Domestic Man

  @ima1 
well it doesnt mean u should forget your duties and feel like he really has any duty in there. As far as i'm concerned he is helping

@ lizzy47
i did say i want someone who can help me, doesn't sound like i am forgetting my duties does it. the thing is i just want him to try to help, i prolly wouldn't even need his help especially in the kitchen, because thats where i have so much fun, i enjoy cooking. and i know my duties as a woman.

@Brymore
well back home the girls were forced into the kitchen not the boys, its possible for mother's to groom her son but its like 30-70% that something like that happens in naija. so did your mom groom you?

@cute-ass
u said it all girl.

I like to do domestic work and all that, but when a man takes advantage of that then we got real problem.
Like everyone said, it would be nice to see him around. . Like am washing the dishes and he's behind me,
holding ma waist and whispering some sweet words into ma ear. I looovvve that.

I mean the name " Domestic Man" is very degrading and off putting or any man but I would like to say I have been married to my husband for a very good enjoyable no regret 19 years, we both work full time now, (when the kids were little I was a stay at home mum) my husband cooks voluntarily before I return from work, he occasionally put clothes in the washing machine and generally helps round the house, not vacumming or making beds or cleaning baths or toilet. He has always been very dedicated to his immediate family (us) and I thank God for him. I have never seen him as "domestic man" other than "my other half" because that is the way he sees it.

so please do not lebel men that are well trained by their mothers before we became their wives with such a awful degrading term.

What's in a name? Domestic, modern, new, worrier - they are all just labels.

If a man knows how he should do what he can around the house, if he doesnt then he should employ a housekeeper. 

cute, a, I very much understand your points. I have problems accepting that anybody out there may call or referred to my boys (never mind my husband) as "Domestic Man". YES my boys (2 of them) will have a very enjoyable marriage when they finally got married because they see a good role model at home in their father, you and I can however say they were brought up to be domesticated should there be need to take control of their home on the absence of their wives or girlfriends. I would hate to think there are girls out there who would/might see them as "domestic men".

Someone on here mentioned housekeeper, yes if my boys chose that option that is fine but at least if they their partners will never be let down if the housekeeper leaves without notice (which they usually do).When my kids were little, I had nanny and housekeepers in Lagos but there will always be an unexpected excuses of why they must travel back home immediately eventually returning back to you just as you were managing well without them.


I am still counting my blessing,

@ Cyclone5
from the first time i read your post, i knew you were full of intelligence.

The word "domestic" dosen't have to be insulting and yes you're very right they're just labels. And i love you for saying that guys should be able to do what they can. I'm sure the ladies are not expecting more than what they can.

thanks for understanding


I like the fact that you admit that, and i'm sure your wife wouldn't expect you to do more than you can but just being there with her mightbe all she needs, like i and  Busta said, justwhispering sweet words into her ears, stealing a kiss every now and then, chuckle her from time to time

Believe me, your presence around her and the small things you do will make it seem you're doing all the job in the world, when you literarily aren't picking up a pin

Just sneaking up on her in the middle of dinner preperation and givimg her a hug from behind would make her day

And i don't mean you have to do that every sngle day ooo, but doing it once in a while will mean a lot to her and the once will keep her going til the next time

You'll be so surprised to find out how little it takes to put a smile on someone's face

I'm sure you'll be able to do that for your darling, right??

you too hun

with the likes of i and you and Busta, how dare they not?  lol

well dearie, i hope so too

well well well.
As long as he makes a good living, by that I mean bringing home a fat bacon, I am happy doing the house chores.
Of what use is a man washing dishes when all we have is garri to drink?
I prefer he is out there working,domestics are not my priority.
I work too but less than he does that gives me time for housework.

_{my personal opinions}

It would be nice to have my man as Domestic or housekeeper around my house to help me out little, but not necessary!!! Especially cool of my man also handyman, not necessary.

I do myself handywoman to fix something broke like toilet flush handler broken. Kitchen pipe cracked! Fix wall that is creaked to do drywall covering up the ugly seeing wall, etc. I love to fix things that i hate wasting money on professional (plumbers, building contractors).

I took myself do-it-yourself home improvement class in local college as my hobby long time ago, still remember what I do when something broken. I am very gratefully that my parent taught me when i was teenager to help out my parent's dream house that come true. My dad was licensed home builder to build their home from scratch they saw on house model magazine to buy blueprint plan.

I don't expect him to do kitchen duties just like he doesn't expect me to mow the lawn and trim the hedges.

since when did a man helping around the house become degrading?

one of my teachers told me that, "if u want to marry a rich man then u can't have him at home because they are never around but if u want a man that will be around u then u will have to forfiet him being really rich.
for now i still want my man around anyway, but surely he will be very rich and i pray that even when he is he will always make timeout for us to have memorable outings
domesticated men are very romantic if u know what i mean but the other way round??? oh no can't help u .

what is good for the goose is good for the gander !