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bohye (m)
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It depends on your definition of who a prostitute really is? Is a prostitute a person that offers "Sexual Services" for financial or other compensation....or...or a person that plays around indiscriminately. Cos I believe theres a little prostitute in everyone. So let everyone check themselves b4 they cast the first stone. Back to the question. I dunno methinks if she worth it and my family dosent know i just might. 
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pendelite (f)
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Semantics, Semantics, Semantics
Prostitute pros.ti.tute [próstə toót] 1. somebody who receives money in return for sexual intercourse or other sex acts 2. somebody who uses a skill or ability in a way that is considered unworthy, usually for financial gain. 3. to use a skill or ability in a way that is considered unworthy, usually for financial gain, 4. to work as a prostitute or offer somebody else for sexual intercourse or other sex acts in exchange for money
Encarta Thank you Dictionary.
As for your choice, good God, that’s your choice.
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nferyn (m)
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@ pendelite I finally found time to answer your post. To my prostitute friends out there, I never said you should not get married, I just said that everyone else should consider you as a last choice. If a man had a choice between a woman that values herself and one that does not, he should choose a woman that knows that her body and her soul can not be purchased for another’s pleasure.
You are reasoning from a position that prostitutes, by definition, do not value their bodies and themselves as human beings. It may be so that many in society do look upon prostitutes as being morally deprived, but that does not need to be so. It's only because you attach that specific value to your sexuality that you think that hiring out your sexuality is by nature a bad choice. People that work as janitors, supermarket clerks, parking guards and the like are not living up their potential as human beings either, yet they are not scoffed at like prostitutes. This is a double standard that is actually very discriminatory. On the question of if prostitutes will return to the former activities, this is based on the laws of probability. I can provide additional empirical evidence if you require it. The fact that someone devalues themselves for material gain is indicative of the possibility that if the opportunity presents itself such a person will have no reservation in profiting from it.
If you could give empirical evidence of that fact and establish causation between the act of prostitution and those prostitutes returing to their former activities, please do so. Mind you, correlation does not equal causation. Also please ensure that you have a representative data set. If you cannot provide the above, your statement is merely an anecdotal opinion, not an established fact. It is most unfortunate that poverty not opportunism is the excuse used by young men and women to engage in this act, however labels say very little for a decadent attitude amongst today’s youth. Prostitution is an act of choice, you look at yourself, value yourself and give up yourself for material gain.
All payed labour is giving yourself up for material gain. Why single out prostitution? The option always exists for one to find another way to solve a problem such as working to pay school fees, attending classes and reading to pass exams. People of easy virtue rarely make good committed partners and that is what marriage is all about.
It is you that assign a negative moral value to the act of prostitution, there are no hard laws that make it so. My prostitute friends can stand on top of the mountain and shout themselves hoarse. Unless they were sold into prostitution they made the choice and are inclined again towards that choice when the opportunity presents itself.
Where's the evidence in support of that opinion? Please note that I used the law of probability, which means that they will probably return to this vice and not that they will certainly, always return to the vice. However, it’s up to the person making the choice of marrying a former prostitute to make this determination.
Can you make your law of probabiblity explicit? I have not seen any rigorous application of probability in your post, but maybe I missed it. Oya, I have opened a can of worms, we can eat it or kill the worms.
Well, by eating them, you will definitely kill the worms  @nferyn , if you have data to support the concept of redeemed prostitutes I would be interested to see it.....
No, I don't have any data, but I do not need any data, I did not make the statement that prositutes will probably return to their former employment.
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kaylala (m)
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2. somebody who uses a skill or ability in a way that is considered unworthy, usually for financial gain.
Do u mean that a pimp is a prostitute too 
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pendelite (f)
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Kaylala, maybe you should give up that occupation, now that you know what it is  nferyn, our differences in opinion may be cultural. You have merely woken me to another possibility; prostitution may not be a bad thing after all by your logic, it is just another job. Every society/culture has it concept of decadence, in Belgium it may be perfectly acceptable to be a prostitute (just another occupation), I wonder if that is so; I have seen the girls in the glass rooms as I walked the street of Antwerpen. I guess it is a sanctioned behavior. I have also seen kids in Lausanne that are allowed to take drugs and smoke marijuana in a particular park as long as they do not sell it or leave the area. When I was in Amsterdam, I saw that people were allowed to take marijuana. In the Nigerian society where this post is directed, Prostitution is seen as debasing oneself and not acceptable. This is not to suggest that there are no prostitutes; just that people do not wear it as a label. And to your suggestion that there are no hard laws, there are laws against prostitution in many countries of the world including Nigeria and there is also a moral law that I have posted. I appreciate your response and it made we wonder if you think we are just a bunch of backwards folk that haven't quite accepted the reality of the times that we live in. In the Nigerian society, you cannot equate Prostitution with being a janitor, driver, garbage collection even shit collector (we still have those); it is just not acceptable. I have heard it said that they perform a useful service in society but the question was, "Will you marry a Prostitute". With the connotation of the word and our so called cultural inhibitions, I have suggested that within the context of our society a prostitute is not a first choice for a wife, I need not repeat my reasons. I also left it open for the individual based on their level of emancipation to make that a personal choice. Sorry I have not taken up the technical issues in your discussion but I get paid to do that kind of work and will not spend hours on it just to prove a point. I wonder if that makes me a prostitute. No, not by my definition.
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kaylala (m)
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Kaylala, maybe you should give up that occupation, now that you know what it is  i never said i was one please don't get me wrong or clasify me 
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nferyn (m)
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Hi pendelite,
Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying I personally would advise anybody to choose that career path, but I personally think that we shouldn't look down on it so much, after all there are no real valid reasons to hate the practice so much. Now, as far as acceptance in society goes, maybe Belgium is more tolerant in that regard, but it is still very much a marginal thing in society. It's not going to be accepted as just another job for a long time, if ever.
As to the hypothetical question of me being able to marry to a prostitute, I personally would not let that be an issue in my decision. I know that prostitution correlates with a lot of other social vices, so it would be unlike that I did, but not for that reason.
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naijababe (f)
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i am getting so much kick reading all your responses God men can be soooooooooooooo  can't even find the right word. The fact is anyone who's ever been in love knows that this is not impossible.
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lifexpress (m)
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I believe that a vote count at the onset could have helped, to record average views of marriageable people, but if you truly love this so-called prostitute, perhaps marriage would be a way to help my spouse to make a change. Afterall, marriage is about two people holding and leading one another home to God. As Soul, children of God, we live in this world as though in a prison of the human body. And if you consider the evidence it's obvious how mind, emotion and body, which are the component parts of this prison, can make princes(ses) of heaven live like something else.
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adogho (m)
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this same qustion was asked in vanguard newspaper this month so u people can now see how important this topic is, so the guys can u people?  ??
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Rhodalyn (f)
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if i were to be a man, Yes i Could marry a prostitute!!!!!! it's all aba love, it's humans that mk mistakes!!
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eveseh (f)
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if she change her ways u can,
but u are gonna be afriad when ya friends comes around,
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eveseh (f)
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some man does 
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kellorah (f)
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marry a prozzie,if i was a guy? only if her case was similar to that of rita dominic's in PAINT MY LOVE! then yes
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nosakhare (m)
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 >:(MEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! MARRY A, -FREE GIVER,  -A FIFTH HAND/EXPIRED GOOD,  -A BORE HOLE,  -A PUBLIC TOILET,  -A PUBLIC DOG,  -A VIRTUELESS BULK OF FLESH,  -A MATRASS FOR THE NEEDY,  -A PHILANTHROPIST ,  -A CHEWING GUM BABE,  IS LOVE THAT BLIND?  ???MEN!!! IF IT IS, I'LL PUT ON GLASSES, ME!!! KE!!!!WHEN SHE NO USE JAZZ, SOME PEOPLE DEY TRY,
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kellorah (f)
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aww that's really mean maybe it was her situation that brought about that from PAINT MY LOVE the nigerian movie, i can now understand why some do it and they don't enjoy what they do
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naija_diva (f)
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i guess you can depending on the type person you are. will you have a bad conscience after marrying her. if you will, i guess you can sit and talk with her and just work your way up from there.
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Nameless
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didn't someone in the bible take a protitute as a wife?Go get tested withthe girl and then go from there.
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kike001 (f)
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im in love wit a stipper lol but its no big deal so far she isnt doin it wen she with u
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sweetlove (m)
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This is a very Hard question,As for me I Hate prostitution,and I Hate women who prostitute,I wonder how I will feel sleeping with Her,there is No way I can satisfy such a woman In bed,satisfaction comes first to me.
In Europe many of our brothers here marry to a prostitute,because 95% of our girls here are prostitute and Our Guys here have to choice than to marry them,this leave me single because i don't want to have one,since i am still in Europe,I Hope somedays I can find a Good girl at home.
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windywendy (f)
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Hmmm I wonder why it seems to me that most people who have replied to this thread are assuming that a prostitute automatically refers to a female. There are male prostitutes, both those who do it for free and those who do it for money. What would you all say about a guy who sleeps around indiscriminately with various women? That in my view is also prostitution. Will any woman marry such a guy?  Personally, I won't, but that's just my preference sha. It'll be intriguing to know how many of the guys that have sworn here that they can never marry a prostitute actually have several sex partners 
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kokoletz (m)
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Baba God Save Our Soul from d hands of prostitutes o. Almost all babes are prost, no b 4 my mouth una go hear d remaining.
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greatgeo (m)
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Seun i honestly agree with u cos i don't xpect any normal guy not get married 2 someone who don't share your dreams.more or less ASHA,
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Dalby (m)
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I can, because the devil you know is better than the angel at the corner 
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jojoe2000 (m)
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HELL NO!!!u can take a monkey out of d forest but u cant take d forest out of a monkey.i dont want to give myself headache.so i wont go there
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Dalby (m)
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He that has no sin, let him cast the first stone. We would need to remove the logs from our eyes before removing the spec from the other persons eyes. I still maintain if she has truely changed her ways, why not? Over 90% of the guys that get married do not marry virgins, except i am wrong, the thing no get meter, so where does the fifth hand come in. The seeming angel that you think you have do you really know how far? The difference between that and a girl seeing 5 guys at the same time is just the exchange of money!!! 
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kboy2z (m)
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you can't turn a prostitute into a wife
you can't turn a ho into a husband
Never will i take a prostitute as a wife.
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Odeku (m)
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WHo want marry everywoman girl? as soon as you leave for work, they will be buttering her toast
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opal4real (m)
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Male or Female prositutes?
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CrazyMan (m)
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First who is a prostitute? A prostitute is someone who offers her body indiscriminately for sexual intercourse especially for money. Is that the kind of person i will marry? God forbid. I can never marry a Prostitute. "Never" Don't you know that marriage is all about dignity? the girl you are getting married to must have that dignity and self respect. how would you feel when people refer to you wife as their sex machine?
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cheavroi (m)
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Want to know the opinion of people concering this issue.Can you date a prostitute or even marry one knowing fully well that she is. Secondly has anyone ever consider why people go into prostitution
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soulchild1 (f)
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, to me - I might not be able to marry or date , it is for me like a bad movie leaving a bitter taste in my mouth, Just reminds of the scene in the "the Best Man" when the bridegroom just discovered that his girl cheated on him with his best man and their love scene always crosses his mind in front of the altar. Its definitely difficult to handle esp when you don't want to loose contacts to friends, family members and others. I just think that the society right now is not that matured enough to accept or tolerate something like that. Despite of the fact that it might not be well-regarded in the society, it would also cause me personally some nightmares. Not knowing how many people have had sex with her/him already, once they have this stamp as a prostitute it is hard to get ridd off. Nevertheless I think they still have to be respected, because we might never know what has brought them there.
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