactly the fate of guy who placed a thread here on Nairaland (Romance) seeking a lover. Different people, different stroke. the question again is, where is the appropriate place to seek a lover that will be free of immorality tag/insinuation. |
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yemstrad (m)
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School
Me 2 see no problem with that of school, but to some people; u should rather face your studies than to start dating the opposite sex. Infact, some believe education and love affair cannot go together without the latter affecting your performance on the former. Again, the gut that placed a thread here seeking a LOVER was told point blank by most members to first face his studies and become "Mr. Somebody" before he can even dream of anything love. So this question has not been answered. |
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IAH (f)
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Yemstrad, since you have disqualified every place suggested, where else do you want us to mention? Ok, Hell is the best place.
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snazzydawn (f)
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Well,love is everywhere,whether school,church,club,market,internet.....you never know where cupid will strike you at!!!
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mide2 (f)
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Well,love is everywhere,whether school,church,club,market,internet.you never know where cupid will strike you at!!!
You can find love anywhere, anytime, and anyhow.....there is no rules or boundaries for LOVE. |
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yemstrad (m)
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Yemstrad, since you have disqualified every place suggested, where else do you want us to mention? Ok, Hell is the best place.
Yes Aunty, that is exactly the problem 'because people will have one reservation or the other about the appropriateness of where u try to start dating. This problem is more prevalent in African. Hell is the home of fire (as we were made to understand) and not for dating. You can find love anywhere, anytime, and anyhow.there is no rules or boundaries for LOVE.
So if love is everywhere and there are no rules as to how u date the opposite sex, why then do we scold someone for placing AD on the internet seeking a lover? Why will a Pastor forbid lover/lover relationship among the church choir thereby forcing them to do it secretly? Why should a white garment pastor/evangelist who impregnated a church member be crucified or vilified? The Yorubas and probably some other tribes place high premium on the way and manner u found your partner and that is why the addage "Iyawo ti a fi Ijo fe, Iran ni o man wo lo" .... meaning..."The wife you found in a party, will surely not last". This is the extent of the discord for dating at parties / owanbe functions. Some in this forum called me Agbaya (good for nothing person) when i said my Secretary in the office is the right person for me. Why? Because it is office. Inspite of all these reservations, we still engage in the game of love. Could it be that we do what we preached against or what is the problem? In-fact, i don't just know. i'm finished already. |
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mide2 (f)
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people might crucify you for finding love in places they think are inapropriate but that doesn't make it bad. Once they see your love thrives, they change their tune. I still maintain Love can be found anywhere......so far it's mutual and u'r not using your position to force your emotional feelings on anyone.
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infobaba (m)
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My brother, love is everywhere, all you need is confidence  |
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lonelypal (m)
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people might crucify you for finding love in places they think are inapropriate but that doesn't make it bad. Once they see your love thrives, they change their tune. I still maintain Love can be found anywhere, so far it's mutual and u'r not using your position to force your emotional feelings on anyone.
seconded! Love is everywhere but the problem is how to find it?  |
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kufreabasi (m)
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anywhere,any place anyhow you can date, but must be careful
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busygirl (f)
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hmmm, internet  :-\i'm not really sure about that. . . .apart from that you can basically find love anywhere |
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loisamy
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please, don't try to date someone you meet in church. The church this days is full of pretenders and it will hurt you to find out some things about the person later. one thing is you can meet you spouse anywhere God has destined you to meet the person but the church Stuff be careful. g/luck.
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infobaba (m)
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Even at the bustop or inside molue,  love is everywhere jare  @ busygirl Maybe u haven't been clickn the right links  |
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ibkaye (f)
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FARM!  |
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infobaba (m)
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@ ibkaye I can hook you up na why farm ? FFO (For Food Only) |
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ibkaye (f)
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@ ibkaye I can hook you up na why farm ? FFO (For Food Only)see this one |
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karl ken (m)
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True love died in 1806 and was buried accoding to tradition almost immediately! Why then are you guys still looking for it?  |
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ibkaye (f)
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what is there not to like about farm? |
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ibkaye (f)
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why not? |
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lady u
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@poster
it could be anywhere,a friend of mine met hers on d plane
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whitelexi (m)
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@poster
it could be anywhere,a friend of mine met hers on d plane
You can even meet people on Chisco night bus |
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lady u
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You can even meet people on Chisco night bus my eldest sis met hers in dan dollars bus |
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