Masturbation Among Children

A lot of parents/guardians don't now what their children are
doing. It is really sad that young children are now into
pornography and masturbation. We need to do something about it.

I was having a discussion with a friend who said he will never allow his
children to go to boarding schools.

When i asked him why, he said that he learnt the habit of masturbation
while in boarding school. Everybody in his dorm was doing it
and now that he is 34years old he cannot stop it.
Of course the behaviour continued while he was in the University.
He regretted to have learnt this bad behaviour in the school

Another strong point he gave was that his parent never knew that
he masturbated and couldn't have known because he was always a
boarder and nobody could stop  the menace.

Now, let me ask you a few questions,

1. what will you do if you found your son or daughter masturbating?

2. Did you learn bad behaviours while a boarder or day student?

3. Are bad behaviours more prevalent in boarding shools or day schools.

Please let us discuss this problem so that we can know how to
handle it properly.

Parents/guardians and would be parents should contribute to this topic please.

I hope the responses will help you decide on where to send your children.


Olu

sex and drugs too.

i don't know why parents send their children to a boarding-school in the first place.
i'm not sure the boy would have gone into it, or better he wouldn't have made it an obsession, if he had been allowed to go to a mixed day school.

uh uhhh.. i don't like how u called masturbation a bad bahaviour. it's not a bad behaviour, as long as it's not your life.

Plus i also agree that boarding schools are not good for kids. I heard that there are now elementary (primary) boarding school. Too bad.

Among children.. now that has a comma. But i believe that those in boarding school are not children. And from the tone of the owner of this thread... he happens to be calling 14-18 year olds, kids.

Why would your kids masturbating involve you and your husband?

I'm 100% sure that hot-angel will support this...I wish to know more about her,she's almost someone like me!

Hi Guys and i am sorry to have been away since i started this thread..

I actually expect us to discuss this issue critically and not make
a small joke out of it. This things can deter the physical and
spiritual well being of our children if we don't nurture them well.

We have serious problems in our hands and as adults we
need to profer good opinions on this issue.

I went to a boys school and all manner of bad behaviours
can be learnt irrespective of whether you were a day
student or border. In my time, my friends used to smoke Igbo
(Indian Hemp) but i never joined. I used to play cashi
(poker gambling and dice gambling)

When i got to the University of Portharcourt, i discovered that
cult boys were the ones raping girls and stealling on campus
so i decided not to join them though my friends tried to lur me
in but i turned my youthful energy into Keggites Club till i
graduated in 1992.

Friends, we have not treated questions well and i want
us to revisit them properlly;

1. what will you do if you found your son or daughter masturbating?
2. Did you learn bad behaviours while a boarder or day student?
3. Are bad behaviours more prevalent in boarding shools or day schools.

My own answers are
1. Since i presently have a 4year daughter, my wife and i constantly
tell her that she should not allow anybody touch her pp and she too
should not play with her pp. I think she has accepted this instructions
and wouldn't allow it even if her aunty or uncle wants to give her a bath.

We should find a way of teaching our children good moral ethics and

2. I played a lot of poker gambling, dice gambling and table tennis
gambling in my days insecondary school to the extent that i stole
to keep the habits. God eventually delivered me when i left secondary
school. My university days were cultless - i meanrt i was not a cult guy
but a keggite (The only problem with keggites was the immoral behaviours
among okpakas and okpekes.

Gee, there are bad behaviors in day schools, boys only or girls only schools.
I remember my secondary school, how we used to bring out our PP to check
out sizes or who has the biggest Gbola. Men, it was terrible because if you
don't bring yours out, na wahala u go get in class.

3. Well, you can learn as much bad behaviours in day schools and
as well as in boarding schools. My wife was a boarder from secondary
to university levels but was a good girl throughout. I was lucky that i
married her without being rotten though i was a cowboy in school.
I think i will send my children to boarding schools if my wife persuades
me to.

Lastly, it is totally wrong for children to watch pornography or even
engage in masturbation. I will never subscribe to it. We must not allow
our children to degenerate to that level.

Your concrete responses to the 3 questions are welcome.

Cheers

Olu

I asked based on the contents of your post.  Since pornography involves people who want others to watch them having sex, I'm not sure if this is directly comparable to allowing your kids to watch you and your husband. . that is unless that is what you want.

Well i don't have kids yet  . but i guess it all depends on the age, I'll be extremely concerned if they were doing it before age 10. From age 11 onwards, its no use telling them its bad 'cause they'll still do it anyway  so my policy will be 'don't ask don't tell' . I wasn't exactly a saint when i was growing up and i haven't turned out too bad (i think  )

I did go to boarding school, I don't think it makes a lot of difference, you can't keep an eye on your kid 24/7. All you can do is teach them what is right and wrong and hope they hold on to the values you've taught them.

When i was young i was always in trouble at school and at home (the things my poor parents had to endure  ) so for me it would not have made much difference. There was a lot of discipline in boarding schools then so i was more scared of my teachers than my parents.
I do agree that bad behaviour is probably more prevalent in boarding schools, but on the other hand you learn from a young age to be self reliant and independent.

ese o 

self  satisfaction period. why the long story??

When read the postings of some people, you would wonder if they were brought up in a good home. Tell me, what is good about masturbation or pornography! These two activities distorts the mind of whoever partakes in them! Pornography on its own encourages humans to treat members of the opposite sex like sex objects. It encourages beastly copulation and not romantic love-making.  I grew up in a 'crowded' environment and had some friends that were into porno and 'wancking' ; take a good look at some of them today (more than 17 years) and a few seem to have twisted minds! Theirs reasoning and actions when it comes to sex are greatly on the twisted side.
We should try as much as possible to bring up our children in the right way. This, we greatly owe them.

mmmmm that word alone rings bells........... u know if u see a guy/a girl that happens to be a masturbator DONT critize him/her all u need do is to find out WHY and how u can help STOP it.

why wont u?

Now that's the way to educate: use fear to scare your children into some arbitrary moral values