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Z4M4eva (f)
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Smooching and petting is not bad  |
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snazzydawn (f)
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well,Zainy,just because you do it,doesn't mean it's not bad!!!smooching and stuff like that are as good as the real thing!!!
@dablessed,these things happen o!!!
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ocho (f)
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@dablesed: i'm pretty sure it's a true story. I've even heared worse. It might be suprising but this world is indeed a crazy place.  Smootching and petting as alternatives? personally, i'm fine with petting and smooching(restricted one that is) and i know i have the will power to prevent it from leading to sex....................been there, done that! |
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tenderson (m)
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Look let me tell you, kissing,hugging or which ever but not sex is all the same as sex, even merely lusting is sex because inside you ,you already started imagining things, if am to say the truth, premarital kiss,hug or what ever is not good, its against the law of God,its term fornication and God expected us to flew from it as its not glorifying.
I am engaged in all these respect though,i knew it is wrong but its quiet difficult to completely abstainn from it, i have a girl friend, she is a virgin,i knew it,she told me,and other of her closiest friend told me lots about her virginity.We made promise not to have sex, but from but from time to time we hug,kiss,smooch and becomes so high that she even at that point release herself to me to enter her,but i still keep to my promise but shw would never get annoyed at the end of sweet moment. I strongly encourage everyone to try and stay off these, abi u na no won listen? remember say babalawo dey heal people and can't heal himself...so my advice should place a very important notice to your mind.
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goodguy (m)
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Look let me tell you, kissing,hugging or which ever but not sex is all the same as sex, even merely lusting is sex because inside you ,you already started imagining things, if am to say the truth, premarital kiss,hug or what ever is not good, its against the law of God,its term fornication and God expected us to flew from it as its not glorifying. I commend your honest admission here.  |
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damygurl (f)
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@ tenderson so you are saying that no kissing, hugging, necking, smooching till after marriage?
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ocho (f)
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i'm guessing that was his point.
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damygurl (f)
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well i donknow about that then. i'm all for no sex till after marriage but no kissing? nobody can seriouzly say they didn't kiss their wife till after they both said i do.
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ocho (f)
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@dammy: Don't say NOBODY because u can't be too sure, it's happened and i do happen to believe it is possible, it all depends on a person's choice. I too am all for no sex before marraige but i'm fine with kissing and cuddling before marraige.
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DE-KING (m)
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I still find it unbelievable that some people can't believe the truth that they could stay in a relationship without doing all that. It's simply a matter of firm decision and discipline. It could a bit difficult at first, but with discipline and God, you'll sure make it. Just give it a try.  |
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Ashbaby (f)
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I think the thing here is to set principles that are unrealistic. There's no point of saying no touching, while you know all along that it is what you're DYING to do. Then, there's the issue of self control. We are human. If I know that I'll stay in a dimly lit room with a guy and really do nothing, then damn me if I'm wrong, but who are u kidding? We are human, and we are easily tempted by sexuality and if we were to admit it, we'd all be scared by the reality of it. There's no point of setting yourself up and saying that we'll be strong. No wonder Freud in his stage theories said that all the things we do stem from our sexuality. Not that I entirely agree, but the way we behave really proves him right.
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dablessed (f)
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Ashbabby, welcome on board.
Well said.
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damygurl (f)
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i still don't believe that a guy will go out with a gurl and actually marry the gurl without ever kissing her for once or hug her during their courtship. it's not a matter of sin or discipline that is not normal even in darkages i'm sure they at least hug or something before they actually marry.
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Ashbaby (f)
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I actually know people that haven't kissed at all and gave each other their first kiss at the altar. Believe it or not, they actually do exist. That's how THEY made their principles to be. Ofcourse, there are those that set the same principle and broke it like five minutes later. Hugging, now that's too general a principle, because for me, I hug anyone....well, depending on how close I am to them, but I don't need to go out with someone to be able to hug them, so it would be really absurd and unrealistic for me to set such a principle because I broke it....what?!?!.....like since I was born?! Yeah! :-[Or maybe.... :'(Depends on how u look at it. |
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Olagbangba (m)
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We have toiled all around this cyclical topic for toooo long. The fact still remains some people can do it, agreed.... but can u , U {reading this}, knowing yourself for yourself can u do it??? U know your body temperature level once u see a guy's 4 or 6pacs, or he tickles u or when u as a guy, sees the girl's cleavage or bends down, etc... lust or no lust. I am a blunt guy hence, my Japanese. As I was sayin, If u had never done it before, lucky u because u'ld hadly feel u losing or gaining anything. But if u had done it before u know what am talkin about better. May God forgive us.
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Olagbangba (m)
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At the same time, because the guy/girl is not doin it now or didin't do it then, doesn't mean he/she isn't doin it elsewhere with someone else or doing some other things with himself. We hav some of guys reserving some babes whether vir..n or not and still do it with some one else outside their relationship all in the name of wanting to play clean with their ''to marry'' man/woman. Let's dump all this pretence, and move on to another topic - stop playin saint.
I for one, never ''tasted it'' till I was 21 in my 2nd year in the uni simply because of my spirituality then, but I started masturbating at the age of 13. And to someone out there, they'ld see me as a virgin but what I was doin in my room was equally, disgusting.
Search yourself ... CAN I DO IT ?? If u can, Glory be to God, If u can't, identify your weakness and ask the Lord who strengthens to add to your ''Fleeing Ability''. The word says, ''I can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me''
If u know a little touch sparks off the light in u, fleeeee ; no one can do it on his/her own except the Lord buildeth, the builders labour in vain...shikena
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damygurl (f)
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aight o! but no one can honestly say they know sumone who never kissed till they got to the altar xcept for if they are that person because they might not tell you.
i got a question is kissing a sin because to me it's not? i know kissing another man's wife is a sin but between engaged peeps or just people going out with eachother.
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Olagbangba (m)
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Is kissing a sin ?? Like u 're a kissing expert. I like u for holding firm to your own area of specialisation. But don't come out here to tell me that the kissing has never gone beyond the mouth to mouth relief. There's kissing; there's pecking, which one do u do? Exchanging saliva, abi ? Ok o. Kissing that makes u feel like ''wanting it'' ... lol ..has become lust, and there4 its a ..... May the Good Lord forgives. I can now understand, why God was askin for just 5 or 3 clean people in Sodom n Gomorha, because we hav all sinned and fall short of His Glory.
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AbbeyMarie (f)
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i got a question is kissing a sin because to me it's not? i know kissing another man's wife is a sin but between engaged peeps or just people going out with eachother.
I believe that it can be. It all depends on whether or not, while you are kissing, are you lusting for more? If so, then yes it's a sin. If not, then no it's not a sin. My personal line-that-shall-not-be-crossed is anything that makes me lust i shall not do. If when I'm snogging, I lust, then i won't do that. If when I'm simply kissing, i lust, then i won't do that. if when iI'mholding hands, i lust, i won't do that. if when i hug, i lust, i won't do that. Now, iI'mnot saying that i have and will, always follow this rule of mine.... God knows that i have lusted. But the best i can do, is try to keep myself away from the temptation to do anything that makes me lust.    |
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damygurl (f)
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if thats the case then we've all sinned because no one can say they never lusted after sumone before so May God forgive us all. {Amen}
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AbbeyMarie (f)
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well of course we have all sinned. That's what Jesus if for. *Thanks God, by the way*
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DE-KING (m)
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This may be my last comment on this topic. As our faces are different so our level of tolerances. Like Abbeymarie said, if it causes you to lost, why not stop it. When you lust, you have equally done it. Why not make up your mind on what you want to or not do, and God will back it up for you. |
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Ashbaby (f)
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Why not make up your mind on what you want to or not do, and God will back it up for you. True that! |
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Typewriter (m)
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to me it makes no diffr. just enjoy ur-self while u can u never can tell what may happen then u now regret
after all the thing no get meter that will read how many times e don happen?
me na cook and eat, so if you be cook and wait na u sha bi
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ocho (f)
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to me it makes no diffr. just enjoy your-self while u can u never can tell what may happen then u now regret
after all the thing no get meter that will read how many times e don happen?
i sooo did not get that  me na cook and eat, so if you be cook and wait na u sha bi
this na the ony thing u yan wey i grab o! lol lol |
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Oracle (m)
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AS I ALWAYS SAY
IS IT THAT NECESSARY?
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Ashbaby (f)
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AS I ALWAYS SAY
IS IT THAT NECESSARY?
Good question. Revision of PERSONAL priorities. i sooo did not get that this na the ony thing u yan wey i grab o! Ocho, simple English...or pidgin!  |
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dakmanzero (m)
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We Nigerians can be so hypocritical. That includes me!!! I swear I don't indulge in premarital sex ever ever ever!! Allah! (finger on tongue, touch the gorund, point to the sky) Cross my heart and hope to die!!!!!! etc etc etc. Yawn. Nothing to see here people. We Nigerians will never confess to our evil deeds in public. Instead we'll just pretend to be saints by impressing everyone with our stories of incredible self control. PS exception to the rule- Strangely enough, Nairaland as a really civilised and intellectual Nigeria-centric site, is actually less honest that the totally brain-dead and idiotic Naijaryders.com. head there to see actual NIGERIANS bare themselves in public. Amazing! |
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Ashbaby (f)
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We Nigerians can be so hypocritical. That includes me!!! I swear I don't indulge in premarital sex ever ever ever!! Allah! (finger on tongue, touch the gorund, point to the sky) Cross my heart and hope to die!!!!!! etc etc etc. Yawn. Nothing to see here people. We Nigerians will never confess to our evil deeds in public. Instead we'll just pretend to be saints by impressing everyone with our stories of incredible self control. PS exception to the rule- Strangely enough, Nairaland as a really civilised and intellectual Nigeria-centric site, is actually less honest that the totally brain-dead and idiotic Naijaryders.com. head there to see actual NIGERIANS bare themselves in public. Amazing! Why are u complaining? Life is like a theatrical performance....A place where we are all actors trying to make the best impression of ourselves. |
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ocho (f)
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Good question. Revision of PERSONAL priorities. Ocho, simple English...or pidgin! which ones na? na by force make you hear watin i dey yarn?  |
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yummy (m)
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how are we sure people postin' here don't do more then smuchin and kissin'? am sure people suck Pu**y as well! even tho e know girls are already used to bj shit!
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