Nairalanders Put Me Tears

I want to thank you for those who answered my question on the following topic below:

"Will you like to date with a person who happens to be deaf?"


Read existed topic: Tells Us Your Cinderella Story where I wrote on the following link below:

http://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-37015.32.html#msg932964

It is the same responses as African-American forum users saying NO!!! It also the same responses where I signed up for online dating services 10 years ago, still today in 6 months ago (now, terminated)---the majority of the single hearing men (both races) had been rejected to date me locally in a public places during free trial period, sometimes 1-month period and sometimes 6 months period. It brought me realize not worth to go through all those years and years, my hope now shattered into pieces. I told my man whom I date, a Nigeria-Yoruba born Ogun tribe for almost 8 months next week, I don't want to end up like "Phat Girls" (2006 movie) symptom phrase.

I am not fat! I am very much slim with high metabolism to watch out what i eat but fully hearing impaired wearing a pair of hearing aids behind the ears with college-degree and business (entrepreneurship)-oriented friendly computer savvy. Before I met him, I had not been dating for 3-years. My man is still madly fall in love with me no matter what despite of my deafness. He knows how I feel being frustration of rejections too many times, but he found me FIRST by reading my profile that touched his heart at other dating site. We communicate each other with webcam everyday!!! He is HEARING, and can hear my own voice when I sent him my 5-minutes video file singing the gospel song that also touched his heart.

I know you all ask me why don't I date deaf guy. Just like men look for virgin girls, I look for equally intelligent deaf guy. Unfortunately, there is high majority of black deaf guy are communication-level barrier or communication-challenged (most deaf people read in 3rd-5th grade reading level at grown adult age despite of all of them are graduated high school completely), jobless (rely on government monthly assistance), drug addicts, freeloaders, two-timers and girl-traveling, just exactly like the Nigeria poverty men who left school unfinished to take care of family. The minority of other black deaf guy are married or taken but constantly having affairs---cannot afford to file for divorce but constantly committed adultery(both married spouses). Remember in the USA, there are highly numerous of deaf job discriminations since the law passed in civil rights for disabled people in 1990. It is hard to find deaf educated guy compatible for me.

And ALL HEARING CHURCH shut their doors not welcome deaf church-goers---95% of deaf people DO NOT KNOW ABOUT JESUS!!---that is sad!!! Only 5% of deaf Christian had been trained as deaf leaders, deaf laymen, deaf Evangelists, deaf pastors, deaf followers in ministry by hearing churches---still they(hearing churches) won't let deaf pastors to plant their own deaf church to be built for deaf church-goers at their own language: sign language!!! Still roughly 25,000 deaf Christians around the world, it is hard for all of us deaf Christian to roll their sleeves to go out on their own deaf missionary to witness deaf lost ones (unsoul) out there around the world. If you do not believe me, do your research using google, "deaf ministry".

Finally, I told my man that I feel like i am heartbroken---MY TRUE LOVE DOES NOT EXIST no matter how many times my man truly love me so much.  It does not mean that I am insecure myself, it hurt me so much seeing so much rejections among physical-challenged people out there. I used to be loved when i was married long time ago (19 years ago). Now I am 14 years divorced single mother of two children (one grown adult enter college this year, the other soon few more years left to graduate high school)---excited looking forward to have my own travel vacation plan going to tropical islands and West Coast, maybe Africa. This year 2007, i will go my first time on a world largest ship cruise with 4,000 deaf travellers coming this October 28-Nov 4 heading to Mexico, Jamaica and Hispanola. Already have my own passport and plane ticket purchase done.

God is hurt too to see too many ignorants on earth!!! What happen to the scripture: John 3:16? I move on be happy myself, love myself, trust myself, and praise God to be thankful that I am alive breathing the air God give me everyday!!!

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