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lovely_S (m)
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Sorry 2 say this,I'M NOT SURPRISE @ READING THISBecause i was once in those games that i was cruising another MAN's G/Friend until she got pregnant for her man (but i don't care because she told me all about her Man before we started dating) and still i COULDN'T let go because i was so in LOVE and she loves me too.
Then,I had my girlfriend but i didnt love her as i love TOUN,She always makes me happy whenever i'm with her or think about her.She was 1 in a million that i will never forget UNTILL I GIVE UP THE GHOST.
Not that i didnt know what i was doing THEN, but i couldn't control my emotions and she couldnt control hers too and we understand each other greatly.
I stopped seeing her the day she told me to get a NEW GIRLFRIEND because she can't continue with me that she knows she can never marry me with her conditions.I LOVE HER SO ANS I WILL ALWAYS DO. . .
@ Topic
I THINK we shouldnt blame non of this guys (her boyfriend and his secret lover) BECAUSE ITS A PROBLEM OF MIND
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dennylove (m)
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they might be so many reason that prompted all this. 1,maybe you are not good in bed. 2,he needed somebody that will be giving him money,you should understand,SUGAR MAMMA' He wanted to grow wildAND BE INDEPEDENT. HE WANTED to live large. sorrrrrrrrrrrry oooo, maybe, you are not giving him "THE STUFF"very well,so,he decided to try married woman. SO, HE GOT THE STUFF FROM THE MARRIED WOMAN.   :oGO AND FIGHT FOR YOUR POSSESION. |
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swing4real (m)
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@lovely_S So you are the one my TOUN confess to me about abi? I don catch u today.I go cut off ur tin. (Joking) U sure say no be you give the chick belly? Make u ask her well oooo u never can tell  |
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boladonas (m)
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@ mela you just took words out of my mouth, i had wanted to ask uche2nna why he was so interested in the case. Answering and asking more that the poster of the topic. I decided to put my mouth and curiousity in my pocket but after i read your post i couldn't hold back,,,, hehehe I can't help but laugh at his level of devotion. @ crazyp You go girl, you're making me proud. Silence is truly golden, you rock. Good luck Something keeps telling me uchenna is d guy! I have no proof so it is doubtful! uche na u? talk true o! @crazyp Move on up! like Access Bank |
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Uche2nna (m)
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Please guys, I no be the guy ooooooo! I just asked the question because I had recently heard something like this, albeit a long time ago, and it happened in PH.However, in that case the young guy and the madam got caught by Oga patapata and U can only imagine the kind of hell that was let loose.Anyway, it just gave me a feeling of de ja vu, that was why I asked. Sorry, if I have been misunderstood.  |
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Osabro (m)
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Hi, girl,
I am going to talk to you as a married man and as an elder brother. Please, flee for dear life. That man does not worth you a bit. Who knows what he would do after you have married him: it could be your sister, your cousin, your niece, your aunty, your neighbour or even your mother he would attempt next. What we call love is really an emotional outburst, which fades away with time. God has so favoured you that He exposed him before you made the greatest mistake of your life.
Before I got married, I had four relationships that did not work. Two of them were caused by me and two by my partners. One of them was similar to yours: double dealing with two men! But at last, I got my wife and things just worked out. We are married for four years now and have got two boys. The love is even stronger now than when we started.
Such a man as your ex-fiancee is one of such people who would show you much love and affection but are merely covering up to make you not to suspect their canny deals outside. He will surely come begging and, infact, could really change for the better because he needs you. But the truth is that habit is a difficult thing to stop. You might enjoy him only within the first few years of marriage and then life will be a hell for you, at that time, it will be difficult to retreat.
A word is enough for the wise.
Osabro
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kassim2 (m)
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Girl u just don't ve anything to do,just go down on your knees and thank God for revealing the truth for u.and continue your life.u just have to look 4 someone else.life goes on.
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lovely_S (m)
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@lovely_S So you are the one my TOUN confess to me about abi? I don catch u today.I go cut off your tin. (Joking) U sure say no be you give the chick belly? Make u ask her well oooo u never can tell U r really funny ;DMind U, I've never slept with her without putting on my BOOT/RAINCOAT/CD/RUBBER (whatever they call it). . .And she knew who is responsible for the PCheer!!!   |
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Creamish (f)
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@Topic, Dump his sorry ass because he aint worth it (he thinks u aint worth it too)  |
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FactorChic (f)
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He's an ass, dump him!, what's d point of being with him, he love ssomeone else, a married woman, u should tell her husband them dump ur boyfriend, I think he's an idiot! Why would he suddenly be in love with a married woman, he's in lust not love, ps don't waste ur time with him, just dump him and move on, I know it's hard but a sister has to do what she has to do!
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FactorChic (f)
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that is so Sorry 2 say this,I'M NOT SURPRISE @ READING THISBecause i was once in those games that i was cruising another MAN's G/Friend until she got pregnant for her man (but i don't care because she told me all about her Man before we started dating) and still i COULDN'T let go because i was so in LOVE and she loves me too.
Then,I had my girlfriend but i didnt love her as i love TOUN,She always makes me happy whenever i'm with her or think about her.She was 1 in a million that i will never forget UNTILL I GIVE UP THE GHOST.
Not that i didnt know what i was doing THEN, but i couldn't control my emotions and she couldnt control hers too and we understand each other greatly.
I stopped seeing her the day she told me to get a NEW GIRLFRIEND because she can't continue with me that she knows she can never marry me with her conditions.I LOVE HER SO ANS I WILL ALWAYS DO. . .
@ Topic
I THINK we shouldnt blame non of this guys (her boyfriend and his secret lover) BECAUSE ITS A PROBLEM OF MIND
that is so not right, I disagree with everything u just said, my man cannot be with me and be with someone else, i'll rather dump him and he's d one to blame, he's not contented with what he has, of all people he had to fall in love with a married woman, puhlease! |
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FactorChic (f)
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@Creamish
u're right, I feel u, he's not worth it, he's dating someone and he's looking at a married woman, if it was me, I won't hesitate to dump his ass with pleasure!
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hot-angel (f)
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Trust me guys, as wrong as this may sound. They could actually be "IN LOVE", i mean your boyfriend and the married woman.
The best thing you can do crazyp, is to leave the dude alone and move on. Never settle for second best, and don't you ever settle for less than you want.
You don't seem to happy being with a man who loves another woman, and i don't blame you for that. SO why not just leave this guy (yes it's hard), and move on.
I won't say that Your boyfriend and the married woman will reap what they sow, because well you see, They are just going with their feelings. Falling in Love could be a curse, but it's definitely not a sin now, or is it?
That's why i pray everyday that "Olorun maje kin fall in love oriburuku". I really can't translate that.
I'm am not in anyways trying to say that what your boyfriend did to you is right. I mean come on now, he's cheating on you, what good is that?? All I'm saying is that, --- as harsh as this sound, You might not be the one for him.
And take that a good thing because, i don't think a man who can't love you and you alone is the one for you either.
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ugodaniel (m)
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Trust me guys, as wrong as this may sound. They could actually be "IN LOVE", i mean your boyfriend and the married woman.
The best thing you can do crazyp, is to leave the dude alone and move on. Never settle for second best, and don't you ever settle for less than you want.
You don't seem to happy being with a man who loves another woman, and i don't blame you for that. SO why not just leave this guy (yes it's hard), and move on.
I won't say that Your boyfriend and the married woman will reap what they sow, because well you see, They are just going with their feelings. Falling in Love could be a curse, but it's definitely not a sin now, or is it?
That's why i pray everyday that "Olorun maje kin fall in love oriburuku". I really can't translate that.
I'm am not in anyways trying to say that what your boyfriend did to you is right. I mean come on now, he's cheating on you, what good is that?? All I'm saying is that, --- as harsh as this sound, You might not be the one for him.
And take that a good thing because, i don't think a man who can't love you and you alone is the one for you either.
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kely4oly (m)
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hi this actually my first time of sending in a reply in nairaland and i am do so because of the interest i have in ur situation.sorry i might be sounding off what u ve already decided to do. all i want to tell u is to think about all ve been through with this guy and see if the good times are grater than the bad times u ve had with him. also try considering the extent to which he posses what u need in a man because i tell u the truth just very few men are different from ur boy friend. though others might not be having an affair with a married woman but majority are having affair if not with a married woman, its with a single lady. so my dear no man is a pack of fantasy. we ALL have our Achilles hills. please try re considering ur decision. i mean try giving it a thorough re consideration. there could still be a chance of a happy unity between u guys. for what majority condemns most times might be the best for u. meanwhile good luck in ur search for a happy union.
ken.
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lola baloo (f)
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there are still some few good ones out there so go get urs now. my dear crazyp please note this WE don't FALL IN LOVE WE GROW IN LOVE. SO grow my dear and look for someone that also want to grow. i wish you all the best. LORENZO'S WIFE just joking |
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cute-ass (f)
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@ kely4oly I just had to commend the way you composed your post, it was actually food for thought. Now if you look on the first page of this thread, you'll see that my reply was somewhat different from yours, but your reply did make me stop to think. I don't know if i totally agree with the fact that a girl deserves anything less than the best afterall they say birds of a feather flock together so if the girl is faithful why dosen't she deserve a faithful guy?? or is it actually a credit to men that they can't do with one girl but your arguement does make sense and if it was a debate, sure i might have walked out as the winner, but i'm sure as the sun will shine that with that arguement of yours you'ld have fallen on second position,,,,,,,hehehe Keep it up, nairaland needs people like you |
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twinkledew (f)
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if you know how to get in touch with the married woman why don't you just comfront her and see what she says. tell her how you feel but make sure u have a copy of the e-mail with u and tell her your intentions. (telling her husband)
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bunmii (f)
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there is nothin u can do, just leave his sorry ass alone. i feel for you. don't confront no one because there is no point in doin that.
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lizzy 47 (f)
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Girlfriend as far as i'm concerned ur relationship is fizzled.  The next thing to do is to stand up on ur feet and walk away fast because even if ur fiance comes back to u, u'll have to share in the nemesis of his dating a married woman. Or don't u know that when someone tries to put asunder a lot of bad things will follow him/her so ur fiance is cursed now. The only thing i can tell u is walk away while u still can. U might love him very much but he is not ur husband yet so let him be. Besides u should know the saying if u love someone/thing let it go if its urs it will be back.No hard feelings, just take everything easy and ask God for his Grace and help. |
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crazyp (f)
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Hi guys, thanks so much. The cat is finally out of the bag, his friend told me that d lady in question was his girlfriend way back in schl & because he wasnt financially ok then, she opted to marry someone else & that they lost contact for several years & she had to pretend to b my friend also so as not to get me suspicious, they've bn dating ever since, can u beat that? I'm kind of relieved knowing it wasn't really my fault that things went bad, infact i'm very happy it happened now. Meanwhile, he's still pleading not knowing that i've gotten my facts, i'll let him continue playing d fool till , |
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kebab (f)
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way to go girl, n never mind about d two years u spent wit d oaf, just consider it as marking time for d real thing, i know, cus i have been there n done that, my relationship lasted for almost four years, of course, at that time, i felt my whole life had come to an end! and now i am incredibly happy that it ended. know why? cus i found someone worthy, so just hang on there n believe in the hope of a brighter day!
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MyPeace (f)
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I LOVE UUUUUUUUUUUUUUU GURLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL. Some IDIOTS will be held with the phrase " I am in love". Thank God you are not in love with ur down fall. You will meet URS MR. RIGHT so soon. I left a boyfrind at age 28, and my frnds were like, after 5years, no you can't, you don't hv time, this and that. Guess what? I'll be wedding come May this year. Know what u want and go for it. you will surely getit.  |
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crazyp (f)
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@MyPeace Girl, please where re u in Nig., nd to talk to people like u, boy!!! at 28, u really had guts & do i nd say, it was d best for u, i love ur guts, wish i cld hv one like urs, tanx for ur encouragement, made my day  |
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white`Nkem (f)
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The guy obviously didn't deserve you so way to go girl! Best of luck finding ur real other half! |
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Angelheart
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Sad, to say the least.
My sister, if a man falls for someone else, there is NOTHING you can do about it. Just let him go and be thankful of all the good times you had with him. Be sure that your friend's day will come. For now, she is the apple of his eye and the queen in his castle. The minute he moves in, believe me she will be treated like a servent to his quarters. Take heart and keep praying.
The battle is not yours but, the Lord's.
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deb (m)
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decision making is one of the hardest thing to do without plan so take care how you are going make this one. if you loves him give him some chance and i believe he will change.
I just think that is a useless piece of advice. Girl! you have to run for your dear live. You don't want to spend the rest of your live being miserable with an unfaithful goat. |
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MyPeace (f)
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@Crazyp,
Baby, you already hve the gut, thats why u are taking this decision on the guy. However, i reside in Lagos.
Take care!
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nduleme (m)
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I think you took the best decision, stick by it and you will be better for it, I swear.
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