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bebee
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hey people,
this is one issue that causes tension between husbands and wives. in this part of the world, it is usually custom to have ones extended family co- habiting with a married couple. the couple at times is left with little or no privacy. it could be from the lady's part or the man's part. hey, air your views.
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hot-angel (f)
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As im hoping and praying and sure that me and my husband will be financially blessed. No in-law is gon live with us. I'll get them their own place if they don't have one.
Where were they living before we got married? they should go and live there jare.
Seriously, i don't think i will be able to stand any in-law drama in my home.
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IAH (f)
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I don't think I would love to stay with in-laws too. They should go and live where they were living before my husband and I got married.
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Oracle (m)
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yeah itz not advisable because problems u never expected would arise
very serious problems
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christyne (f)
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Na me and my hussy alone o, i no want disturbance abeg.
One can't predict wats going to happen d next min so i'D rather not allow any in - law moreover ds would have been settled by I & my hussy before marriage.
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kellygirl (f)
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where them dey when we never marry? them them craze.
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alheri (f)
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Bring it on! Am equal to the task, mother-in-law, sister- in-law or both. I can handle them,hands down, no shaking! I am lethal myself  |
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bebee
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hey, lets view it from this angle. what if before u got married, your sister-inlaw was living with your husband, u got married, had a baby.your mother was indisposed,she couldnt make it for the "omugwo". your mother in-law decides to come. she comes and stays 4 a month, 2, 3 ,4. and all this time ,u could never do any good in her eyes, her daughter on 1 side is giving u hassles. then news came that her house got razed and all her belongins gone save for what she came with.what do u suggest happen to her and her daughter? who is the lesser devil?
more views expected
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alheri (f)
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Well, since they are now homeless I will definately let them stay with me. But on my terms! They must all earn their keep. If I have a house help, I'll let her go cause my sis-in-law will take over her duties. My mother -in-law of cause will have the job of a nanny(will save me money on daycare). Honestly, in-laws only take a mile when you let them. I let mine realise from the begining that I was no mumu and since they know my background and know that its not like am coming from the ghetto, the recognise and I on my own will always represent!
Dont get me wrong, I have never had any quarrel or problems with my in-laws. I stayed with my in-laws for over a year cause my husband was always travelling at one time. But throughout that time, I made them understand that noone can boss me around. My husband believes that as long as am not rude and disrespectful, I should carry go!
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cheekee (f)
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they both suuuck.if they come live in my house then it's under my set of rules and regulations!!!whether they like it or like it not!!!!
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christyne (f)
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Though its not really right for someone to become a mugu in this case but at the same time,one needs to be patient.I can only do all what u're saying if only my in - laws are too stubborn and wicked.Its not all in - laws that are bad so i wont say anything as i even pray i have a nice in - law when the time comes.
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eveseh (f)
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u are right  |
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bolex (m)
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The best i can is accomodate kids from the family for some reasons For ma mother or sister in law to live with me Maybe ma wife is pregnant or they are on visit Any other thing plllleeaasseeee not even ma family would live with me Thanx jare hot-angel I was about to say i would get them their own place & pay 6 months rent Let them carry on from there GOD BLESS US ALL FINANCIALLY
AMEN |
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bolex (m)
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By the way , your freedom would be limited if you have extrenal bodies living with you Don't you want to have s*x all round the house In the sitting room On the couch  In the bathroom  They would even start sniffing thoughts into ma wife's brains NOOOOOOOAm sorry , you can't live with me Not for more than 1 year |
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babymine (f)
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None of them should come live with us, they can visit sha. |
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ThoniaSlim (f)
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They can come visit but please they would go after visiting.  |
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omogenaija (f)
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both are lethal  which one can live with me ? family members and friends including mine can only vist 2 twice a year and has to say in a hotel if its more than 3 days |
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michelin89 (f)
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I hate any -inlaw thingy- they had better stay away from me!
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amaikama (m)
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i can stand mother-in-law but can't stand sister-in-law. they are devil incarnate. |
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oyinmama (f)
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Hi, to put a mild twist to this thread, wot of a situation, where mum in law is ill, comes to the city to stay & receive treatment, only to stay on, wheneva there's talk of her going home, she falls "ill" again, the hubby not saying nothing bout it, afterall, "she,s my mum who suffered to get me where i am today".
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OpeLovely (f)
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Is it even right that they should live with you? Visiting from time to time to see the kids, son/brother, visiting for visiting sake and maybe to spend three days or a week at most is ideal by me. But to live? That's a recipe for disaster.
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stillwater (f)
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They can come and live with me for holidays only, especially if I live in a very big house where I don't have to bump into them always ( I love my space). Actually it depends on the character of the in laws, if they are the kind that would turn Stillwater into turbulent waters, then I'm sorry you can't live with me. Please don't overstay your welcome anytime you are on holidays, thank you.  |
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banni
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Well if you watch too many nollywood movies then yes you will not want your in-laws to stay with you.
But if you get to know and talk with your in-laws majority of the time you wil find them easy to get along with and they will respect your privacy as much as possible.
Afterall your bedroom is your own and if i had a child married i be happy if they are constantly at it at night .I want grandchild !
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