Pregnancy Before Marriage

well so you think. for some it is the primary aim and not you, me or society sets the aim for marriage, many people have varied reasons.

hmm
 please don't confuse things and deviate, you mentioned children not being the sole aim of marriage, where did happiness come into it? there are people who marry just because they are getting on and want kids, even if they don't love the man or woman and having the kids for them equates to their happiness regardless of the fact they do not love the spouse., there are people whose sole aim for marriage is to have financial security and for some of such people this equates to happiness. HAPPINESS is relative, for some having wealth makes them happy, some are married for the sole aim of being with their spouse and not wanting any kids , that is their own measure of happiness.

all i said is this statement you made is flawed

flawed for the reasons i gave, you imply that the primary aim of marriage is not procreation . which is wrong, for some it is the primary aim and for some it is not. To have made that staement implies you have a yardstick by which you measure this or there is an unwritten rule that says this.

hmm are you a christain and do you believe what you are telling me? ( do not ever second guess another person)
if you do then good. as for fabricating, well this has nothing to do with the bible right now, we talking of making babies right? well some people go into marriage purely to make a baby simple!  ( i so don't even want to talk religion)

i don't see the arguement here, you even said thesame thing in your last post, some people go into marriage for babies or procreation, some don't, some can have babies and choose not to , the question of happiness like i said is RELATIVE, YOUR idea of happiness is diff from JOE BLOGGs idea of happiness SIMPLE>


if you believe mariage originated from God then you really need to read your post again and again and think long and hard and then decide if you are interpreting the bible correctly. and before i forget not everyone shares your belief of the bible, so my point about people getting married for different reasons comes into play here. Your standards are not everybody elses neither are mine

Exactly!  Thank you jare, for putting it across so well. I can't count the number of weddings I have attended in which the bride was sporting a potruding tummy. On top of it all, the bride will wear a spotless white wedding gown. 

In fact, a few years ago, it became so embarrasing in Naija, that some pastors of the orthodox churches started kicking against conducting weddings for pregnant brides. The trend has now changed. The pregnant brides get married in the registry & come to the church later, for what is called the 'church blessing.'

Pentecostal churches in their own case, have always refused to conduct wedding ceremonies for pregnant brides. Some will even ask the prospective bride to do a pregnancy test, before the couple can sign the dotted lines.

Even during several traditional weddings, it is a common sight to see pregnant brides clutching their wrapper, in a bid to avoid drawing too much attention to their state.

I've lost count of the number of Igba nku's that I attended, which had the bride conspicously 'in the family way.' I keep wondering, what's the rush? Why not tie the knot first before baking the bun in the oven?

I became passionate about this whole "omg what
a disgrace" thing when one of ma friends got pregnant
for her boyfriend. Instead of people minding their
EFFING BUSINESS or being of sum help, all they did
was criticize and bad mouth. She decided to keep her baby
(I SAY BRAVO TO HER!!), she decided not to get married to
her boyfriend just yet (actually they agreed to wait a while).
They're taking care of the baby together, tho they not married.
They gunno get married later if the love's still there.
It really isn't as bad as people blabber about. It's your business
how u want your life. All this talk about reducing "chances" makes
me wunna throw up and as mamaput rightfully put it, the
word "stepfather" isn't there for no reason. DAMN!
And tho I do not pray that ma own daughter would get pregnant in her
teenage years, I wouldn't throw her out if it happens. NEVER!!!
Keep open minds people!!!

Betta to raise a child outside a marriage if the marriage is gunno be
traumatic, Ever thot of that? All I was trying to say there is that I don't
believe that two people should be forced to get married because they
have a baby on the way.

Also, it isn't a question of whether or not ma daughter gun get pregnant.
I don't know if that's gunno happen. All I'm sayin is that if it does, I wudn't
call it a disgrace and throw her out like many parents do, mine included!

lol, abstainance,
well, let's put that aside for the moment.
Talkin about protection, shit happens yo!
Condoms rip, pills are missed, and such and such.
If a "mistake" happens, I believe it was meant
to be. I agree that people MUST be responsible.
Now back to abstainance, I'd be a fat hypocrite
if I preach it lol, so no comment there.

Is that "you" to me personally or a general "you"?
I'm quite aware of consequences and alla that.
I've got no problem with takin full responsiblity
for any thing I put ma hands into.

iight cheers,