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afterseun (m)
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Sometimes, guys can feel lost when trying to have relationships with shy girls. This article discusses exactly how to make her feel great, and how to make the relationship last.
Steps
Determine what kind of shy your girl is. If the girl is vague and trails off when speaking, she is conversationally shy. If she is outgoing, but never gets past the small talk, she is cover-up shy. You might feel like she is hiding who she really is, when in fact, she may have been hurt in the past and is afraid to open up. If she withdraws when you touch her or becomes more quiet or just changes herself in order to send negative signals, then she is physically shy. Contemplate why she is shy (in whatever way), and then when you decide on a reason, speak to her. Speak to her tenderly, so not to scare her off. Begin with a question, that seeks understanding and does not seem accusatory. Something like, "Why don't you ever talk to me?" is absolutely not appropriate. "(Name), Is there something you need to talk about?" is better. Try to gain her trust. Just because you haven't earned her trust yet, it does not mean she doesn't like you! She does! Remember, she's already going out with you. Have sincere and open conversations. If relationships were games of pinball, these conversations earn you a bonus round. Ease into a physical relationship. You have to move slowly, embracing and honoring her boundaries. Begin with something subtle: tuck her hair behind her ear, hold her hand, slip your arm around her waist.
Tips Be careful and smart, and always honor her wishes Do not feel offended if she doesn't warm up to you immediately, everything takes time. Conversation is key!
Warnings Remember, shy girls are usually emotionally tender, so please, for Pete's sake, be K-I-N-D!
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