Smooching And Petting As Alternatives To Premarital Sex?

Should Smooching/ Petting/ Caressing Act As An alternative to Premarital Sex?

I know a lot have been said about premarital sex.  What I intend to know is if ladies who hate or refuse premarital sex okay their date or boyfriend to smooch, caress, fondle, neck and pet them, at least to substitute premarital sex.  And would the guys deem it okay to require such from their ladies?

I was told sometime ago that some ladies enjoy these to the extent they wet their undies in the process, and that guys would naturally settle for this as a start from their unyeilding girlfriends.  Well for me as a guy I know smooching will surely tempt me to go for the real thing.  So i guess I would rather play safe.  I think it would be okay to hold hands together, hug, peck and do some other things, to the extent it does not allow shivers down within me.

Is that okay with you or do you prefer less or more?  Any specifics?

so jackie are u strong enough? 

jackie i thought u had told me that u will just stop at shaking or is it hugging? which one? i want to know how far we can go and still keep our cool.

please drop your opinion, lets know what the general thought will look like? are u okay with all or some of these with your date, boyfriend or girlfriend? or are there others u might want us to know?

dablessed, I agree with you completely. Now, sex is not just about love making or mating or intercourse etc. Why do you think there are things like cyber sex? These people may never have met each other but is it refered to as sex. True, stay away from all appearances of evil.

I know a girl who is "technically" a virgin. She has never had "sex"/intercourse before, but she contacted syphillis. How? She is a master of blow jobs! Now are you telling me that that is a better alternative to sex? No, no.  Smooching, petting, caressing and all fall under the same category as sex.

Hmmnnnn true talk, if you can't do it don't play around.
And if you can play around why do it?

Thanks Dejiolowe

It is really impossible not to engage in a little kissing and caressing. Nobody on this forum can deny that they don't get intimate with the opposite sex once in a while. It doesn't have to be blow-jobs because I consider that to be really gross for someone who's claiming to be a virgin...but let's be honest people, we all do some little little petting.

GP, Tell me you've never done it and I'll know you are a BIG LIAR!

I am one of the people that said so and I still maintain it! We are talking about a different thing here and NOT pre-marital sex, so please don't mix things up!

IAH darling, with all due respect, i stand to disagree with you on this one. IT is very well possible to have a relationship without getting that intimate. I can say this with all boldness and authority because i courted my husband for 4 years and the closest we got was a hug, until the wedding night. I am sure you must be imagining what sort of boring relationship it must have been and i tell you it was super fun! I enjoyed every moment, we played, gisted, laughed, practically did everything together but we knew our boundary.

So please, change your mind set in that regard for it is very very very very possible.

Much love

ha ha ha... i am laughing my heart out here IAH.

Does it mean you can't hug a colleague or what? What is there in a hug my dear?

OK i agree, a ra e lara e.

IAH! IAH! IAH! I perfectly understand my dear but we settled it in our minds so we did not have a problem with hugging each other.

Yes o!

y fool yourself if u can get the real thing. If you no want am, then no play around am at all

4 those of you who don't know, some people can date 4 years and not even kiss. ( i said some peopleooooo0 

wowww, that  deserves an award...  but do u mind telling how often u were seeing. Daily, weekly, monthly, yearly? Or he was in London, u were in Nigeria, vice versa. So. let's face it! I also, dated a lady I never touched for 3yrs tho we were both in Lagos then, and only sneaking in to see her every fortnite for about 30mins. My own reasons:
1. I was never bold enough to take my girl friend to my room, my home because of my 'military' parents.
2. The girl was a virg.. and wouldn't want to scare her away, etc.
So. not that its completely impossible - its a thing of the mind.
Inasmuchas am not contradicting myself, I only want to stress the fact that it's not as easy as u are making us believe.

I am still interested in knowing the nearness to each other. 

Thx

i don't really know. kisisng is aight as long as it's on d mouth.