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zoric (m)
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hi. need some advice here.
my girlfrnd n i ve bin going out for about 3 and a half years n we recently just discovered that we are both AS.
really confused. don't know weda we should go on or call it quit.
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Uche2nna (m)
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Go find another girlfriend  |
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ima1 (f)
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please don't bring a child into this world just to make him/her suffer abeg, thats the worst thing you could do.
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adconline (m)
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Can you get in a car that has 25% chance of having an accident? Yes or NO
AS vs AS = AA,AS,AS,SS
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nikynike (f)
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That has alot of negative ending.You Better don't get yourself involve. You should Go for AA while she Goes for AA too if not there will be no LOVE in that marriage trust me.
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luvlymoi (f)
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if u re inlove all that doesnt matter, just make sure u don't have more than 1 or 2 kids because thats wer the problem is, and it also depends on wer u live, if u live in the u.s sickle cell disease is not a really big problem but it is a problem, they just have treatments for it not cures.
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typical
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This is not a medical/doctor's surgery. why don't you ask medical personnel?
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ThiefOfHearts (f)
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if u re inlove all that doesnt matter, just make sure u don't have more than 1 or 2 kids because thats wer the problem is, and it also depends on wer u live, if u live in the u.s sickle cell disease is not a really big problem but it is a problem, they just have treatments for it not cures.
The SS kid can end up being the first born, why risk it? |
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plezant (f)
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Please go for someone else
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naijacutee (f)
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In most cases, the SS is usually the fourth child. It's going to be a gamble if you guys decide to go with it 
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Uche2nna (m)
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Who said it is usually the 4th child It could be any , it does not come in any order. |
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Badman888 (m)
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I advise you to get someone else sha it hard decesion but what can you do, we were fortunate in out family both parents AS and out of 4, none of us were SS there is a chance but y risk it.
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zoric (m)
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yea its really a hard decision.  funny ting is, my parents r both AS and none of d six(children) of us is SS. life is so funny. |
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davidylan (m)
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In most cases, the SS is usually the fourth child. It's going to be a gamble if you guys decide to go with it Which "most cases"? A college mate is first of 3 kids, a high school friend who passed away recently was first of 2 kids. I happen to know another 2 who just happen to be the last kids. Theoretical biology tells us the 4th kids should be SS but in reality this is not true. yea its really a hard decision. funny ting is, my parents r both AS and none of d six(children) of us is SS. life is so funny. yours indeed is one of the miracles of life and the puzzles of science. |
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JustGood (m)
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This is not a medical/doctor's surgery. why don't you ask medical personnel?
I concur. are these people medically qualified to advise on this? |
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Badman888 (m)
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The medical staffs are still goin to tell you the same thing they would just explain further, they are some basic things about health which dosent require medical doctors.
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JustGood (m)
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does that mean it's better to take advise from unknown people on the internet than to speak with a medical practitioner?
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McKren (m)
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Well getting into this marriage with this girl you love so much has a 25% chance of unhappiness as regards the baby with sickle cell.
But getting married to the wrong person is 100% unhappiness.
Well I advice you get your decisions right because its totally up to you. Even the medical practitioner can only advice you which you can consider a mere opinion. Every marriage will always have its challenges, if it will come from a child there is absolutely nothing man can do about it. People who are AA+AA can give birth to a blind or deformed kids. Some might even be born ok but get deformed for life before their 5th birthday.
Though you can reduce your risks but sometimes some of these things are down to shear luck.
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naijacutee (f)
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Which "most cases"? A college mate is first of 3 kids, a high school friend who passed away recently was first of 2 kids. I happen to know another 2 who just happen to be the last kids. Theoretical biology tells us the 4th kids should be SS but in reality this is not true.
yours indeed is one of the miracles of life and the puzzles of science.
Ok, I didn't know that! |
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niyooo (m)
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@ topic,
my own 2 cents is that the two of u should look for someone else instead of risking the probability of pain and hardship involved in seeing a loved child die one after the other. I know a couple that were AS that got married and lost the 5 kids they had, the marriage degenrated to something else and later on the man went to have a kid outside. Anyway just pray before u make your decision, May God guide u right.
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Badman888 (m)
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does that mean it's better to take advise from unknown people on the internet than to speak with a medical practitioner?
is that what i said?? NO u find out from various sources see what peeps have to say and meet a proffesional some Doctors can just tell u rubbish to chop your money as i said this is a basic thing, its not HIV, malaria and all that |
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edmondo (m)
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mi guy,please look 4 another girl.
mak u no risk am,ok.
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4mike (m)
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My believe is,theres nothing impossible for creator.If u truely love your g/friend and u have she love u too,follow go for it God of love will back u up.its hard decision though.above all pray.
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anabell (f)
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4mike, just said it all
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toptho (f)
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It will be easy to say u guys should go your seperate ways but we all know that it's not that simple,but since i have seen first hand what having a sickler in the family can do,i will say u shld think twice.My cousin is AS and his fiancee was AS too,they were "madly" in love and so decided to seek medical advice.The doctor told them the cons,after then they sat down and decided that if they really loved themselves they will not bring a child into this world to suffer.Probablity is all well and good but there will always be someone else.I have a friend(she was the only girl and the middle child) who is a sickler,i saw what she went through,i wouldnt want to put my child through that
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Hotnspicy (f)
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Well u ave 2 options
u could either get married and u could,i mean would have a lot problems
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u could go and take another chance at love
option 2 is better if u ask me
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breezy
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i don't think the kid will forgive you for bringing him/her into the world to suffer. in the past it
is accepted due to ignorance but with the advent of technology where you can know each other genotype and be able to plan accordinly it will be a crime for bringing a sickler in to the world. tell me where do you want to start from is the economic burden of having a sickler as a child or seeing the child in pains and not be able to do anything about it, or the
the fear that the child can die anytime. so don't try or else you might have child who will never forgive you for knowing the consequences of you getting married to each other and decided to go ahead with it.
the alternative is you doing selective breeding where the fetus genotype is tested and you can then abort it if is SS, though i don't know if the technology is present in Nigeria or if you can afford the cost, there is also the question of morality.
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4mike (m)
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the pains u going to go through leaving the person u really love is too much to bear.Thinking that u might never find someone that would ever love u again,so those guys know be best option for themseves either to sacrifice love or to stick to love and hope on CREATOR.but whichever option they take, is right for them i guess.but we guys should not forget that if we see a girl u really like, u don't ask her what her genotype is but we rush to express our feelings.The bottom line is genotype should not be hinderance to love.because LOVE itself demands alot of sacrifices.  |
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FactorChic (f)
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For real, I don't mean to be harsh but this is the dumbest post ever Didn't you go to school? which kain stupid love be that? you want to marry her, then bring kids into this world so they can suffer, poor kids going through pain because of some stupid parents Dont even think of getting married, go fins someone else damn it! |
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mystikal (m)
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factorchic, u go soon be doctor. try cure them of their genotype, make their love for bloosom, LOL
that was harsh coming from a soon 2 be doctor
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Nikegenius (f)
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Let me put it this way.
If you find out that the girl u love so dearly has HIV through maybe injection or something like that but not fornication, would you go ahead to marry her if u've not contacted the disease?
Am sure you will not think about. And you know why, its because you will feel the pain directly. But because its the child that will suffer more, you think you can pull it through. A child will curse you for bringing it pain intentionally. If you didnt know about the genotype problem before the marriage, it would have been another case.
I tell you solemnly, the love you claim to have for each other will turn to hate in the face of this kind of problems in marrige.
I beg you, do not gamble with bringing a child into this world not knowing if the child will suffer all his life or not.
Am just suggesting.
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