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afterseun (m)
How To Have Relationship With A Shy Girl
« on: March 28, 2007, 10:35 AM »


Sometimes, guys can feel lost when trying to have relationships with shy girls. This article discusses exactly how to make her feel great, and how to make the relationship last.

Steps

Determine what kind of shy your girl is.
If the girl is vague and trails off when speaking, she is conversationally shy.
If she is outgoing, but never gets past the small talk, she is cover-up shy. You might feel like she is hiding who she really is, when in fact, she may have been hurt in the past and is afraid to open up.
If she withdraws when you touch her or becomes more quiet or just changes herself in order to send negative signals, then she is physically shy.
Contemplate why she is shy (in whatever way), and then when you decide on a reason, speak to her.
Speak to her tenderly, so not to scare her off. Begin with a question, that seeks understanding and does not seem accusatory. Something like, "Why don't you ever talk to me?" is absolutely not appropriate. "(Name), Is there something you need to talk about?" is better.
Try to gain her trust. Just because you haven't earned her trust yet, it does not mean she doesn't like you! She does! Remember, she's already going out with you.
Have sincere and open conversations. If relationships were games of pinball, these conversations earn you a bonus round.
Ease into a physical relationship. You have to move slowly, embracing and honoring her boundaries. Begin with something subtle: tuck her hair behind her ear, hold her hand, slip your arm around her waist.


Tips
Be careful and smart, and always honor her wishes
Do not feel offended if she doesn't warm up to you immediately, everything takes time.
Conversation is key!

Warnings
Remember, shy girls are usually emotionally tender, so please, for Pete's sake, be K-I-N-D!
Free (f)
Re: How To Have Relationship With A Shy Girl
« #1 on: March 28, 2007, 10:47 PM »

ookay tank U's  Grin Grin
sammyjl (f)
Re: How To Have Relationship With A Shy Girl
« #2 on: June 08, 2007, 03:49 PM »

Nice tips, what about the brothers. Sometimes still waters run deep/dry. The shy ones are usually the freaks in bed
ThoniaSlim (f)
Re: How To Have Relationship With A Shy Girl
« #3 on: June 09, 2007, 03:57 AM »

hhhhmmm, interesting post.  Grin
iice (f)
Re: How To Have Relationship With A Shy Girl
« #4 on: June 09, 2007, 09:12 AM »

Quote from: sammyjl on June 08, 2007, 03:49 PM
Nice tips, what about the brothers. Sometimes still waters run deep/dry. The shy ones are usually the freaks in bed

Indeed!! Grin Grin
Ephramed
Re: How To Have Relationship With A Shy Girl
« #5 on: October 29, 2009, 10:31 PM »

Thanks, cos me too am in this type of situation,only me do the talking sometimes i will be wondering if am a mad man,she is always silent,i will be so annoyed with her i will ask her, do u hear me she will say yes then i will be like ah, Hm,  So now i know 'SHE IS SHY' . will heed to your advice "be k--i--n--d!!"  and again be patient it takes time.
MoneyRule (m)
Re: How To Have Relationship With A Shy Girl
« #6 on: October 29, 2009, 11:31 PM »

Noted. . . .
190 (m)
Re: How To Have Relationship With A Shy Girl
« #7 on: October 30, 2009, 12:42 AM »

Quote from: afterseun on March 28, 2007, 10:35 AM
Sometimes, guys can feel lost when trying to have relationships with shy girls. This article discusses exactly how to make her feel great, and how to make the relationship last.

Steps

Determine what kind of shy your girl is.
If the girl is vague and trails off when speaking, she is conversationally shy.
If she is outgoing, but never gets past the small talk, she is cover-up shy. You might feel like she is hiding who she really is, when in fact, she may have been hurt in the past and is afraid to open up.
If she withdraws when you touch her or becomes more quiet or just changes herself in order to send negative signals, then she is physically shy.
Contemplate why she is shy (in whatever way), and then when you decide on a reason, speak to her.
Speak to her tenderly, so not to scare her off. Begin with a question, that seeks understanding and does not seem accusatory. Something like, "Why don't you ever talk to me?" is absolutely not appropriate. "(Name), Is there something you need to talk about?" is better.
Try to gain her trust. Just because you haven't earned her trust yet, it does not mean she doesn't like you! She does! Remember, she's already going out with you.
Have sincere and open conversations. If relationships were games of pinball, these conversations earn you a bonus round.
Ease into a physical relationship. You have to move slowly, embracing and honoring her boundaries. Begin with something subtle: tuck her hair behind her ear, hold her hand, slip your arm around her waist.


Tips
Be careful and smart, and always honor her wishes
Do not feel offended if she doesn't warm up to you immediately, everything takes time.
Conversation is key!

Warnings
Remember, shy girls are usually emotionally tender, so please, for Pete's sake, be K-I-N-D!



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